How do I tell the family I don’t want to work over 42.5 hours per week?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:op here, I told them that I understand they need to work on occasion past 5, and I am more then happy to work until 5:30 everyday with OT paid after 4:30 and with enough notice (not same day) I told them that staying late was interfereing with my personal life (like running errands, going to the doctor, etc) I told them my max would be 9 hours per day with at least 1 day of notice working until past 5:30. Of course emergencies come up but I asked them that I wouldn’t be able to stay if they asked me to stay say at 4:30 they asked me to stay until 5:30. It was a long conversation and I think they’re upset but I respect my schedule and I am ALWAYS able to work from 8:30-5 how we originally agreed. Because that’s the time I allotted to be at work. Anything passed that, would be courteous of me to stay. I have been very accommodating and had said yes in the past even if I had plans after work

I think what you said is reasonable. Good for you! They need to learn how to manage their time better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:op here, I told them that I understand they need to work on occasion past 5, and I am more then happy to work until 5:30 everyday with OT paid after 4:30 and with enough notice (not same day) I told them that staying late was interfereing with my personal life (like running errands, going to the doctor, etc) I told them my max would be 9 hours per day with at least 1 day of notice working until past 5:30. Of course emergencies come up but I asked them that I wouldn’t be able to stay if they asked me to stay say at 4:30 they asked me to stay until 5:30. It was a long conversation and I think they’re upset but I respect my schedule and I am ALWAYS able to work from 8:30-5 how we originally agreed. Because that’s the time I allotted to be at work. Anything passed that, would be courteous of me to stay. I have been very accommodating and had said yes in the past even if I had plans after work

I think what you said is reasonable. Good for you! They need to learn how to manage their time better.

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's fine. You can tell them that, and that can be your limit. But they may choose to fire you and find someone who can accommodate their schedule.

Well, maybe next time they’ll be clear about their actual scheduling needs before hiring anyone.

Well I made sure to ask their schedules before I started. I originally was supposed to work 9-5. I made it clear to them I was most comfortable working 8 hours per day. And they agreed that all they needed was 8 hours.
That’s what she said in the interview. She then changed it to 8:30-5. I think they underestimated their needs. Now that’s their fault for not being clear in the beginning. They should of advertised 8:30-5:30/6 not 9-5.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's fine. You can tell them that, and that can be your limit. But they may choose to fire you and find someone who can accommodate their schedule.

Well, maybe next time they’ll be clear about their actual scheduling needs before hiring anyone.

Well I made sure to ask their schedules before I started. I originally was supposed to work 9-5. I made it clear to them I was most comfortable working 8 hours per day. And they agreed that all they needed was 8 hours.
That’s what she said in the interview. She then changed it to 8:30-5. I think they underestimated their needs. Now that’s their fault for not being clear in the beginning. They should of advertised 8:30-5:30/6 not 9-5.

Most parents who hire nannies need at least 45 hours per week, due to commute. If that doesn’t work you, you could try cobbling together 2-3 part-time positions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's fine. You can tell them that, and that can be your limit. But they may choose to fire you and find someone who can accommodate their schedule.

Well, maybe next time they’ll be clear about their actual scheduling needs before hiring anyone.

Well I made sure to ask their schedules before I started. I originally was supposed to work 9-5. I made it clear to them I was most comfortable working 8 hours per day. And they agreed that all they needed was 8 hours.
That’s what she said in the interview. She then changed it to 8:30-5. I think they underestimated their needs. Now that’s their fault for not being clear in the beginning. They should of advertised 8:30-5:30/6 not 9-5.

Most parents who hire nannies need at least 45 hours per week, due to commute. If that doesn’t work you, you could try cobbling together 2-3 part-time positions?

You said if. “Most” families. Not ALL. I would’ve done 40+ hours if they had been upfront about it. They’ve had nannies in the past and have been doing the same work for years so they know they’re schedules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Well, maybe next time they’ll be clear about their actual scheduling needs before hiring anyone.

Well I made sure to ask their schedules before I started. I originally was supposed to work 9-5. I made it clear to them I was most comfortable working 8 hours per day. And they agreed that all they needed was 8 hours.
That’s what she said in the interview. She then changed it to 8:30-5. I think they underestimated their needs. Now that’s their fault for not being clear in the beginning. They should of advertised 8:30-5:30/6 not 9-5.

Please, I totally agree with you. They did underestimate their needs and now they want to change it up, but that’s not what they hired you for. If you’re unwilling to change your schedule further, then that’s understandable and they need to make it work. You already made a small concession (switching to 8:30) but they can’t expect to continue making up the schedule as they go because that’s just not what the agreement was in the beginning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Most parents who hire nannies need at least 45 hours per week, due to commute. If that doesn’t work you, you could try cobbling together 2-3 part-time positions?

Again, they should’ve been more clear about their needs from the beginning. If they had, there wouldn’t be an issue now. Op accepted a position advertised as 9-5 everyday, 40 hours a week. She let them change it up slightly and agreed to 8:30-5 instead, but unfortunately for the parents who planned poorly, she’s under no obligation to change the original agreement further.

Also, they don’t need commuting time factored in because, as op has stated several times in this thread, the parents work from home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:op here, I told them that I understand they need to work on occasion past 5, and I am more then happy to work until 5:30 everyday with OT paid after 4:30 and with enough notice (not same day) I told them that staying late was interfereing with my personal life (like running errands, going to the doctor, etc) I told them my max would be 9 hours per day with at least 1 day of notice working until past 5:30. Of course emergencies come up but I asked them that I wouldn’t be able to stay if they asked me to stay say at 4:30 they asked me to stay until 5:30. It was a long conversation and I think they’re upset but I respect my schedule and I am ALWAYS able to work from 8:30-5 how we originally agreed. Because that’s the time I allotted to be at work. Anything passed that, would be courteous of me to stay. I have been very accommodating and had said yes in the past even if I had plans after work

PAST that. You're welcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PAST that. You're welcome.

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