Nanny questioning how we spend our money

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Whatever OP, do what you want. I still think you're a troll but if not you are asking why you shouldn't fire someone your kids have grown to love and trust over the past two years because she asked for a raise and you weren't mature or sensible enough to give her a professional answer? Maybe you'd be doing her a favor by letting her go...not so sure about your kids, though.

Yes, everyone is a troll because we can't all afford $35/hr. Sorry Mrs. Obama.

LOL - You are ridiculous!

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with the PPs above - you made your priorities clear to your nanny and should have budgeted for an increase in her salary after two years!


It's women like you who give MBs a bad name.

OP here, let me clarify for all the harpies who are adding their own assumptions to my post. Nanny has received a raise during our 2 years, she just took the timing of this anniversary to ask for another. We have budgeted our nannies salary and raises and we don't feel it is time for another at this point in time.

This should have been your response when she asked for a raise rather than telling her you can't afford it.

At this point I want to just let her go and start over with a new nanny at the starting salary. Sure she has been with us for a little over two years but what is she doing better than any other nanny to justify her increased hourly rate??? I'm just so over it.

Oh, i don't know, spent two years bonding with your kids?

Exactly. Go study a little childhood development, particularly the issue of attatchment. And what are the consequences of severed attatchments. You may not care, but we'd perfer to think you do care about your own child.

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Whatever OP, do what you want. I still think you're a troll but if not you are asking why you shouldn't fire someone your kids have grown to love and trust over the past two years because she asked for a raise and you weren't mature or sensible enough to give her a professional answer? Maybe you'd be doing her a favor by letting her go...not so sure about your kids, though.

Yes, everyone is a troll because we can't all afford $35/hr. Sorry Mrs. Obama.

Uhhhh...what?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with the PPs above - you made your priorities clear to your nanny and should have budgeted for an increase in her salary after two years!


It's women like you who give MBs a bad name.

OP here, let me clarify for all the harpies who are adding their own assumptions to my post. Nanny has received a raise during our 2 years, she just took the timing of this anniversary to ask for another. We have budgeted our nannies salary and raises and we don't feel it is time for another at this point in time.

This should have been your response when she asked for a raise rather than telling her you can't afford it.

At this point I want to just let her go and start over with a new nanny at the starting salary. Sure she has been with us for a little over two years but what is she doing better than any other nanny to justify her increased hourly rate??? I'm just so over it.

Oh, i don't know, spent two years bonding with your kids?

Exactly. Go study a little childhood development, particularly the issue of attatchment. And what are the consequences of severed attatchments. You may not care, but we'd perfer to think you do care about your own child.

Where are you in the discussion about hiring a nanny who plans to have a family of her own in the next year. Several MBs said they are afraid the nanny would leave then and that's why they wouldn't hire her. Interesting how you only use this argument when it benefits the nanny.

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Op do you have an email where you can reached?

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Anonymous wrote:Op do you have an email where you can reached?

Why?

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Anonymous wrote:Op do you have an email where you can reached?

It's a troll - you aren't going to get an email address from it!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with the PPs above - you made your priorities clear to your nanny and should have budgeted for an increase in her salary after two years!


It's women like you who give MBs a bad name.

OP here, let me clarify for all the harpies who are adding their own assumptions to my post. Nanny has received a raise during our 2 years, she just took the timing of this anniversary to ask for another. We have budgeted our nannies salary and raises and we don't feel it is time for another at this point in time.

This should have been your response when she asked for a raise rather than telling her you can't afford it.

At this point I want to just let her go and start over with a new nanny at the starting salary. Sure she has been with us for a little over two years but what is she doing better than any other nanny to justify her increased hourly rate??? I'm just so over it.

Oh, i don't know, spent two years bonding with your kids?

Exactly. Go study a little childhood development, particularly the issue of attatchment. And what are the consequences of severed attatchments. You may not care, but we'd perfer to think you do care about your own child.

Where are you in the discussion about hiring a nanny who plans to have a family of her own in the next year. Several MBs said they are afraid the nanny would leave then and that's why they wouldn't hire her. Interesting how you only use this argument when it benefits the nanny.

Yet again. You don't have a clue what you're talking about.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the PPs above - you made your priorities clear to your nanny and should have budgeted for an increase in her salary after two years!


It's women like you who give MBs a bad name.

OP here, let me clarify for all the harpies who are adding their own assumptions to my post. Nanny has received a raise during our 2 years, she just took the timing of this anniversary to ask for another. We have budgeted our nannies salary and raises and we don't feel it is time for another at this point in time.

This should have been your response when she asked for a raise rather than telling her you can't afford it.

At this point I want to just let her go and start over with a new nanny at the starting salary. Sure she has been with us for a little over two years but what is she doing better than any other nanny to justify her increased hourly rate??? I'm just so over it.

Oh, i don't know, spent two years bonding with your kids?

Exactly. Go study a little childhood development, particularly the issue of attatchment. And what are the consequences of severed attatchments. You may not care, but we'd perfer to think you do care about your own child.

Where are you in the discussion about hiring a nanny who plans to have a family of her own in the next year. Several MBs said they are afraid the nanny would leave then and that's why they wouldn't hire her. Interesting how you only use this argument when it benefits the nanny.

Yet again. You don't have a clue what you're talking about.

Your redundant response is getting old. Either explain why you don't agree or stop responding. If you want to change my mind I'm all ears but all this response tells me is that you don't actually have anything helpful to say, you just want to disagree because it works better for you that way.

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Every employer is afraid to hire women who may become pregnant. Heavy investment in a fly-by-night is a bitch.

If YOUR boss did the same to you,
you wouldn't NEED a nanny, would you???


Shame on you, ladies.

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OP, do you think your negative feelings and unprofessional management style have anything to do with the drop in performance you claim to be seeing from your nanny?

I do recognize that answering this question might force you into a self-reflection mode, and I doubt you are accustomed to deep thought about your choices and attitudes when it comes to "the help". I do hope your brain doesn't explode with the effort.

And just to help you reflect, irregular raises often cause irregular requests for raises. Unpaid and unchosen "vacation" time breeds resentment in any employee, and disdain for an employee rarely results in excellent job performance.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, MB, you deserve this treatment. You bought a new car and are taking the family to Jamaica -- then crying poor to your nanny on why you can't give her a raise?!

It is so outrageous that I fear you are a troll.

I would think so as well but my NF pulled the same shit. I asked for a raise because I will have all four kids full time and was told they couldn't afford it then the next day they told me they were going off for a week and a half to Mexico the next month. it was the same month as Christmas and all four got new tvs, 2 dirt bikes, electric scooters and other expensive gifts. I am now looking for a job. Don't claim poor and then go and buy expensive gifts.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, MB, you deserve this treatment. You bought a new car and are taking the family to Jamaica -- then crying poor to your nanny on why you can't give her a raise?!

It is so outrageous that I fear you are a troll.

I would think so as well but my NF pulled the same shit. I asked for a raise because I will have all four kids full time and was told they couldn't afford it then the next day they told me they were going off for a week and a half to Mexico the next month. it was the same month as Christmas and all four got new tvs, 2 dirt bikes, electric scooters and other expensive gifts. I am now looking for a job. Don't claim poor and then go and buy expensive gifts.

Sorry but you are not entitled to their money. They can buy whatever they want. Think of it this way, you aren't doing enough to DESERVE a raise and they are trying to be nice by saying it's not in the budget. It is unfortunate that the conversation came up for you right before Christmas, but any other time of the year they would have been saving your feelings.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, MB, you deserve this treatment. You bought a new car and are taking the family to Jamaica -- then crying poor to your nanny on why you can't give her a raise?!

It is so outrageous that I fear you are a troll.

I would think so as well but my NF pulled the same shit. I asked for a raise because I will have all four kids full time and was told they couldn't afford it then the next day they told me they were going off for a week and a half to Mexico the next month. it was the same month as Christmas and all four got new tvs, 2 dirt bikes, electric scooters and other expensive gifts. I am now looking for a job. Don't claim poor and then go and buy expensive gifts.

Sorry but you are not entitled to their money. They can buy whatever they want. Think of it this way, you aren't doing enough to DESERVE a raise and they are trying to be nice by saying it's not in the budget. It is unfortunate that the conversation came up for you right before Christmas, but any other time of the year they would have been saving your feelings.

She's entitled to fair wages and you know it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, MB, you deserve this treatment. You bought a new car and are taking the family to Jamaica -- then crying poor to your nanny on why you can't give her a raise?!

It is so outrageous that I fear you are a troll.

I would think so as well but my NF pulled the same shit. I asked for a raise because I will have all four kids full time and was told they couldn't afford it then the next day they told me they were going off for a week and a half to Mexico the next month. it was the same month as Christmas and all four got new tvs, 2 dirt bikes, electric scooters and other expensive gifts. I am now looking for a job. Don't claim poor and then go and buy expensive gifts.

Sorry but you are not entitled to their money. They can buy whatever they want. Think of it this way, you aren't doing enough to DESERVE a raise and they are trying to be nice by saying it's not in the budget. It is unfortunate that the conversation came up for you right before Christmas, but any other time of the year they would have been saving your feelings.

She's entitled to fair wages and you know it.

She obviously thought it was a fair wage when she took the job and based on her irregular raise history and the fact that she asked for a third raise in two years makes me assume raises were not built into their original agreement so I stand by my statement. If she was doing a good enough job to deserve a raise this woman would give her another one. Not getting a third raise (which tbh we don't even know how much that is, $0.50? $2 an hour?) doesn't mean she is being taken advantage of ... and you know it.