Counselor telling us to end it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, your husband is harping on the fact that the counselor told you to end it in order to get you to blame her, not him. He is doing this on purpose. He wants you stewing over her, while he gets his ducks in a row. This is calculated. Don't fall for it.

He checked out of this marriage a long time ago. And given what you're said about the house, the dog, and health issues, he's a bad guy and he'll leave you ruined if you don't snap out of this.

+1

If he weren't 100.00% committed to leaving the marriage you both would be mad at this counselor for getting it so wrong. He's happy as a clam because he has no interest in working on the marriage.

Also, he's not even following her advice. She told you guys to separate for a few days, but he's looking at apartments, not hotels. So really the therapist has nothing to do with what he's actually doing.

He could be one of those idiots with no common sense who view things in B&W…

[Anonymous]

I’m curious as to what the counselor actually said. Was it “you two need to end it” or something more to the effect of “since one person does not want to work on things, separation seems like the next step”

[Anonymous]

OP, I was in a similar situation where I wanted to try and save the marriage and my ex was already out (but occasionally feeling guilty and agreeing to try). I think you need to consider that the therapist is acting in your best interest to encourage you to move on from this relationship where you are not respected or valued.

[Anonymous]

If he set up the call are you sure it was even a marriage counselor you were talking to?

[Anonymous]

I feel strongly that there is an AP waiting in the wings. Dealing with something similar.