I’m so unhappy with my baby in daycare.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh I love these threads.

Rich women telling the rest of us that we have RUINED our children and that daycare is tantamount to ABUSING our poor little snowflakes.

Daycare is just fine, OP. It could just be that THIS PARTICULAR DAYCARE is not a good fit. If you're uncomfortable with it, find a different one. I would also recommend looking at in home daycares. We loved ours.

Especially because they are happy to hand off care to an unsupervised nanny. It’s nuts.

You know daycare is unsupervised, right? The daycare teachers will always cover for each other. I’ve worked in supposedly great daycare centers and this is the truth.

Now if your daycare has constant video access, that’s different. Only then would I trust daycare workers making 15 an hour over a qualified nanny.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d never hire a nanny for a pre verbal infant. No way.

I somewhat agree. I hired a nanny for my preverbal infants only because I work from home.

That makes no sense to me! Infancy is the absolute best time to have one-one care. Do you paranoid nuts think all nannies are going to abuse your babies? Are you hiring out of prisons?!

Yeah really. Cynical as hell! My nanny was so much more patient than I ever was as a mom...

+2. Some women have such horrible beliefs about other women. Our nanny has 15 years of experience and was a teacher. In three years she has never even gotten frustrated with my kids. And she loves them.

I am the PP who said I would not hire a nanny for a preverbal infant. My opinion is based on the time I spent as a SAHM (and spent time at parks with the nannies) and working in the childcare field myself.

I would definitely hire a nanny for older kids. Just not infants and toddlers.

And my opinion is based on the years I was as a daycare teacher in the infant room, I would never put my baby in daycare. I like daycare with accredited preschool for three and up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d never hire a nanny for a pre verbal infant. No way.

I somewhat agree. I hired a nanny for my preverbal infants only because I work from home.

That makes no sense to me! Infancy is the absolute best time to have one-one care. Do you paranoid nuts think all nannies are going to abuse your babies? Are you hiring out of prisons?!

Yeah really. Cynical as hell! My nanny was so much more patient than I ever was as a mom...

+2. Some women have such horrible beliefs about other women. Our nanny has 15 years of experience and was a teacher. In three years she has never even gotten frustrated with my kids. And she loves them.

I am the PP who said I would not hire a nanny for a preverbal infant. My opinion is based on the time I spent as a SAHM (and spent time at parks with the nannies) and working in the childcare field myself.

I would definitely hire a nanny for older kids. Just not infants and toddlers.

And my opinion is based on the years I was as a daycare teacher in the infant room, I would never put my baby in daycare. I like daycare with accredited preschool for three and up.

Ok stop scaring parents, both of you. I’m a SAHM but not because I didn’t trust nannies or daycares. This thread is getting ridiculous and implying the only “safe” option is staying at home which is untrue. I’m not sure why OP crowdsourced this question - bad decision - but every mom does the best they can and there’s no grand conspiracy among daycares or nannies. If it’s not a fit, move on to your next option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh I love these threads.

Rich women telling the rest of us that we have RUINED our children and that daycare is tantamount to ABUSING our poor little snowflakes.

Daycare is just fine, OP. It could just be that THIS PARTICULAR DAYCARE is not a good fit. If you're uncomfortable with it, find a different one. I would also recommend looking at in home daycares. We loved ours.

Especially because they are happy to hand off care to an unsupervised nanny. It’s nuts.

You know daycare is unsupervised, right? The daycare teachers will always cover for each other. I’ve worked in supposedly great daycare centers and this is the truth.

Now if your daycare has constant video access, that’s different. Only then would I trust daycare workers making 15 an hour over a qualified nanny.

I recognize you, you post incessantly on these threads. I’m convinced you are a nanny trying to drum up business.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I feel like providence has spoken! Since posting this, an amazing nanny in our neighborhood became available (family is moving) and we had an interview with her this morning. She is older and so lovely! She came in and asked to wash her hands - and then held the baby for the entire interview! The baby woke up with cold number three and nanny knew how to hold him and comfort him. We talked for two hours!

She can start in two weeks after next. All of her references including our neighbor (who was crying about losing her) were fantastic! I am so relieved!!!!

I’d have to take time off anyway due to the baby’s cold and my mom has agreed to drive down for the remainder of the time so we don’t have to go back to daycare.

Thank you everyone for responding (even the poster who thinks I need medication ).

This is absolutely the right decision. I feel it in my gut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh I love these threads.

Rich women telling the rest of us that we have RUINED our children and that daycare is tantamount to ABUSING our poor little snowflakes.

Daycare is just fine, OP. It could just be that THIS PARTICULAR DAYCARE is not a good fit. If you're uncomfortable with it, find a different one. I would also recommend looking at in home daycares. We loved ours.

Especially because they are happy to hand off care to an unsupervised nanny. It’s nuts.

You know daycare is unsupervised, right? The daycare teachers will always cover for each other. I’ve worked in supposedly great daycare centers and this is the truth.

Now if your daycare has constant video access, that’s different. Only then would I trust daycare workers making 15 an hour over a qualified nanny.

I recognize you, you post incessantly on these threads. I’m convinced you are a nanny trying to drum up business.

NO You do not recognize me and I rarely post nor am I a nanny.

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Anonymous wrote:Everything in me told me not to leave my baby in daycare. I tried, but the feeling of dread never went away. I don’t have anxiety or depression, I just knew that it didn’t feel right. We dramatically changed our lifestyle so that I could stay at home until the kids were school aged. I know that’s not possible for everyone and realize how fortunate we are. A nanny wouldn’t have been any better for me. I felt physical pain when I was away from my infant all day. You are not alone. Your feelings are valid.

I posted above about how I wound up leaving my job because I hated being apart from my baby so much (I went back to work at 18 mo). This is how I felt. Everyone told me it was PPD, but they also told me going back to work would help with PPD. It wasn't PPD. I just wanted to be home with my baby for a while. It's only in this godforsaken country that this is seen as a personal failing instead of incredibly normal.

AGREED. I did not like the idea of only seeing my child a few hours a day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m amazed how many women here marry and have babies with men that can’t afford to allow their wives to stay at home with their babies. So sad that so many women have to go back to work and disguise it as being a feminist when in reality they know they wish they could stay home but they married a loser.

Such a f----g troll


I am surprised to many rose to this occassion

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I feel like providence has spoken! Since posting this, an amazing nanny in our neighborhood became available (family is moving) and we had an interview with her this morning. She is older and so lovely! She came in and asked to wash her hands - and then held the baby for the entire interview! The baby woke up with cold number three and nanny knew how to hold him and comfort him. We talked for two hours!

She can start in two weeks after next. All of her references including our neighbor (who was crying about losing her) were fantastic! I am so relieved!!!!

I’d have to take time off anyway due to the baby’s cold and my mom has agreed to drive down for the remainder of the time so we don’t have to go back to daycare.

Thank you everyone for responding (even the poster who thinks I need medication ).

This is absolutely the right decision. I feel it in my gut.

I’m so happy for you, OP! Daycare was good for our family but you know best for yours! Good luck with the next couple weeks!

[Anonymous]

So happy for you OP!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d never hire a nanny for a pre verbal infant. No way.

I somewhat agree. I hired a nanny for my preverbal infants only because I work from home.

That makes no sense to me! Infancy is the absolute best time to have one-one care. Do you paranoid nuts think all nannies are going to abuse your babies? Are you hiring out of prisons?!

Yeah really. Cynical as hell! My nanny was so much more patient than I ever was as a mom...

+2. Some women have such horrible beliefs about other women. Our nanny has 15 years of experience and was a teacher. In three years she has never even gotten frustrated with my kids. And she loves them.

I am the PP who said I would not hire a nanny for a preverbal infant. My opinion is based on the time I spent as a SAHM (and spent time at parks with the nannies) and working in the childcare field myself.

I would definitely hire a nanny for older kids. Just not infants and toddlers.

What did you observe? I have a toddler and am think8mg of of getting a nanny but undecided

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d never hire a nanny for a pre verbal infant. No way.

I somewhat agree. I hired a nanny for my preverbal infants only because I work from home.

That makes no sense to me! Infancy is the absolute best time to have one-one care. Do you paranoid nuts think all nannies are going to abuse your babies? Are you hiring out of prisons?!

So you are a non-paranoid nut who trusts strangers with their infants. Go you. Everyone is supervised at work, so yes, I will supervise a nanny. If I could not afford a nanny, I’d use a licensed center, not a home daycare.

[Anonymous]

I would get a nanny if there's a way you can make it work. Better for you, better for baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I feel like providence has spoken! Since posting this, an amazing nanny in our neighborhood became available (family is moving) and we had an interview with her this morning. She is older and so lovely! She came in and asked to wash her hands - and then held the baby for the entire interview! The baby woke up with cold number three and nanny knew how to hold him and comfort him. We talked for two hours!

She can start in two weeks after next. All of her references including our neighbor (who was crying about losing her) were fantastic! I am so relieved!!!!

I’d have to take time off anyway due to the baby’s cold and my mom has agreed to drive down for the remainder of the time so we don’t have to go back to daycare.

Thank you everyone for responding (even the poster who thinks I need medication ).

This is absolutely the right decision. I feel it in my gut.

Seems great! Good for you OP

[Anonymous]

That’s great! We loved our daycare but this really does sound like the perfect fit for you and your little one. Happy for you!