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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] Really? At one point I was paying $2,100/mo in Maryland. So a year's tuition at UVA was being paid in CS by me.[/quote]

If your kid was a MD resident, $2100 is not even close to enough to cover a year of college at UVA.  Also, many parents pay for college and still cover their kids’ other expenses (college is only 8 months a year) - paying cs is the bare minimum for a parent.[/quote]

Exactly - UVA is what, 30k/year? The guy is a jerk. It's the parent with most assets (not the one who cheated) should pay. Children are not guilty for their mother or father cheating. But it's usually cheating dads who think CS is all they owe to kids

Any woman who considers having kids should have minimum expectations from men and rely only on her financials for kids' college. That's the unfortunate truth. My exH is a millionaire, he  doesn't want even to pay $50 for private lessons couple times a month for our special needs child. I pay[/quote]

If one is paying child support that covers their obligation.  The receiving parent can choose to use the money for the child or themselves as their is no accountability.  $30k a year covers a state school. If child and mom choose differently mom can cover costs or child can take loans.  That is post  tax money for dad.  Moms often cheat and don’t use the money on the kids.

If pp is getting child support, private lessons are included in child support or use your income.  [/quote]

No CS covers only the child's living expenses (which  include the mom's 50% of mortgage, food and clothing). It does not include college: parents should agree separately on this additional financial obligation when getting divorced, if they care for kids. You basically waive any obligation on your part for your child's college obligation. I feel sorry for the woman who married you and birthed your kids: you are irresponsible jerk. SUch guys don't pay even when they cheat. And how a parent cheating even relate to kids future? I can see why she left you.[/quote]

No it is not 50% of mortgage and it covers that parents share of full expenses.  If you get child support and your kid is away at college that money is for them not your mortgage.

In most states child support is over at 18.  Just like married parents there is no requirement to pay for college. [/quote]

While the child still resides with parent the mortgage is absolutely counted in. Kids when in college also reside with parents 4 months out of 12, parents also have right to use CS for any of kid living expenses including avia tickets to college. CS is for the child but it’s sent to parent who can decide the direction how it’s spent it. An honest parent would count in 50% of mortgage and all living expenses for the months child spent at home, air fare to college abs any child independent travel, transfer the rest to university for rent. It won’t be enough for tuition in 90% cases  [/quote]

Actually it’s not. It is a percentage of dads income.  Child can go sta6 with dad.  Child is not a roommate.  It does not cost 50% for child.  When child moves out, then what?

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You're not reading, when the child moves out of course mortgage of a parent is not paid from CS. When the child resides with the parent, it's totally legit to do so. In fact, I advise my child to remain at my house until age 21 while in college, to save both on mortgage and his college living expenses. Maryland CS expenses charts all include rent/mortgage and 50% of it for the 50% the child resides with parent is the "child" expense/need that is taken into account when determining CS. Children don't get free housing, you know. [/quote]

So you’re depriving him of a regular college experience so you can get mortgage payments. You are slimy. [/quote]

Really horrible to take your child’s money for your needs.   It is not half.  You are greedy and justifying your terrible behavior.   That money should be going to your child, not you.  Kid should go live with dad.  [/quote]

Kid doesn’t want to live with dad. As of now I pay for all major expenses. What I am saying is that even when in college kids do share to some extend same household with parent they are more close with. Thus dads complaining that mom spent some of CS on child clothing, avia fare, her mortgage (I am not saying 100%)  instead of sending it to college tuition are wrong. These dads if they make more should be paying more towards college . My CS is $1000/month it’s not enough for anything in college regardless [/quote]

The problem is that these dads are paying more for college than the mom AND are also sending CS to the mom to spend as she pleases. That CS money should go 100% to the kids college.

It is absolute BS that the mom spends any CS on her mortgage after the kids go to college. If she can afford that mortgage for the 9 months when the kids are away at school then she does not need it when the kids are home for the summer.[/quote]

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