If my teenager gets a job during his time with Dad . . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: So, when you have older kids, like driving age, they likely will be working/activities and you're going to see them less. Regardless if the parents are married or not.

Dad gets one day a week. This is a copout of saying why this is ok. Either way, Mom agreed to it, Dad supported it, Kid took the job so its a non-issue and Mom is upset as she wanted Dad to be the bad guy and say no and instead he supported her decision to let him work. She was clear Dad thinks if kid made a commitment he should follow through. Kid committed with Mom's blessing so even if he didn't agree as a parent he had an obligation to support Mom.

I didn't agree to it. I told him you can't work during the hours you see your Dad. If you can find a job that is outside those hours you can take it. Dad told kid that he had permission to do something I had told him not to do. I am not sure why you are making this stuff up about me saying yes. Dad undermined my decision by saying yes. I didn't bless the decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: So, when you have older kids, like driving age, they likely will be working/activities and you're going to see them less. Regardless if the parents are married or not.

Dad gets one day a week. This is a copout of saying why this is ok. Either way, Mom agreed to it, Dad supported it, Kid took the job so its a non-issue and Mom is upset as she wanted Dad to be the bad guy and say no and instead he supported her decision to let him work. She was clear Dad thinks if kid made a commitment he should follow through. Kid committed with Mom's blessing so even if he didn't agree as a parent he had an obligation to support Mom.

I didn't agree to it. I told him you can't work during the hours you see your Dad. If you can find a job that is outside those hours you can take it. Dad told kid that he had permission to do something I had told him not to do. I am not sure why you are making this stuff up about me saying yes. Dad undermined my decision by saying yes. I didn't bless the decision.

Read your earlier posts. So, what happened, did the kid take the job? It sounds like your son played you and you should punish him for it. Dad didn't undermine you. You never ever should have agreed to a job on Sundays. You agreed for him to look for a job, he found one and knew exactly how to manipulate you and Dad. You need to talk to Dad about being on the same page and make him quit the job if you didn't approve of it. Dad isn't really in a position to say no. The child lives with you and visits at most once a week. Cleaver kid. So, what are you doing to do about it with your child? Complain about Dad or make the kid quit and follow your rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What the heck? It’s between them. If you want to ask your ex how he feels about it, you could do that. Is he sacrificing his time so your son is able to work? If so, so you want to share that sacrifice and give your ex a little more time with your son? Check with your son about how he feels giving up some of his dad time for a job. Otherwise, I’d stay out of it.

That's not fair to the ex because Mom is saying go ahead and take the job and Dad has visitation, not even parenting time or an option on his son's life. You are putting Dad in a bad situation as he becomes the bad guy saying no and if child does it anyway, what recourse is there because mom is allowing it and child lives with mom. If you want to stop the relationship be honest and don't play games. But, if kid is working, he can support himself so Dad shouldn't pay child support.

Or, you be decent and talk to dad and see if visit can be switched to saturdays.

Minimum wage x 8 hours a week equals pocket money

Many of you men's rights activists disgust me. It always comes down to money with you people.