18-year-old DD doesn’t think she has to listen to us anymore

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You raised your child in a manner that made her want to run as soon as possible. And your first thought is more rules and chores.

Oh look. It's DD.

She doesn't have to follow your rules. And you don't have to provide a home or financial support since she's an adult now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You raised your child in a manner that made her want to run as soon as possible. And your first thought is more rules and chores.

Oh look. It's DD.

She doesn't have to follow your rules. And you don't have to provide a home or financial support since she's an adult now.

The level of immaturity on both sides here is truly ironic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A curfew for a legal adult is ridiculous.

An 18 year old in high school is not an adult.

Except, in the eyes of the law they are an adult.

Work to change the law if you disagree.

All the people who want to red shirt their kids so desperately should be reading this. Imagine dealing with a 19 year old senior in high school!

Agree! There is a big jump between 18-19

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A curfew for a legal adult is ridiculous.

An 18 year old in high school is not an adult.

Except, in the eyes of the law they are an adult.

Work to change the law if you disagree.

All the people who want to red shirt their kids so desperately should be reading this. Imagine dealing with a 19 year old senior in high school!

Just stop with this. My kid turns 18 in October of senior year. He wasn’t red-shirted but he’ll be a legal adult nearly the entire year anyway. We have a good relationship and don’t anticipate this kind of drama. But who knows!

So grateful I sent my child to school at the normal time. He'll turn 18 in the spring of his senior year like normal.

OP's kid was not redshirted. OP said she just turned 18 in January. A kid who turned 18 in January should be a senior in high schoool everywhere in the US.

[Anonymous]

I feel sorry for families that have this kind of problems. I hope things become better for them and they all make good choices.

[Anonymous]

I would give in on curfew. She tells you where she is and when she will be home, you don’t approve anything, just know do safety purposes. She does have chores, but make them ones that don’t happen each day, plus some when she’s around (eg, all kids clean up after dinner or whatever). I know it’s hard but give up on the curfew completely.

If she’s getting a scholarship, seems like she has a decent head on her shoulders. Give her some space to save your relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for families that have this kind of problems. I hope things become better for them and they all make good choices.

Jeff recently created a new sub-forum called “Adult Children” just for discussion of the apparently widespread problems this group manifests.

OP is certainly not alone.

[Anonymous]

If the daughter's friend works to have money for groceries, etc, what is the daughter going to do? Mooch?