How do I tell the family I don’t want to work over 42.5 hours per week?

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Anonymous wrote:If they have the types of jobs where they regularly have to stay late, then they may need a nanny who can accommodate that schedule. It sounds like you aren’t a good fit for this particular job. Nothing wrong with that. The right nanny for them and the right job for you are out there somewhere.

They work from home and the mom sleeps until 11/12 so she doesn’t start her work until it’s really late . The baby is 6 months so she’s always sleep deprived. But I know if she woke up earlier she wouldn’t ask me to stay. And the father travels a lot so she asks me to stay late when he’s gone. She’s not with her kids all day so she doesn’t really need me to stay anywat.

I would sleep late, too! That's why she has a nanny. If you don't want to stay late, say so, but stop acting like they're awful people for wanting a nanny who can.

They’re not awful people, all I’m saying is they can’t expect me to stay late when I’m always on time and never ask to leave early.

I’m always on time and don’t ask to leave early and my bosses absolutely can ask me to stay late. Once you become a grown up you can better navigate your employment opportunities. Until then, most of us simply don’t care and have zero interest in helping you.

Ha! You’re right, you have the MATURITY level of a child.



How old does everyone think I am??? Lol. I find it hilarious how you think I’m not a grown up. Y’all be thinking I’m like 15 years old

I was thinking more like 12 and the bolded is evidence of why I think that.

Well, luckily I’m not 12 or 15 anymore. Now I’m an adult and can defend myself from ignorant people like you who equate age with maturity and other things.

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Anonymous wrote:To be honest, I think I’ll never want to stay late. 1. I’m always on time and have never asked to come in later or leave early. 2. I’ve never asked for a day off. I always make my appointments for Saturday’s because I know I have to work from 8:30-5. So for me, asking me to stay late is just a no. I feel like can’t say no though

I have a bunch of stuff that I plan around work, so when it’s time to go, I need to go. So, I understand your position.

I know it’s hard for some to say no (myself included!), but you have to start. Just make a sympathetic face and tell them sorry, but you actually have plans later and can’t stay today. Another thing I did with my employers was tell them I got an evening job. That has helped a bit with the lateness, and even prompted a small raise!

Won’t his make them think that it’s too much for me to handle ? I was thinking of saying I had an evening job bc I have a lot of loans to pay for school. But won’t this make them think that I might have no energy or be too tired to work so much? Also I feel like this might make them think I have less commitment to their job. If they can give me hours after I work they might also think that I shouldn’t have gotten a second job if they can give me hours? I was also planning on saying that I have a weekend job so I can’t stay late during the week bc of errands etc

Well, you’re already a liar and a lousy member of society, so yeah, lie some more! Cheers to you! I hope that you regret not paying taxes when you get fired for lying. You’ll have zero chance to collect unemployment then.

Haha. I find it hilarious how you think that I’ll get fired just for saying something. It’s hypothetical. No one said I was actually going to do it. I don’t need unployment anyway. It’s not hard for me to find a job. Can easily get one under a month. Plus I have savings.

Yep, your "savings" which are really delinquent taxes.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, Op, are they not paying you at all for the extra time they ask you to stay?! Or you’re not getting paid overtime for those hours?

No, I’ve never received OT after 40 hours.

Get a lawyer tomorrow. You might not need a job anymore.

HA, right! If she gets a lawyer, they'll flee as soon as they find out she doesn't pay taxes. You don't get to have it both ways. They can take advantage of OP because she has no leg to stand on.

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Anonymous wrote:To be honest, I think I’ll never want to stay late. 1. I’m always on time and have never asked to come in later or leave early. 2. I’ve never asked for a day off. I always make my appointments for Saturday’s because I know I have to work from 8:30-5. So for me, asking me to stay late is just a no. I feel like can’t say no though

I have a bunch of stuff that I plan around work, so when it’s time to go, I need to go. So, I understand your position.

I know it’s hard for some to say no (myself included!), but you have to start. Just make a sympathetic face and tell them sorry, but you actually have plans later and can’t stay today. Another thing I did with my employers was tell them I got an evening job. That has helped a bit with the lateness, and even prompted a small raise!

Won’t his make them think that it’s too much for me to handle ? I was thinking of saying I had an evening job bc I have a lot of loans to pay for school. But won’t this make them think that I might have no energy or be too tired to work so much? Also I feel like this might make them think I have less commitment to their job. If they can give me hours after I work they might also think that I shouldn’t have gotten a second job if they can give me hours? I was also planning on saying that I have a weekend job so I can’t stay late during the week bc of errands etc

Well, you’re already a liar and a lousy member of society, so yeah, lie some more! Cheers to you! I hope that you regret not paying taxes when you get fired for lying. You’ll have zero chance to collect unemployment then.

Haha. I find it hilarious how you think that I’ll get fired just for saying something. It’s hypothetical. No one said I was actually going to do it. I don’t need unployment anyway. It’s not hard for me to find a job. Can easily get one under a month. Plus I have savings.

Yep, your "savings" which are really delinquent taxes.

Yes my savings. But they’re actually my drug savings. I used to sell drugs on the streets.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, Op, are they not paying you at all for the extra time they ask you to stay?! Or you’re not getting paid overtime for those hours?

No, I’ve never received OT after 40 hours.

Get a lawyer tomorrow. You might not need a job anymore.

HA, right! If she gets a lawyer, they'll flee as soon as they find out she doesn't pay taxes. You don't get to have it both ways. They can take advantage of OP because she has no leg to stand on.

I think it’s funnt people think I’m going to get a lawyer. I can barely afford to pay rent. No way I’m getting a lawyer and for what? Y’all just like to jump to conclusions

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WHAT?!? First of all, you need a contract. That is crazy that you don't have one. I guarantee both your bosses have contracts with their employers.

NP, but um, what? Professionals don't have contracts unless there's some kind of legal thing.

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WHAT?!? First of all, you need a contract. That is crazy that you don't have one. I guarantee both your bosses have contracts with their employers.

NP, but um, what? Professionals don't have contracts unless there's some kind of legal thing.

OK, call it an "agreement," then. Families and nannies who want to have an easier employment relationship write out an agreement that covers the usual areas of disagreement, like when the family is away on vacation, when the family (or nanny) is late, etc..

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"i can only work for the hours we've agreed to, unless i have advance notice. i make plans and commitments for my time outside of work, and i can't keep cancelling them at the last minute. do you think you might need to switch my regular hours to x until y? think it over and talk to (husband/wife) and we can talk further tomorrow."

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I live in the Los Angeles area and most families I know don’t offer contracts. My mom has been a nanny for 20 years here in LA and she’s only had one contract. They were a very wealthy family. But contracts around hear are unheard off. We did agree on major holidays paid and off. Originally I was supposed to work 9-5 but then she said 8:30-5 so I never asked her for OT for theose 2.5 hours. I also asked for one week paid vacation which I would take when they travel, but they asked me to come in that week to do odd jobs around the house and they want me to drive to the airport. Now I will most def be letting them know I think we need a contact.

I've been a nanny for 25 years and in LA for 15 if that.

I've always had a contract and every nanny I know has a contract.

Perhaps you need to reach out to your local nanny groups. See what kind of nannies are in LA. Because I'm in multiple local LA nanny groups, one with 1200 members.

Do you attend the local trainings like national nanny training day? National play date day, Nannypalooza, and more? Do you keep in contact with all the local agencies?? There are so many and they are always putting on classes and trainings (some fun ones too like yoga). Are you trustlined?? Have CPR and first aid? Clean driving record and good car? Over 5 years experience? Agencies may look at your resume. Add on special skills like languages, CPST, sleep training, nutrition classes, etc. And they will love you, even better if you have a bachelors or masters in education or psychology.

You should have a contract. You should be getting OT. You should be paying taxes.

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Our nanny works 7:30-5:30 most days and does not have these issues. Getting home between 5:15-6:15pm is quite normal for someone leaving an office environment after 5pm. To be home BY 5pm is a non-starter for most nanny families.

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Many families choose nannies for the flexibility. Some days 5:30 others 6 or even 7pm if coming from the airport.

If you need a 9-5 job, don’t be a nanny and don’t have clients and don’t be in an uber-competitive field.

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Anonymous wrote:Our nanny works 7:30-5:30 most days and does not have these issues. Getting home between 5:15-6:15pm is quite normal for someone leaving an office environment after 5pm. To be home BY 5pm is a non-starter for most nanny families.

Op here. Well they work from home. It’s great YOUR nanny doesn’t have these issues. But I do.

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Anonymous wrote:Many families choose nannies for the flexibility. Some days 5:30 others 6 or even 7pm if coming from the airport.

If you need a 9-5 job, don’t be a nanny and don’t have clients and don’t be in an uber-competitive field.

They work from home. And I’m not paid for flexibility. I’m paid to be a nanny. Most parents who work i understand cannot make it home by 5. This is not the case.

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OP stop being so defensive.

Either stand up for yourself and tell your bosses what you want or don't and live with the outcome either way.


From your replies on here I wouldn't want you as my nanny (and I'm a nanny) people are telling you advice and you have a snarky comment for everyone.

You and only YOU put yourself in this job

You don't like it, find another.

Damn it's LA. From the agencies i follow at least 20 new jobs were posted today alone all paying legally and over $25/ hr. So grow up. You're an adult. Speak up or sit down

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I’m being defensive because people act like they know the whole situation. I’m snarky to those who think they know me and who make claims that they know nothing about. And just like I said in one of my comments, I never said I wasn’t paying taxes people just assumed, jumped to conclusions.