Nanny questioning how we spend our money

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. I hope you are paying your nanny for the week you will be in Jamaica.

No. We will not be using her services that week.

She's not an Independent Contractor, she is your employee. It is unforgivable not to offer guaranteed hours to a FT nanny.

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I hope she quits while you're away and leaves you high and dry and forced to use your own PTO while you find a replacement.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:you don't sound like a very good employer. Sorry OP. You can't tell someone you can't afford (or didn't budget) a raise and then go out and buy a new car, a trip to Jamaica and not even pay her for the hours you are electing not to use her. She reserved her time for you and no one else. If you chose not to use it, the time is still reserved for YOU and you need to pay her for it, ESPECIALLY since you're not giving her ample (months) notice to prepare for it and either save money she might spend on something else or line something else up, or plan a trip of her own. You seem morally bankrupt to me.

You know nothing about our family or our arrangement with our nanny. Theres other nannies making $10/hr and gift cards that are perfectly happy so I promise you my nanny is more than content. She just is greedy.

you can't say I know nothing...I know everything you've posted here which doesn't paint you in a favorable light.

[Anonymous]

I hope your nanny quits on you without notice, OP. You are a horrid employer and not very bright.

[Anonymous]

OP is an entitled, greedy woman, with little regard for the well-being of her innocent child. So sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is an entitled, greedy woman, with little regard for the well-being of her innocent child. So sad.

This board is just so utterly ridiculous sometimes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with the PPs above - you made your priorities clear to your nanny and should have budgeted for an increase in her salary after two years!


It's women like you who give MBs a bad name.

OP here, let me clarify for all the harpies who are adding their own assumptions to my post. Nanny has received a raise during our 2 years, she just took the timing of this anniversary to ask for another. We have budgeted our nannies salary and raises and we don't feel it is time for another at this point in time.

This should have been your response when she asked for a raise rather than telling her you can't afford it.

[Anonymous]

You are a wretched woman, OP. As an MB, even I can see that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the PPs above - you made your priorities clear to your nanny and should have budgeted for an increase in her salary after two years!


It's women like you who give MBs a bad name.

OP here, let me clarify for all the harpies who are adding their own assumptions to my post. Nanny has received a raise during our 2 years, she just took the timing of this anniversary to ask for another. We have budgeted our nannies salary and raises and we don't feel it is time for another at this point in time.

This should have been your response when she asked for a raise rather than telling her you can't afford it.

At this point I want to just let her go and start over with a new nanny at the starting salary. Sure she has been with us for a little over two years but what is she doing better than any other nanny to justify her increased hourly rate??? I'm just so over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the PPs above - you made your priorities clear to your nanny and should have budgeted for an increase in her salary after two years!


It's women like you who give MBs a bad name.

OP here, let me clarify for all the harpies who are adding their own assumptions to my post. Nanny has received a raise during our 2 years, she just took the timing of this anniversary to ask for another. We have budgeted our nannies salary and raises and we don't feel it is time for another at this point in time.

This should have been your response when she asked for a raise rather than telling her you can't afford it.

At this point I want to just let her go and start over with a new nanny at the starting salary. Sure she has been with us for a little over two years but what is she doing better than any other nanny to justify her increased hourly rate??? I'm just so over it.

Oh, i don't know, spent two years bonding with your kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the PPs above - you made your priorities clear to your nanny and should have budgeted for an increase in her salary after two years!


It's women like you who give MBs a bad name.

OP here, let me clarify for all the harpies who are adding their own assumptions to my post. Nanny has received a raise during our 2 years, she just took the timing of this anniversary to ask for another. We have budgeted our nannies salary and raises and we don't feel it is time for another at this point in time.

This should have been your response when she asked for a raise rather than telling her you can't afford it.

At this point I want to just let her go and start over with a new nanny at the starting salary. Sure she has been with us for a little over two years but what is she doing better than any other nanny to justify her increased hourly rate??? I'm just so over it.

Oh, i don't know, spent two years bonding with your kids?

But how does that justify more money? She's not doing anything better, in fact I feel she's becoming complacent and demanding.

[Anonymous]

Goodness OP you are digging in rather than opening up to feedback. Are you really going to fire the nanny because a bunch of people on a website pissed you off? I agree that you are wrong. But the dea that on top of it all you are going to fire this girl because you are upset with a bunch of strangers on DCUM pushes it over the brink of disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the PPs above - you made your priorities clear to your nanny and should have budgeted for an increase in her salary after two years!


It's women like you who give MBs a bad name.

OP here, let me clarify for all the harpies who are adding their own assumptions to my post. Nanny has received a raise during our 2 years, she just took the timing of this anniversary to ask for another. We have budgeted our nannies salary and raises and we don't feel it is time for another at this point in time.

This should have been your response when she asked for a raise rather than telling her you can't afford it.

At this point I want to just let her go and start over with a new nanny at the starting salary. Sure she has been with us for a little over two years but what is she doing better than any other nanny to justify her increased hourly rate??? I'm just so over it.

Oh, i don't know, spent two years bonding with your kids?

But how does that justify more money? She's not doing anything better, in fact I feel she's becoming complacent and demanding.

Whatever OP, do what you want. I still think you're a troll but if not you are asking why you shouldn't fire someone your kids have grown to love and trust over the past two years because she asked for a raise and you weren't mature or sensible enough to give her a professional answer? Maybe you'd be doing her a favor by letting her go...not so sure about your kids, though.

[Anonymous]

You people don't really believe this is a serious post, do you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You people don't really believe this is a serious post, do you?

There are a lot of horrible MBs out there - and this one is particularly vile but not out out of the realm of possibility.

[Anonymous]

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Whatever OP, do what you want. I still think you're a troll but if not you are asking why you shouldn't fire someone your kids have grown to love and trust over the past two years because she asked for a raise and you weren't mature or sensible enough to give her a professional answer? Maybe you'd be doing her a favor by letting her go...not so sure about your kids, though.

Yes, everyone is a troll because we can't all afford $35/hr. Sorry Mrs. Obama.