Divorce when kids go to college?

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Really? At one point I was paying $2,100/mo in Maryland. So a year's tuition at UVA was being paid in CS by me.

If your kid was a MD resident, $2100 is not even close to enough to cover a year of college at UVA. Also, many parents pay for college and still cover their kids’ other expenses (college is only 8 months a year) - paying cs is the bare minimum for a parent.

Exactly - UVA is what, 30k/year? The guy is a jerk. It's the parent with most assets (not the one who cheated) should pay. Children are not guilty for their mother or father cheating. But it's usually cheating dads who think CS is all they owe to kids

Any woman who considers having kids should have minimum expectations from men and rely only on her financials for kids' college. That's the unfortunate truth. My exH is a millionaire, he doesn't want even to pay $50 for private lessons couple times a month for our special needs child. I pay

If one is paying child support that covers their obligation. The receiving parent can choose to use the money for the child or themselves as their is no accountability. $30k a year covers a state school. If child and mom choose differently mom can cover costs or child can take loans. That is post tax money for dad. Moms often cheat and don’t use the money on the kids.

If pp is getting child support, private lessons are included in child support or use your income.

No CS covers only the child's living expenses (which include the mom's 50% of mortgage, food and clothing). It does not include college: parents should agree separately on this additional financial obligation when getting divorced, if they care for kids. You basically waive any obligation on your part for your child's college obligation. I feel sorry for the woman who married you and birthed your kids: you are irresponsible jerk. SUch guys don't pay even when they cheat. And how a parent cheating even relate to kids future? I can see why she left you.

No it is not 50% of mortgage and it covers that parents share of full expenses. If you get child support and your kid is away at college that money is for them not your mortgage.

In most states child support is over at 18. Just like married parents there is no requirement to pay for college.

While the child still resides with parent the mortgage is absolutely counted in. Kids when in college also reside with parents 4 months out of 12, parents also have right to use CS for any of kid living expenses including avia tickets to college. CS is for the child but it’s sent to parent who can decide the direction how it’s spent it. An honest parent would count in 50% of mortgage and all living expenses for the months child spent at home, air fare to college abs any child independent travel, transfer the rest to university for rent. It won’t be enough for tuition in 90% cases

No that is not an honest accounting. If any CS is received when your kid is at college, a decent parent would apply ALL of it (100%) to college costs (tuition, room, board, expenses, travel).

Charging your kid a fraction of the mortgage and living expenses when they're home from college, GTFO with that nonsense. That's just you trying to chisel more money out of your ex. You are a disgusting human being if you do that.

The ex who is making a lot should be paying extra from his pocket, not try to divert CS legit expenses from mother of his child, if she's much lower paid. That is what disgusting.

Once your kid is in college, you don’t have any legit CS expenses, you should apply it all to your child’s education.

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Really? At one point I was paying $2,100/mo in Maryland. So a year's tuition at UVA was being paid in CS by me.

If your kid was a MD resident, $2100 is not even close to enough to cover a year of college at UVA. Also, many parents pay for college and still cover their kids’ other expenses (college is only 8 months a year) - paying cs is the bare minimum for a parent.

Exactly - UVA is what, 30k/year? The guy is a jerk. It's the parent with most assets (not the one who cheated) should pay. Children are not guilty for their mother or father cheating. But it's usually cheating dads who think CS is all they owe to kids

Any woman who considers having kids should have minimum expectations from men and rely only on her financials for kids' college. That's the unfortunate truth. My exH is a millionaire, he doesn't want even to pay $50 for private lessons couple times a month for our special needs child. I pay

If one is paying child support that covers their obligation. The receiving parent can choose to use the money for the child or themselves as their is no accountability. $30k a year covers a state school. If child and mom choose differently mom can cover costs or child can take loans. That is post tax money for dad. Moms often cheat and don’t use the money on the kids.

If pp is getting child support, private lessons are included in child support or use your income.

No CS covers only the child's living expenses (which include the mom's 50% of mortgage, food and clothing). It does not include college: parents should agree separately on this additional financial obligation when getting divorced, if they care for kids. You basically waive any obligation on your part for your child's college obligation. I feel sorry for the woman who married you and birthed your kids: you are irresponsible jerk. SUch guys don't pay even when they cheat. And how a parent cheating even relate to kids future? I can see why she left you.

No it is not 50% of mortgage and it covers that parents share of full expenses. If you get child support and your kid is away at college that money is for them not your mortgage.

In most states child support is over at 18. Just like married parents there is no requirement to pay for college.

While the child still resides with parent the mortgage is absolutely counted in. Kids when in college also reside with parents 4 months out of 12, parents also have right to use CS for any of kid living expenses including avia tickets to college. CS is for the child but it’s sent to parent who can decide the direction how it’s spent it. An honest parent would count in 50% of mortgage and all living expenses for the months child spent at home, air fare to college abs any child independent travel, transfer the rest to university for rent. It won’t be enough for tuition in 90% cases

Actually it’s not. It is a percentage of dads income. Child can go sta6 with dad. Child is not a roommate. It does not cost 50% for child. When child moves out, then what?

You're not reading, when the child moves out of course mortgage of a parent is not paid from CS. When the child resides with the parent, it's totally legit to do so. In fact, I advise my child to remain at my house until age 21 while in college, to save both on mortgage and his college living expenses. Maryland CS expenses charts all include rent/mortgage and 50% of it for the 50% the child resides with parent is the "child" expense/need that is taken into account when determining CS. Children don't get free housing, you know.

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Really? At one point I was paying $2,100/mo in Maryland. So a year's tuition at UVA was being paid in CS by me.

If your kid was a MD resident, $2100 is not even close to enough to cover a year of college at UVA. Also, many parents pay for college and still cover their kids’ other expenses (college is only 8 months a year) - paying cs is the bare minimum for a parent.

Exactly - UVA is what, 30k/year? The guy is a jerk. It's the parent with most assets (not the one who cheated) should pay. Children are not guilty for their mother or father cheating. But it's usually cheating dads who think CS is all they owe to kids

Any woman who considers having kids should have minimum expectations from men and rely only on her financials for kids' college. That's the unfortunate truth. My exH is a millionaire, he doesn't want even to pay $50 for private lessons couple times a month for our special needs child. I pay

If one is paying child support that covers their obligation. The receiving parent can choose to use the money for the child or themselves as their is no accountability. $30k a year covers a state school. If child and mom choose differently mom can cover costs or child can take loans. That is post tax money for dad. Moms often cheat and don’t use the money on the kids.

If pp is getting child support, private lessons are included in child support or use your income.

No CS covers only the child's living expenses (which include the mom's 50% of mortgage, food and clothing). It does not include college: parents should agree separately on this additional financial obligation when getting divorced, if they care for kids. You basically waive any obligation on your part for your child's college obligation. I feel sorry for the woman who married you and birthed your kids: you are irresponsible jerk. SUch guys don't pay even when they cheat. And how a parent cheating even relate to kids future? I can see why she left you.

No it is not 50% of mortgage and it covers that parents share of full expenses. If you get child support and your kid is away at college that money is for them not your mortgage.

In most states child support is over at 18. Just like married parents there is no requirement to pay for college.

While the child still resides with parent the mortgage is absolutely counted in. Kids when in college also reside with parents 4 months out of 12, parents also have right to use CS for any of kid living expenses including avia tickets to college. CS is for the child but it’s sent to parent who can decide the direction how it’s spent it. An honest parent would count in 50% of mortgage and all living expenses for the months child spent at home, air fare to college abs any child independent travel, transfer the rest to university for rent. It won’t be enough for tuition in 90% cases

Actually it’s not. It is a percentage of dads income. Child can go sta6 with dad. Child is not a roommate. It does not cost 50% for child. When child moves out, then what?

You're not reading, when the child moves out of course mortgage of a parent is not paid from CS. When the child resides with the parent, it's totally legit to do so. In fact, I advise my child to remain at my house until age 21 while in college, to save both on mortgage and his college living expenses. Maryland CS expenses charts all include rent/mortgage and 50% of it for the 50% the child resides with parent is the "child" expense/need that is taken into account when determining CS. Children don't get free housing, you know.

So you’re depriving him of a regular college experience so you can get mortgage payments. You are slimy.

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Really? At one point I was paying $2,100/mo in Maryland. So a year's tuition at UVA was being paid in CS by me.

If your kid was a MD resident, $2100 is not even close to enough to cover a year of college at UVA. Also, many parents pay for college and still cover their kids’ other expenses (college is only 8 months a year) - paying cs is the bare minimum for a parent.

Exactly - UVA is what, 30k/year? The guy is a jerk. It's the parent with most assets (not the one who cheated) should pay. Children are not guilty for their mother or father cheating. But it's usually cheating dads who think CS is all they owe to kids

Any woman who considers having kids should have minimum expectations from men and rely only on her financials for kids' college. That's the unfortunate truth. My exH is a millionaire, he doesn't want even to pay $50 for private lessons couple times a month for our special needs child. I pay

If one is paying child support that covers their obligation. The receiving parent can choose to use the money for the child or themselves as their is no accountability. $30k a year covers a state school. If child and mom choose differently mom can cover costs or child can take loans. That is post tax money for dad. Moms often cheat and don’t use the money on the kids.

If pp is getting child support, private lessons are included in child support or use your income.

No CS covers only the child's living expenses (which include the mom's 50% of mortgage, food and clothing). It does not include college: parents should agree separately on this additional financial obligation when getting divorced, if they care for kids. You basically waive any obligation on your part for your child's college obligation. I feel sorry for the woman who married you and birthed your kids: you are irresponsible jerk. SUch guys don't pay even when they cheat. And how a parent cheating even relate to kids future? I can see why she left you.

No it is not 50% of mortgage and it covers that parents share of full expenses. If you get child support and your kid is away at college that money is for them not your mortgage.

In most states child support is over at 18. Just like married parents there is no requirement to pay for college.

While the child still resides with parent the mortgage is absolutely counted in. Kids when in college also reside with parents 4 months out of 12, parents also have right to use CS for any of kid living expenses including avia tickets to college. CS is for the child but it’s sent to parent who can decide the direction how it’s spent it. An honest parent would count in 50% of mortgage and all living expenses for the months child spent at home, air fare to college abs any child independent travel, transfer the rest to university for rent. It won’t be enough for tuition in 90% cases

Actually it’s not. It is a percentage of dads income. Child can go sta6 with dad. Child is not a roommate. It does not cost 50% for child. When child moves out, then what?

You're not reading, when the child moves out of course mortgage of a parent is not paid from CS. When the child resides with the parent, it's totally legit to do so. In fact, I advise my child to remain at my house until age 21 while in college, to save both on mortgage and his college living expenses. Maryland CS expenses charts all include rent/mortgage and 50% of it for the 50% the child resides with parent is the "child" expense/need that is taken into account when determining CS. Children don't get free housing, you know.

So you’re depriving him of a regular college experience so you can get mortgage payments. You are slimy.

Really horrible to take your child’s money for your needs. It is not half. You are greedy and justifying your terrible behavior. That money should be going to your child, not you. Kid should go live with dad.

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Really? At one point I was paying $2,100/mo in Maryland. So a year's tuition at UVA was being paid in CS by me.

If your kid was a MD resident, $2100 is not even close to enough to cover a year of college at UVA. Also, many parents pay for college and still cover their kids’ other expenses (college is only 8 months a year) - paying cs is the bare minimum for a parent.

Exactly - UVA is what, 30k/year? The guy is a jerk. It's the parent with most assets (not the one who cheated) should pay. Children are not guilty for their mother or father cheating. But it's usually cheating dads who think CS is all they owe to kids

Any woman who considers having kids should have minimum expectations from men and rely only on her financials for kids' college. That's the unfortunate truth. My exH is a millionaire, he doesn't want even to pay $50 for private lessons couple times a month for our special needs child. I pay

If one is paying child support that covers their obligation. The receiving parent can choose to use the money for the child or themselves as their is no accountability. $30k a year covers a state school. If child and mom choose differently mom can cover costs or child can take loans. That is post tax money for dad. Moms often cheat and don’t use the money on the kids.

If pp is getting child support, private lessons are included in child support or use your income.

No CS covers only the child's living expenses (which include the mom's 50% of mortgage, food and clothing). It does not include college: parents should agree separately on this additional financial obligation when getting divorced, if they care for kids. You basically waive any obligation on your part for your child's college obligation. I feel sorry for the woman who married you and birthed your kids: you are irresponsible jerk. SUch guys don't pay even when they cheat. And how a parent cheating even relate to kids future? I can see why she left you.

No it is not 50% of mortgage and it covers that parents share of full expenses. If you get child support and your kid is away at college that money is for them not your mortgage.

In most states child support is over at 18. Just like married parents there is no requirement to pay for college.

While the child still resides with parent the mortgage is absolutely counted in. Kids when in college also reside with parents 4 months out of 12, parents also have right to use CS for any of kid living expenses including avia tickets to college. CS is for the child but it’s sent to parent who can decide the direction how it’s spent it. An honest parent would count in 50% of mortgage and all living expenses for the months child spent at home, air fare to college abs any child independent travel, transfer the rest to university for rent. It won’t be enough for tuition in 90% cases

Actually it’s not. It is a percentage of dads income. Child can go sta6 with dad. Child is not a roommate. It does not cost 50% for child. When child moves out, then what?

You're not reading, when the child moves out of course mortgage of a parent is not paid from CS. When the child resides with the parent, it's totally legit to do so. In fact, I advise my child to remain at my house until age 21 while in college, to save both on mortgage and his college living expenses. Maryland CS expenses charts all include rent/mortgage and 50% of it for the 50% the child resides with parent is the "child" expense/need that is taken into account when determining CS. Children don't get free housing, you know.

In md, child support ends at age 18. There is no accountability on how it is spent so you can do as you choose but that money after 18 should go to the child’s needs and not your mortgage. You should also be contributing to your child’s needs.

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Anonymous wrote:How would that be different from staying married? Its parent's choice to pay. You can always pay.

For whatever reason, divorced dads are statistically less likely to pay for their kids' college than married ones.

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Anonymous wrote:How would that be different from staying married? Its parent's choice to pay. You can always pay.

For whatever reason, divorced dads are statistically less likely to pay for their kids' college than married ones.

Well this divorced dad is paying 100% of his kids college costs so your statistics can eff off.

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Anonymous wrote:How would that be different from staying married? Its parent's choice to pay. You can always pay.

For whatever reason, divorced dads are statistically less likely to pay for their kids' college than married ones.

Well this divorced dad is paying 100% of his kids college costs so your statistics can eff off.

As is this one. Statistically speaking both parents are less likely to pay for their kids' college because of the expense of maintaining two separate households.

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Anonymous wrote:How would that be different from staying married? Its parent's choice to pay. You can always pay.

For whatever reason, divorced dads are statistically less likely to pay for their kids' college than married ones.

Well this divorced dad is paying 100% of his kids college costs so your statistics can eff off.

As is this one. Statistically speaking both parents are less likely to pay for their kids' college because of the expense of maintaining two separate households.

This is true. I had all intentions of paying for college fully but now may just be able to afford tuition for them. Dad is paying nothing and pays the bare minimum now leaving me broke and having to pull from retirement savings even before college.

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Really? At one point I was paying $2,100/mo in Maryland. So a year's tuition at UVA was being paid in CS by me.

If your kid was a MD resident, $2100 is not even close to enough to cover a year of college at UVA. Also, many parents pay for college and still cover their kids’ other expenses (college is only 8 months a year) - paying cs is the bare minimum for a parent.

Exactly - UVA is what, 30k/year? The guy is a jerk. It's the parent with most assets (not the one who cheated) should pay. Children are not guilty for their mother or father cheating. But it's usually cheating dads who think CS is all they owe to kids

Any woman who considers having kids should have minimum expectations from men and rely only on her financials for kids' college. That's the unfortunate truth. My exH is a millionaire, he doesn't want even to pay $50 for private lessons couple times a month for our special needs child. I pay

If one is paying child support that covers their obligation. The receiving parent can choose to use the money for the child or themselves as their is no accountability. $30k a year covers a state school. If child and mom choose differently mom can cover costs or child can take loans. That is post tax money for dad. Moms often cheat and don’t use the money on the kids.

If pp is getting child support, private lessons are included in child support or use your income.

No CS covers only the child's living expenses (which include the mom's 50% of mortgage, food and clothing). It does not include college: parents should agree separately on this additional financial obligation when getting divorced, if they care for kids. You basically waive any obligation on your part for your child's college obligation. I feel sorry for the woman who married you and birthed your kids: you are irresponsible jerk. SUch guys don't pay even when they cheat. And how a parent cheating even relate to kids future? I can see why she left you.

No it is not 50% of mortgage and it covers that parents share of full expenses. If you get child support and your kid is away at college that money is for them not your mortgage.

In most states child support is over at 18. Just like married parents there is no requirement to pay for college.

While the child still resides with parent the mortgage is absolutely counted in. Kids when in college also reside with parents 4 months out of 12, parents also have right to use CS for any of kid living expenses including avia tickets to college. CS is for the child but it’s sent to parent who can decide the direction how it’s spent it. An honest parent would count in 50% of mortgage and all living expenses for the months child spent at home, air fare to college abs any child independent travel, transfer the rest to university for rent. It won’t be enough for tuition in 90% cases

Actually it’s not. It is a percentage of dads income. Child can go sta6 with dad. Child is not a roommate. It does not cost 50% for child. When child moves out, then what?

You're not reading, when the child moves out of course mortgage of a parent is not paid from CS. When the child resides with the parent, it's totally legit to do so. In fact, I advise my child to remain at my house until age 21 while in college, to save both on mortgage and his college living expenses. Maryland CS expenses charts all include rent/mortgage and 50% of it for the 50% the child resides with parent is the "child" expense/need that is taken into account when determining CS. Children don't get free housing, you know.

So you’re depriving him of a regular college experience so you can get mortgage payments. You are slimy.

Really horrible to take your child’s money for your needs. It is not half. You are greedy and justifying your terrible behavior. That money should be going to your child, not you. Kid should go live with dad.

Kid doesn’t want to live with dad. As of now I pay for all major expenses. What I am saying is that even when in college kids do share to some extend same household with parent they are more close with. Thus dads complaining that mom spent some of CS on child clothing, avia fare, her mortgage (I am not saying 100%) instead of sending it to college tuition are wrong. These dads if they make more should be paying more towards college . My CS is $1000/month it’s not enough for anything in college regardless

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Really? At one point I was paying $2,100/mo in Maryland. So a year's tuition at UVA was being paid in CS by me.

If your kid was a MD resident, $2100 is not even close to enough to cover a year of college at UVA. Also, many parents pay for college and still cover their kids’ other expenses (college is only 8 months a year) - paying cs is the bare minimum for a parent.

Exactly - UVA is what, 30k/year? The guy is a jerk. It's the parent with most assets (not the one who cheated) should pay. Children are not guilty for their mother or father cheating. But it's usually cheating dads who think CS is all they owe to kids

Any woman who considers having kids should have minimum expectations from men and rely only on her financials for kids' college. That's the unfortunate truth. My exH is a millionaire, he doesn't want even to pay $50 for private lessons couple times a month for our special needs child. I pay

If one is paying child support that covers their obligation. The receiving parent can choose to use the money for the child or themselves as their is no accountability. $30k a year covers a state school. If child and mom choose differently mom can cover costs or child can take loans. That is post tax money for dad. Moms often cheat and don’t use the money on the kids.

If pp is getting child support, private lessons are included in child support or use your income.

No CS covers only the child's living expenses (which include the mom's 50% of mortgage, food and clothing). It does not include college: parents should agree separately on this additional financial obligation when getting divorced, if they care for kids. You basically waive any obligation on your part for your child's college obligation. I feel sorry for the woman who married you and birthed your kids: you are irresponsible jerk. SUch guys don't pay even when they cheat. And how a parent cheating even relate to kids future? I can see why she left you.

No it is not 50% of mortgage and it covers that parents share of full expenses. If you get child support and your kid is away at college that money is for them not your mortgage.

In most states child support is over at 18. Just like married parents there is no requirement to pay for college.

While the child still resides with parent the mortgage is absolutely counted in. Kids when in college also reside with parents 4 months out of 12, parents also have right to use CS for any of kid living expenses including avia tickets to college. CS is for the child but it’s sent to parent who can decide the direction how it’s spent it. An honest parent would count in 50% of mortgage and all living expenses for the months child spent at home, air fare to college abs any child independent travel, transfer the rest to university for rent. It won’t be enough for tuition in 90% cases

Actually it’s not. It is a percentage of dads income. Child can go sta6 with dad. Child is not a roommate. It does not cost 50% for child. When child moves out, then what?

You're not reading, when the child moves out of course mortgage of a parent is not paid from CS. When the child resides with the parent, it's totally legit to do so. In fact, I advise my child to remain at my house until age 21 while in college, to save both on mortgage and his college living expenses. Maryland CS expenses charts all include rent/mortgage and 50% of it for the 50% the child resides with parent is the "child" expense/need that is taken into account when determining CS. Children don't get free housing, you know.

So you’re depriving him of a regular college experience so you can get mortgage payments. You are slimy.

Really horrible to take your child’s money for your needs. It is not half. You are greedy and justifying your terrible behavior. That money should be going to your child, not you. Kid should go live with dad.

Kid doesn’t want to live with dad. As of now I pay for all major expenses. What I am saying is that even when in college kids do share to some extend same household with parent they are more close with. Thus dads complaining that mom spent some of CS on child clothing, avia fare, her mortgage (I am not saying 100%) instead of sending it to college tuition are wrong. These dads if they make more should be paying more towards college . My CS is $1000/month it’s not enough for anything in college regardless

The problem is that these dads are paying more for college than the mom AND are also sending CS to the mom to spend as she pleases. That CS money should go 100% to the kids college.

It is absolute BS that the mom spends any CS on her mortgage after the kids go to college. If she can afford that mortgage for the 9 months when the kids are away at school then she does not need it when the kids are home for the summer.

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Go to court if you don’t like your CS or whatever agreements.

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Anonymous wrote:The obsession about college here is ridiculous. Your kids going to college and how to pay for it should not be relevant in your divorce. If you’re thinking about divorce, get divorced. Don’t wait for the kids to get out of college. A lot of people do that but it doesn’t actually serve a purpose.

Should not be relevant, but in actual practice, is relevant.

Very common for parents to use "who pays for college" as a weapon in their war against each other.

My XH has the attitude that I should pay for all of it, and is very clearly thinking that he can play chicken with me over it - "I'm not gonna pay anything, so either you can pay for all of it or you can saddle the kids with huge debt which you don't want to do, up to you."

Can you imagine growing up in this boxing ring?
You are imposing that on your child.

Don't make this a financial calculation. Think about your kid's mental health.

You cannot control your spouse's actions. But your actions are resulting in a child having to grow up embedded in this dysfunctional excuse for a marriage. That is damaging them far more than any student loan would.

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Really? At one point I was paying $2,100/mo in Maryland. So a year's tuition at UVA was being paid in CS by me.

If your kid was a MD resident, $2100 is not even close to enough to cover a year of college at UVA. Also, many parents pay for college and still cover their kids’ other expenses (college is only 8 months a year) - paying cs is the bare minimum for a parent.

Exactly - UVA is what, 30k/year? The guy is a jerk. It's the parent with most assets (not the one who cheated) should pay. Children are not guilty for their mother or father cheating. But it's usually cheating dads who think CS is all they owe to kids

Any woman who considers having kids should have minimum expectations from men and rely only on her financials for kids' college. That's the unfortunate truth. My exH is a millionaire, he doesn't want even to pay $50 for private lessons couple times a month for our special needs child. I pay

If one is paying child support that covers their obligation. The receiving parent can choose to use the money for the child or themselves as their is no accountability. $30k a year covers a state school. If child and mom choose differently mom can cover costs or child can take loans. That is post tax money for dad. Moms often cheat and don’t use the money on the kids.

If pp is getting child support, private lessons are included in child support or use your income.

No CS covers only the child's living expenses (which include the mom's 50% of mortgage, food and clothing). It does not include college: parents should agree separately on this additional financial obligation when getting divorced, if they care for kids. You basically waive any obligation on your part for your child's college obligation. I feel sorry for the woman who married you and birthed your kids: you are irresponsible jerk. SUch guys don't pay even when they cheat. And how a parent cheating even relate to kids future? I can see why she left you.

No it is not 50% of mortgage and it covers that parents share of full expenses. If you get child support and your kid is away at college that money is for them not your mortgage.

In most states child support is over at 18. Just like married parents there is no requirement to pay for college.

While the child still resides with parent the mortgage is absolutely counted in. Kids when in college also reside with parents 4 months out of 12, parents also have right to use CS for any of kid living expenses including avia tickets to college. CS is for the child but it’s sent to parent who can decide the direction how it’s spent it. An honest parent would count in 50% of mortgage and all living expenses for the months child spent at home, air fare to college abs any child independent travel, transfer the rest to university for rent. It won’t be enough for tuition in 90% cases

Actually it’s not. It is a percentage of dads income. Child can go sta6 with dad. Child is not a roommate. It does not cost 50% for child. When child moves out, then what?

You're not reading, when the child moves out of course mortgage of a parent is not paid from CS. When the child resides with the parent, it's totally legit to do so. In fact, I advise my child to remain at my house until age 21 while in college, to save both on mortgage and his college living expenses. Maryland CS expenses charts all include rent/mortgage and 50% of it for the 50% the child resides with parent is the "child" expense/need that is taken into account when determining CS. Children don't get free housing, you know.

So you’re depriving him of a regular college experience so you can get mortgage payments. You are slimy.

Really horrible to take your child’s money for your needs. It is not half. You are greedy and justifying your terrible behavior. That money should be going to your child, not you. Kid should go live with dad.

Kid doesn’t want to live with dad. As of now I pay for all major expenses. What I am saying is that even when in college kids do share to some extend same household with parent they are more close with. Thus dads complaining that mom spent some of CS on child clothing, avia fare, her mortgage (I am not saying 100%) instead of sending it to college tuition are wrong. These dads if they make more should be paying more towards college . My CS is $1000/month it’s not enough for anything in college regardless

The problem is that these dads are paying more for college than the mom AND are also sending CS to the mom to spend as she pleases. That CS money should go 100% to the kids college.

It is absolute BS that the mom spends any CS on her mortgage after the kids go to college. If she can afford that mortgage for the 9 months when the kids are away at school then she does not need it when the kids are home for the summer.

NO that dad above pays $2100/month which is not sufficient for a good US college and he thinks this exhausts his college obligations. A good dad won't count his peanut CS at all and just pay for college if he's paid more than mom. If mom is making 70k and he's making 300K, he should pay for college no questions asked. Any decent guy would do that. No what they do is shifting college to kids or low paid mother pretending like CS would solve the issue. It wont as CS didn't include college expenses into consideration. It was for the child while the child resides with custodian parents

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Anonymous wrote:Go to court if you don’t like your CS or whatever agreements.

Yes, that's exactly what jerk dads tell instead of paying for college