Are you afraid to mention a Black person’s tan?

[Anonymous]

And the worst thread ever award goes to—this one!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm brown. I've had a white co-worker tell me they were heading off to the Virgin Islands and looking forward to getting a tan and coming back brown.

It was awkward for me, but went right over their head. If it was a close friend, I would have cracked a joke about it, but felt awkward from a co-worker.

I reflected on why that made me feel that way and other than the obvious color factor, I think it's harder in the workplace where there are already advantages to being white and then to have someone with those advantages joke about hoping to come back brown leaves a bad feeling that is hard to put into words.

Jesus Christ. Sometimes you need to ask yourself if you’re overthinking things and making life more complicated for yourself and others. For some white people who tan very deeply, they turn a color that they consider brown. That’s all they’re talking about. This isn’t a micro aggression. This isn’t some thing you need to perceive as a comment on our racial history. They’re just looking forward to getting a tan and having their skin go from light to a bit browner. Can we just cut people some slack and not try to enjoy feeling slighted by the smallest things?

Oh shut up. You don’t know what it’s like being a POC and the comments we get about our skin color. So shut your white privileged self up.

DP…I don’t see why we feel the need to mention anyone’s skin color. You should all know better!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And the worst thread ever award goes to—this one!

+1. And it should be 1 page, not 11.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m Black.

Please don’t say that. You sound ignorant.

I’m Black PP.

This is something I noticed about white/Black people over the years. I notice white people frequently mention other white people’s tans, but they hesitate to mention those of Black people.

I just wonder if it’s a conscious thing. I actually wouldn’t mind someone (Black or white) mentioning my tan. I tan very easily, and I like it. It just seems like some white people actively avoid mentioning Black folks’ tans. I’m wondering if I’m off base in thinking this.



[OP]

I think Black people have beautiful skin, but since I’ve never lived in it I don’t talk about it.

[Anonymous]

I think the moral of this thread is to just never comment on anyone’s appearance. Probably a good thing to do, anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the moral of this thread is to just never comment on anyone’s appearance. Probably a good thing to do, anyway.

^It’s hard to argue otherwise.

“Prickly.” I keep thinking of PP’s word. She’s right.

[OP]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the moral of this thread is to just never comment on anyone’s appearance. Probably a good thing to do, anyway.

I think a woman telling another woman “you look lovely” is fine. But I know not everyone agrees.

[Anonymous]

It's 2021, who is still bragging about tanning or noticing other people's tans? Is it just Boomers?

[Anonymous]

Honestly I probably wouldn't notice if a Black person had a tan lmfao. I am not super observant and would only notice if a super pale person came back San Tropez dark

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's 2021, who is still bragging about tanning or noticing other people's tans? Is it just Boomers?

Do you just sit indoors all day? Wtf? I am a pale millennial who gets a tan if I go outside during the summer for an hour or two a day.