Are you afraid to mention a Black person’s tan?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think I’ve ever commented on anyones tan…..

Plus one

[Anonymous]

A surprising number of whites people have shown their ignorance to me by saying “Wow, I didn’t know you could tan!” I’m not black, but I am a South Asian POC. Oh, white people!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A surprising number of whites people have shown their ignorance to me by saying “Wow, I didn’t know you could tan!” I’m not black, but I am a South Asian POC. Oh, white people!

So they didn’t know…..imagine the ignorance! Why on earth would you care?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A surprising number of whites people have shown their ignorance to me by saying “Wow, I didn’t know you could tan!” I’m not black, but I am a South Asian POC. Oh, white people!

So they didn’t know…..imagine the ignorance! Why on earth would you care?

I think she’s saying the opposite. They DID notice, and they where stupid enough to think POC don’t tan.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A surprising number of whites people have shown their ignorance to me by saying “Wow, I didn’t know you could tan!” I’m not black, but I am a South Asian POC. Oh, white people!

So they didn’t know…..imagine the ignorance! Why on earth would you care?

I think she’s saying the opposite. They DID notice, and they where stupid enough to think POC don’t tan.

Actually, I misread you. I thought you said they didn’t notice. My mistake.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A surprising number of whites people have shown their ignorance to me by saying “Wow, I didn’t know you could tan!” I’m not black, but I am a South Asian POC. Oh, white people!

So they didn’t know…..imagine the ignorance! Why on earth would you care?

Because it’s a really sh*tty feeling when you realize that someone doesn’t understand that you’re a human being whose skin functions just like theirs. If a person with fair skin can get a tan why on earth couldn’t a person with darker skin tan? I can almost see them thinking “Wow, she’s just like me!” Thankfully none have been ridiculous enough to say that part out loud.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A surprising number of whites people have shown their ignorance to me by saying “Wow, I didn’t know you could tan!” I’m not black, but I am a South Asian POC. Oh, white people!

So they didn’t know…..imagine the ignorance! Why on earth would you care?

Because it’s a really sh*tty feeling when you realize that someone doesn’t understand that you’re a human being whose skin functions just like theirs. If a person with fair skin can get a tan why on earth couldn’t a person with darker skin tan? I can almost see them thinking “Wow, she’s just like me!” Thankfully none have been ridiculous enough to say that part out loud.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A surprising number of whites people have shown their ignorance to me by saying “Wow, I didn’t know you could tan!” I’m not black, but I am a South Asian POC. Oh, white people!

So they didn’t know…..imagine the ignorance! Why on earth would you care?

Because it’s a really sh*tty feeling when you realize that someone doesn’t understand that you’re a human being whose skin functions just like theirs. If a person with fair skin can get a tan why on earth couldn’t a person with darker skin tan? I can almost see them thinking “Wow, she’s just like me!” Thankfully none have been ridiculous enough to say that part out loud.

I don’t understand why this would bother you. We’re all different and realistically your skin has more melanin and will react differently to sunlight. Try not to be so easily offended and if you can help educate a fellow human on our differences then we’ll done.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't think to mention it on anyone but I work hard to avoid a tan.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A surprising number of whites people have shown their ignorance to me by saying “Wow, I didn’t know you could tan!” I’m not black, but I am a South Asian POC. Oh, white people!

So they didn’t know…..imagine the ignorance! Why on earth would you care?

Because it’s a really sh*tty feeling when you realize that someone doesn’t understand that you’re a human being whose skin functions just like theirs. If a person with fair skin can get a tan why on earth couldn’t a person with darker skin tan? I can almost see them thinking “Wow, she’s just like me!” Thankfully none have been ridiculous enough to say that part out loud.

I don’t understand why this would bother you. We’re all different and realistically your skin has more melanin and will react differently to sunlight. Try not to be so easily offended and if you can help educate a fellow human on our differences then we’ll done.

Nope. Not my job to educate you.

Do you tell all people of color they shouldn’t be so easily offended? I really think you should start saying it to people you know in real life (especially at your place of work, if you have one). I can assure you it will go over delightfully!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A surprising number of whites people have shown their ignorance to me by saying “Wow, I didn’t know you could tan!” I’m not black, but I am a South Asian POC. Oh, white people!

So they didn’t know…..imagine the ignorance! Why on earth would you care?

Because it’s a really sh*tty feeling when you realize that someone doesn’t understand that you’re a human being whose skin functions just like theirs. If a person with fair skin can get a tan why on earth couldn’t a person with darker skin tan? I can almost see them thinking “Wow, she’s just like me!” Thankfully none have been ridiculous enough to say that part out loud.

And we can all get skin cancer the same, and we all have the same laser hair removal experience. We are just like each other.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A surprising number of whites people have shown their ignorance to me by saying “Wow, I didn’t know you could tan!” I’m not black, but I am a South Asian POC. Oh, white people!

So they didn’t know…..imagine the ignorance! Why on earth would you care?

Because it’s a really sh*tty feeling when you realize that someone doesn’t understand that you’re a human being whose skin functions just like theirs. If a person with fair skin can get a tan why on earth couldn’t a person with darker skin tan? I can almost see them thinking “Wow, she’s just like me!” Thankfully none have been ridiculous enough to say that part out loud.

And we can all get skin cancer the same, and we all have the same laser hair removal experience. We are just like each other.

Stop being obtuse. You recognize we all have skin, hair, and are susceptible to skin cancer. Only an idiot wouldn’t realize darker skin can tan just like lighter skin.

[OP]

[Anonymous]

I just don't understand why you'd comment on anyone's tan.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think I’ve ever commented on anyones tan…..

huh, that's super weird. Are you white?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A tan on a white person is going to be a bigger contrast than a tan on a dark skinned person. I would not mention it. I'm white and one time someone commented that I didn't tan after going to the beach (I used sunscreen.)

Hmm, I actually don’t think so.

Anyway, not all Black people are dark skinned. (I’m not saying you don’t know this, PP; I’m just stating a point.) Even still, it’s quite easy to notice a person is several shades darker…whether they are dark or light skinned. Maybe white people just don’t pay attention. I notice a tan on Black people quite easily. Of course, I know a lot of Black people…so, I see more Black faces.

Y’all need to associate with more Black people.

[OP]

I didn't say I don't notice tans on Black people. It is noticeable. There is no good answer to your question. If we don't tell a black person nice tan, then you assume we're not around Black people enough. If we do tell a Black person nice tan, how would that come across? Probably not very good either.

I am white and wouldn't say it to anyone. I *might* say they look rested and relaxed. I wouldn't say tan to anyone because if someone said that to me I'd feel a bit anxious about healh consequences and i don't feel the need to tell anyone that even if htey do look nice
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