Counselor telling us to end it
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Anonymous
| On our 2nd session with a marriage counselor over the phone. First time we both do counseling and she straight out tells us we should just end it. I explained that I feel he lies a lot and I know he wants out but that I want to work on it. She tell us to separate for 3 days and come back on Friday and we should make a decision. My husband loved the idea and is already checking out apartments and telling me he is putting the house on the market and that I better take the dog or he will take him to the pound. I'm sitting here with my kids completely in shock. The counselor was supposed to help us and my husband is acting like this is over because someone that has known us for 2 hours said so. The 3 days were supposed to make him realize that he wanted to make this work. He is also telling me he can put the house on the market without my permission because he bought it before we were married. I'm just in shock. He heard exactly what he wanted and is acting like he got a doctors note to get out of this marriage. I'm not even sure if he will be on the call on Friday. I just can't believe that after just 2 sessions this person can make such a determination without realizing the impact. We have a sick child and I had a miscarriage a few months ago, yet she gave my husband the okay to leave without knowing the whole story. |
Anonymous
| Umm it's pretty obvious this marriage is over. |
Anonymous
| Leave him with the kids. Hurry before he leaves first. |
Anonymous
| I am sorry you’re going through that. |
Anonymous
And the dog. |
Anonymous
| Sorry this is how things turned out, but it sounds like your husband was already all the way over it. The marriage counselor didn’t cause that. |
Anonymous
| He sounds like pure trash. I know it's scary but you should be glad to let him move out. Let him go. You stay in the house with the kids. |
Anonymous
What? Why? |
Anonymous
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Your husband is ditching his family, ready to sell the house tonight, and you’re here fixating on a counselor?
Wake up, OP. Your husband is a jackass. Time to regroup and make a new plan. It’s over. |
Anonymous
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Marriage counseling only works if both parties are willing to work on the marriage. He isn’t.
You can’t save this alone, against his wishes. I am sorry. |
Anonymous
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Time to get a good lawyer. |
Anonymous
| You can’t force someone to stay if they don’t want to. Your therapist didn’t tell him to make this choice, the therapist gave him room to make this choice if that’s what he truly wanted. |
Anonymous
To Give him a little taste of single parenting during 50/50 custody. But really just to wipe off the smirk that I imagine is on his face thinking about his new life in his new apartment. |
Anonymous
| She’s doing you a favor. Your new, better life starts today. |
Anonymous
+1 |