How do I tell the family I don’t want to work over 42.5 hours per week?

[Anonymous]

Not everyone wants to work late or passed the agreed time. Everyone is different. Just because some people are okay with it doesn’t mean everyone should be.

[Anonymous]

If you're serious about wanting these parents to get home by the original time, I have a solution:

1. Line up some new job options, in case they don't like your new requirements.
2. Give them notice that from now on, late fees are $1.00 per minute. Give them a 10 minutes grace period if you want to be extra nice to them.

I did this when I had a preschool program. I didn't want to charge the late fees, I wanted to meet my other commitments. It worked like a charm. I don't remember anyone ever late! Mission accomplished.

[Anonymous]

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If you're serious about wanting these parents to get home by the original time, I have a solution:

1. Line up some new job options, in case they don't like your new requirements.
2. Give them notice that from now on, late fees are $1.00 per minute. Give them a 10 minutes grace period if you want to be extra nice to them.

I did this when I had a preschool program. I didn't want to charge the late fees, I wanted to meet my other commitments. It worked like a charm. I don't remember anyone ever late! Mission accomplished.

Op here
Parents work from home so it’s not that they arrive late.

We used to charge $3 per late minute at my last company. It was an after school program for kids. Charging like that may seem too much for nannying and might turn off the family. Makes more sense for a company.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m always on time and don’t ask to leave early and my bosses absolutely can ask me to stay late. Once you become a grown up you can better navigate your employment opportunities. Until then, most of us simply don’t care and have zero interest in helping you.

Okay, good for you? Some people don’t want to stay late. How is that a bad thing?

My pay reflects their needs. I properly navigated this position as well as other opportunities to ensure a good fit. I could also navigate the situation OP is in without the need for help. I hope that OP is young and that is why she has so much trouble navigating her job and dismissing her responsibilities.

Okay, that’s your work situation. This is not about you. Also, I certainly don’t think she’s dismissing her responsibilities. I don’t know where you pulled that from.

She doesn’t pay taxes.

Ah, I see. I thought you were speaking of her job responsibilities. That really doesn’t have anything to do with the topic of the thread, though.

Actually, as another person pointed out, it’s hard to complain about being taken advantage of when you yourself are gaming the system. You can complain, but I don’t care and I’m not alone in that thought.

I mean, if you don’t care, then you know where the back button is. This is not the thread for you, friend.

Also, I don’t think she’s being taken advantage of. She’s just finding herself in an awkward position and trying to get advice.

She’s neither being paid OT for her regular hours nor being paid for any of the additional time she’s being asked to work.

[Anonymous]

Wait, Op, are they not paying you at all for the extra time they ask you to stay?! Or you’re not getting paid overtime for those hours?

[Anonymous]

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If you're serious about wanting these parents to get home by the original time, I have a solution:

1. Line up some new job options, in case they don't like your new requirements.
2. Give them notice that from now on, late fees are $1.00 per minute. Give them a 10 minutes grace period if you want to be extra nice to them.

I did this when I had a preschool program. I didn't want to charge the late fees, I wanted to meet my other commitments. It worked like a charm. I don't remember anyone ever late! Mission accomplished.

Op here
Parents work from home so it’s not that they arrive late.

We used to charge $3 per late minute at my last company. It was an after school program for kids. Charging like that may seem too much for nannying and might turn off the family. Makes more sense for a company.

You either solve your problem. Or not. Up to you.

[Anonymous]

Flatboosh163 wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, Op, are they not paying you at all for the extra time they ask you to stay?! Or you’re not getting paid overtime for those hours?

No, I’ve never received OT after 40 hours.

Get a lawyer tomorrow. You might not need a job anymore.

[Anonymous]

Silly question, OP? I’m just catching up on the thread now because I worked all day; how were you able to reply so many times while working?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Silly question, OP? I’m just catching up on the thread now because I worked all day; how were you able to reply so many times while working?

The family is in Germany for 5 days

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Silly question, OP? I’m just catching up on the thread now because I worked all day; how were you able to reply so many times while working?

You fool.

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Anonymous wrote:If they have the types of jobs where they regularly have to stay late, then they may need a nanny who can accommodate that schedule. It sounds like you aren’t a good fit for this particular job. Nothing wrong with that. The right nanny for them and the right job for you are out there somewhere.

They work from home and the mom sleeps until 11/12 so she doesn’t start her work until it’s really late . The baby is 6 months so she’s always sleep deprived. But I know if she woke up earlier she wouldn’t ask me to stay. And the father travels a lot so she asks me to stay late when he’s gone. She’s not with her kids all day so she doesn’t really need me to stay anywat.

I would sleep late, too! That's why she has a nanny. If you don't want to stay late, say so, but stop acting like they're awful people for wanting a nanny who can.

They’re not awful people, all I’m saying is they can’t expect me to stay late when I’m always on time and never ask to leave early.

I’m always on time and don’t ask to leave early and my bosses absolutely can ask me to stay late. Once you become a grown up you can better navigate your employment opportunities. Until then, most of us simply don’t care and have zero interest in helping you.

How old does everyone think I am??? Lol. I find it hilarious how you think I’m not a grown up. Y’all be thinking I’m like 15 years old

I was thinking more like 12 and the bolded is evidence of why I think that.

[Anonymous]

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Flatboosh163 wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, Op, are they not paying you at all for the extra time they ask you to stay?! Or you’re not getting paid overtime for those hours?

No, I’ve never received OT after 40 hours.

Get a lawyer tomorrow. You might not need a job anymore.

They have no contract and she doesn't pay taxes...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, Op, are they not paying you at all for the extra time they ask you to stay?! Or you’re not getting paid overtime for those hours?

No, I’ve never received OT after 40 hours.

Get a lawyer tomorrow. You might not need a job anymore.

They have no contract and she doesn't pay taxes...

Not your problem. At least, it wouldn't be my problem. What state are you in?

[Flatboosh163]

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Flatboosh163 wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, Op, are they not paying you at all for the extra time they ask you to stay?! Or you’re not getting paid overtime for those hours?

No, I’ve never received OT after 40 hours.

Get a lawyer tomorrow. You might not need a job anymore.

They have no contract and she doesn't pay taxes...

Not your problem. At least, it wouldn't be my problem. What state are you in?

You know, I actually never said I don’t pay taxes. Everyone assumed I didn’t just because I didn’t say how I got paid. This wasn’t even the point of the post people getting mad for no reason.

[Flatboosh163]

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Anonymous wrote:If they have the types of jobs where they regularly have to stay late, then they may need a nanny who can accommodate that schedule. It sounds like you aren’t a good fit for this particular job. Nothing wrong with that. The right nanny for them and the right job for you are out there somewhere.

They work from home and the mom sleeps until 11/12 so she doesn’t start her work until it’s really late . The baby is 6 months so she’s always sleep deprived. But I know if she woke up earlier she wouldn’t ask me to stay. And the father travels a lot so she asks me to stay late when he’s gone. She’s not with her kids all day so she doesn’t really need me to stay anywat.

I would sleep late, too! That's why she has a nanny. If you don't want to stay late, say so, but stop acting like they're awful people for wanting a nanny who can.

They’re not awful people, all I’m saying is they can’t expect me to stay late when I’m always on time and never ask to leave early.

I’m always on time and don’t ask to leave early and my bosses absolutely can ask me to stay late. Once you become a grown up you can better navigate your employment opportunities. Until then, most of us simply don’t care and have zero interest in helping you.

How old does everyone think I am??? Lol. I find it hilarious how you think I’m not a grown up. Y’all be thinking I’m like 15 years old

I was thinking more like 12 and the bolded is evidence of why I think that.

Well, luckily I’m not 12 or 15 anymore. Now I’m an adult and can defend myself from ignorant people like you who equate age with maturity and other things.