Advice about quitting

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You should stay through Christmas, like you had originally planned. I've had employers forget to give checks, it happens. Give your notice that you are staying until Christmas like said you would. It will get MB off her butt to find someone and you will have followed through on a commitment.

BS. They didn't forget to write a check one week, that happens to most of us now and again, but failed to pay her repeatedly AND wrote bad checks. Dunno about OP but I have to pay a fee when a check bounces. They broke their commitment to her, so she owes them nothing.

OP never said they wrote her a bad check. She finds them to be rude and disrespectful, but never said they wrote her a bad check. Even if she "owes them nothing", she should still stay through when she said she would. It is frustrating not to be paid on time, believe me, I know, I've been there many times. And I have had a checks bounce on me before. It happens. I didn't quit my job when it happened. They offered to pay any fees that may have resulted because of it. We all make mistakes.


You girls who whine about every little thing seriously need to grow up. No job is perfect, no person is perfect. Employers make mistakes. It happens. Get over it.

Said the doormat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should stay through Christmas, like you had originally planned. I've had employers forget to give checks, it happens. Give your notice that you are staying until Christmas like said you would. It will get MB off her butt to find someone and you will have followed through on a commitment.

BS. They didn't forget to write a check one week, that happens to most of us now and again, but failed to pay her repeatedly AND wrote bad checks. Dunno about OP but I have to pay a fee when a check bounces. They broke their commitment to her, so she owes them nothing.

OP never said they wrote her a bad check. She finds them to be rude and disrespectful, but never said they wrote her a bad check. Even if she "owes them nothing", she should still stay through when she said she would. It is frustrating not to be paid on time, believe me, I know, I've been there many times. And I have had a checks bounce on me before. It happens. I didn't quit my job when it happened. They offered to pay any fees that may have resulted because of it. We all make mistakes.


You girls who whine about every little thing seriously need to grow up. No job is perfect, no person is perfect. Employers make mistakes. It happens. Get over it.

Said the doormat.

There is a huge difference between being a doormat and not quitting a job every time the wind blows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should stay through Christmas, like you had originally planned. I've had employers forget to give checks, it happens. Give your notice that you are staying until Christmas like said you would. It will get MB off her butt to find someone and you will have followed through on a commitment.

BS. They didn't forget to write a check one week, that happens to most of us now and again, but failed to pay her repeatedly AND wrote bad checks. Dunno about OP but I have to pay a fee when a check bounces. They broke their commitment to her, so she owes them nothing.

OP never said they wrote her a bad check. She finds them to be rude and disrespectful, but never said they wrote her a bad check. Even if she "owes them nothing", she should still stay through when she said she would. It is frustrating not to be paid on time, believe me, I know, I've been there many times. And I have had a checks bounce on me before. It happens. I didn't quit my job when it happened. They offered to pay any fees that may have resulted because of it. We all make mistakes.


You girls who whine about every little thing seriously need to grow up. No job is perfect, no person is perfect. Employers make mistakes. It happens. Get over it.

Said the doormat.

There is a huge difference between being a doormat and not quitting a job every time the wind blows.

I'm afraid to ask what it would take to make you quit a job if being treated like crap and not being paid in a timely fashion are just fine.
That's about a bad as it gets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should stay through Christmas, like you had originally planned. I've had employers forget to give checks, it happens. Give your notice that you are staying until Christmas like said you would. It will get MB off her butt to find someone and you will have followed through on a commitment.

BS. They didn't forget to write a check one week, that happens to most of us now and again, but failed to pay her repeatedly AND wrote bad checks. Dunno about OP but I have to pay a fee when a check bounces. They broke their commitment to her, so she owes them nothing.

OP never said they wrote her a bad check. She finds them to be rude and disrespectful, but never said they wrote her a bad check. Even if he "owes them nothing", she should still stay through when she said she would. It is frustrating not to be paid on time, believe me, I know, I've been there many times. And I have had a checks bounce on me before. It happens. I didn't quit my job when it happened. They offered to pay any fees that may have resulted because of it. We all make mistakes.


You girls who whine about every little thing seriously need to grow up. No job is perfect, no person is perfect. Employers make mistakes. It happens. Get over it.

Nice try with the "girls" insult.
Anyways...no one is asking for perfection and there are numerous threads that demonstrate otherwise; nannies deal with perpetual lateness, rude and controlling MBs, kids with horrible behavior, job creep, you name it. We are all aware that these jobs are far from perfect. Yes, it is whined about but, for the most part, tolerated on a daily basis. Repeatedly "forgetting" (yeah right) to pay your employee is not a little thing nor is it a mistake. OP is not being petty and is more than justified in quitting.
If OP's employers weren't being paid on time, I doubt anyone would be telling them to get over it. Why should their nanny not expect the same?

[Anonymous]

Just as a nanny can be fired for cause with no warning for egregious offenses, nannies can similarly quit. There are basic duties an employer has to their employee, which unmet, are completely justified reasons for quitting without notice. One of those reasons is a failure to pay in full and on time. Payment for services is the basic premise of the relationship, and without it there IS no relationship. Wait until you have been paid in full for all the hours you have worked OP, then you have no reason to honor any commitment there might have been.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell them on Friday after you've been paid.

Sound advice.

I want to add one more thing though.

If you get paid via personal check, make sure the check clears first before you tap out.

I have had families actually cancel payment on checks maliciously.

Good for you.
This family sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should stay through Christmas, like you had originally planned. I've had employers forget to give checks, it happens. Give your notice that you are staying until Christmas like said you would. It will get MB off her butt to find someone and you will have followed through on a commitment.

BS. They didn't forget to write a check one week, that happens to most of us now and again, but failed to pay her repeatedly AND wrote bad checks. Dunno about OP but I have to pay a fee when a check bounces. They broke their commitment to her, so she owes them nothing.

OP never said they wrote her a bad check. She finds them to be rude and disrespectful, but never said they wrote her a bad check. Even if he "owes them nothing", she should still stay through when she said she would. It is frustrating not to be paid on time, believe me, I know, I've been there many times. And I have had a checks bounce on me before. It happens. I didn't quit my job when it happened. They offered to pay any fees that may have resulted because of it. We all make mistakes.


You girls who whine about every little thing seriously need to grow up. No job is perfect, no person is perfect. Employers make mistakes. It happens. Get over it.

Nice try with the "girls" insult.
Anyways...no one is asking for perfection and there are numerous threads that demonstrate otherwise; nannies deal with perpetual lateness, rude and controlling MBs, kids with horrible behavior, job creep, you name it. We are all aware that these jobs are far from perfect. Yes, it is whined about but, for the most part, tolerated on a daily basis. Repeatedly "forgetting" (yeah right) to pay your employee is not a little thing nor is it a mistake. OP is not being petty and is more than justified in quitting.
If OP's employers weren't being paid on time, I doubt anyone would be telling them to get over it. Why should their nanny not expect the same?

And on the other side, you have nannies who think it is ok to leave early and still expect to get paid their full amount, want more vacation than they agreed to, want a raise 5 minutes after they get hired because they heard about some other nanny getting more than she does, do not clean up after themselves, ignore their charges at the park because they are too busy talking to their friends or are texting on their cellphones, asking for advances in their pay, don't want to come to work because little Sally has the sniffles, don't think they should put a dish away that was left out on the counter by their bosses, are insulted if the MB even dares ask them to work one minute more than they are supposed to, nannies who claim they have all this experience taking care of children, but yet, don't have a clue as to what they should do with a one year old, sleep on the job, and don't want to come in when it is snowing out.....it goes both ways.


Did OP have a sit down with her employers about the check, or did she say nothing and decide that the best course of action would be to quit? I get that it is sometimes hard to talk to the MB and DB. But if you don't address things with them, things will not even begin to change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should stay through Christmas, like you had originally planned. I've had employers forget to give checks, it happens. Give your notice that you are staying until Christmas like said you would. It will get MB off her butt to find someone and you will have followed through on a commitment.

BS. They didn't forget to write a check one week, that happens to most of us now and again, but failed to pay her repeatedly AND wrote bad checks. Dunno about OP but I have to pay a fee when a check bounces. They broke their commitment to her, so she owes them nothing.

OP never said they wrote her a bad check. She finds them to be rude and disrespectful, but never said they wrote her a bad check. Even if she "owes them nothing", she should still stay through when she said she would. It is frustrating not to be paid on time, believe me, I know, I've been there many times. And I have had a checks bounce on me before. It happens. I didn't quit my job when it happened. They offered to pay any fees that may have resulted because of it. We all make mistakes.


You girls who whine about every little thing seriously need to grow up. No job is perfect, no person is perfect. Employers make mistakes. It happens. Get over it.

Said the doormat.

There is a huge difference between being a doormat and not quitting a job every time the wind blows.

I'm afraid to ask what it would take to make you quit a job if being treated like crap and not being paid in a timely fashion are just fine.
That's about a bad as it gets.

I have quit bad jobs. I have quit two really bad jobs. One I knew was a mistake about five minutes after I started, but I stayed for a few months so I could build a bit of a nest egg so I could take more time to find a great job after I left that one. But I am smart enough to know that you don't leave a bad work situation without some sort of back up plan.


We don't know if this family has treated her like crap. She has said the check has been late three times. I'm not saying what they did is ok, but I am saying that it happens. And it is frustrating when it happens, especially when you need that money to pay bills. But I think her leaving the family without at least giving them notice is just as crappy, if not more so than what they have done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should stay through Christmas, like you had originally planned. I've had employers forget to give checks, it happens. Give your notice that you are staying until Christmas like said you would. It will get MB off her butt to find someone and you will have followed through on a commitment.

BS. They didn't forget to write a check one week, that happens to most of us now and again, but failed to pay her repeatedly AND wrote bad checks. Dunno about OP but I have to pay a fee when a check bounces. They broke their commitment to her, so she owes them nothing.

OP never said they wrote her a bad check. She finds them to be rude and disrespectful, but never said they wrote her a bad check. Even if he "owes them nothing", she should still stay through when she said she would. It is frustrating not to be paid on time, believe me, I know, I've been there many times. And I have had a checks bounce on me before. It happens. I didn't quit my job when it happened. They offered to pay any fees that may have resulted because of it. We all make mistakes.


You girls who whine about every little thing seriously need to grow up. No job is perfect, no person is perfect. Employers make mistakes. It happens. Get over it.

Nice try with the "girls" insult.
Anyways...no one is asking for perfection and there are numerous threads that demonstrate otherwise; nannies deal with perpetual lateness, rude and controlling MBs, kids with horrible behavior, job creep, you name it. We are all aware that these jobs are far from perfect. Yes, it is whined about but, for the most part, tolerated on a daily basis. Repeatedly "forgetting" (yeah right) to pay your employee is not a little thing nor is it a mistake. OP is not being petty and is more than justified in quitting.
If OP's employers weren't being paid on time, I doubt anyone would be telling them to get over it. Why should their nanny not expect the same?

And on the other side, you have nannies who think it is ok to leave early and still expect to get paid their full amount, want more vacation than they agreed to, want a raise 5 minutes after they get hired because they heard about some other nanny getting more than she does, do not clean up after themselves, ignore their charges at the park because they are too busy talking to their friends or are texting on their cellphones, asking for advances in their pay, don't want to come to work because little Sally has the sniffles, don't think they should put a dish away that was left out on the counter by their bosses, are insulted if the MB even dares ask them to work one minute more than they are supposed to, nannies who claim they have all this experience taking care of children, but yet, don't have a clue as to what they should do with a one year old, sleep on the job, and don't want to come in when it is snowing out.....it goes both ways.


Did OP have a sit down with her employers about the check, or did she say nothing and decide that the best course of action would be to quit? I get that it is sometimes hard to talk to the MB and DB. But if you don't address things with them, things will not even begin to change.

Someone went off their meds today. Your assumption that all nannies do these things really shows what an imbecile you are.
If I am frequently not paid on time, you can bet your sweet ass I'll quit without notice. These idiots don't deserve notice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should stay through Christmas, like you had originally planned. I've had employers forget to give checks, it happens. Give your notice that you are staying until Christmas like said you would. It will get MB off her butt to find someone and you will have followed through on a commitment.

BS. They didn't forget to write a check one week, that happens to most of us now and again, but failed to pay her repeatedly AND wrote bad checks. Dunno about OP but I have to pay a fee when a check bounces. They broke their commitment to her, so she owes them nothing.

OP never said they wrote her a bad check. She finds them to be rude and disrespectful, but never said they wrote her a bad check. Even if she "owes them nothing", she should still stay through when she said she would. It is frustrating not to be paid on time, believe me, I know, I've been there many times. And I have had a checks bounce on me before. It happens. I didn't quit my job when it happened. They offered to pay any fees that may have resulted because of it. We all make mistakes.


You girls who whine about every little thing seriously need to grow up. No job is perfect, no person is perfect. Employers make mistakes. It happens. Get over it.

Said the doormat.

There is a huge difference between being a doormat and not quitting a job every time the wind blows.

I'm afraid to ask what it would take to make you quit a job if being treated like crap and not being paid in a timely fashion are just fine.
That's about a bad as it gets.

I have quit bad jobs. I have quit two really bad jobs. One I knew was a mistake about five minutes after I started, but I stayed for a few months so I could build a bit of a nest egg so I could take more time to find a great job after I left that one. But I am smart enough to know that you don't leave a bad work situation without some sort of back up plan.


We don't know if this family has treated her like crap. She has said the check has been late three times. I'm not saying what they did is ok, but I am saying that it happens. And it is frustrating when it happens, especially when you need that money to pay bills. But I think her leaving the family without at least giving them notice is just as crappy, if not more so than what they have done.

Well, you're in luck! Sounds like they'll have a job opening very soon.
You can work for them. Let us know how you like being paid late!
Doormat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should stay through Christmas, like you had originally planned. I've had employers forget to give checks, it happens. Give your notice that you are staying until Christmas like said you would. It will get MB off her butt to find someone and you will have followed through on a commitment.

BS. They didn't forget to write a check one week, that happens to most of us now and again, but failed to pay her repeatedly AND wrote bad checks. Dunno about OP but I have to pay a fee when a check bounces. They broke their commitment to her, so she owes them nothing.

OP never said they wrote her a bad check. She finds them to be rude and disrespectful, but never said they wrote her a bad check. Even if he "owes them nothing", she should still stay through when she said she would. It is frustrating not to be paid on time, believe me, I know, I've been there many times. And I have had a checks bounce on me before. It happens. I didn't quit my job when it happened. They offered to pay any fees that may have resulted because of it. We all make mistakes.


You girls who whine about every little thing seriously need to grow up. No job is perfect, no person is perfect. Employers make mistakes. It happens. Get over it.

Nice try with the "girls" insult.
Anyways...no one is asking for perfection and there are numerous threads that demonstrate otherwise; nannies deal with perpetual lateness, rude and controlling MBs, kids with horrible behavior, job creep, you name it. We are all aware that these jobs are far from perfect. Yes, it is whined about but, for the most part, tolerated on a daily basis. Repeatedly "forgetting" (yeah right) to pay your employee is not a little thing nor is it a mistake. OP is not being petty and is more than justified in quitting.
If OP's employers weren't being paid on time, I doubt anyone would be telling them to get over it. Why should their nanny not expect the same?

And on the other side, you have nannies who think it is ok to leave early and still expect to get paid their full amount, want more vacation than they agreed to, want a raise 5 minutes after they get hired because they heard about some other nanny getting more than she does, do not clean up after themselves, ignore their charges at the park because they are too busy talking to their friends or are texting on their cellphones, asking for advances in their pay, don't want to come to work because little Sally has the sniffles, don't think they should put a dish away that was left out on the counter by their bosses, are insulted if the MB even dares ask them to work one minute more than they are supposed to, nannies who claim they have all this experience taking care of children, but yet, don't have a clue as to what they should do with a one year old, sleep on the job, and don't want to come in when it is snowing out.....it goes both ways.


Did OP have a sit down with her employers about the check, or did she say nothing and decide that the best course of action would be to quit? I get that it is sometimes hard to talk to the MB and DB. But if you don't address things with them, things will not even begin to change.

Someone went off their meds today. Your assumption that all nannies do these things really shows what an imbecile you are.
If I am frequently not paid on time, you can bet your sweet ass I'll quit without notice. These idiots don't deserve notice.

I'm not the PP but no where in her post did she say all nannies do those things. Moreover, she was responding to the post that described all the things that nannies have to put up with from the supposedly awful MBs. How was this post different? It's very hypocritical of you to talk about all the "awful" things MBs do but not be able to accept it when someone talks about things nannies do (which by the way, many posts on DCUM also demonstrate) and it also takes credibility away from your own argument.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should stay through Christmas, like you had originally planned. I've had employers forget to give checks, it happens. Give your notice that you are staying until Christmas like said you would. It will get MB off her butt to find someone and you will have followed through on a commitment.

BS. They didn't forget to write a check one week, that happens to most of us now and again, but failed to pay her repeatedly AND wrote bad checks. Dunno about OP but I have to pay a fee when a check bounces. They broke their commitment to her, so she owes them nothing.

OP never said they wrote her a bad check. She finds them to be rude and disrespectful, but never said they wrote her a bad check. Even if he "owes them nothing", she should still stay through when she said she would. It is frustrating not to be paid on time, believe me, I know, I've been there many times. And I have had a checks bounce on me before. It happens. I didn't quit my job when it happened. They offered to pay any fees that may have resulted because of it. We all make mistakes.


You girls who whine about every little thing seriously need to grow up. No job is perfect, no person is perfect. Employers make mistakes. It happens. Get over it.

Nice try with the "girls" insult.
Anyways...no one is asking for perfection and there are numerous threads that demonstrate otherwise; nannies deal with perpetual lateness, rude and controlling MBs, kids with horrible behavior, job creep, you name it. We are all aware that these jobs are far from perfect. Yes, it is whined about but, for the most part, tolerated on a daily basis. Repeatedly "forgetting" (yeah right) to pay your employee is not a little thing nor is it a mistake. OP is not being petty and is more than justified in quitting.
If OP's employers weren't being paid on time, I doubt anyone would be telling them to get over it. Why should their nanny not expect the same?

And on the other side, you have nannies who think it is ok to leave early and still expect to get paid their full amount, want more vacation than they agreed to, want a raise 5 minutes after they get hired because they heard about some other nanny getting more than she does, do not clean up after themselves, ignore their charges at the park because they are too busy talking to their friends or are texting on their cellphones, asking for advances in their pay, don't want to come to work because little Sally has the sniffles, don't think they should put a dish away that was left out on the counter by their bosses, are insulted if the MB even dares ask them to work one minute more than they are supposed to, nannies who claim they have all this experience taking care of children, but yet, don't have a clue as to what they should do with a one year old, sleep on the job, and don't want to come in when it is snowing out.....it goes both ways.


Did OP have a sit down with her employers about the check, or did she say nothing and decide that the best course of action would be to quit? I get that it is sometimes hard to talk to the MB and DB. But if you don't address things with them, things will not even begin to change.

Someone went off their meds today. Your assumption that all nannies do these things really shows what an imbecile you are.
If I am frequently not paid on time, you can bet your sweet ass I'll quit without notice. These idiots don't deserve notice.

And the assumption that all nanny employers do the things that were listed is any better?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should stay through Christmas, like you had originally planned. I've had employers forget to give checks, it happens. Give your notice that you are staying until Christmas like said you would. It will get MB off her butt to find someone and you will have followed through on a commitment.

BS. They didn't forget to write a check one week, that happens to most of us now and again, but failed to pay her repeatedly AND wrote bad checks. Dunno about OP but I have to pay a fee when a check bounces. They broke their commitment to her, so she owes them nothing.

OP never said they wrote her a bad check. She finds them to be rude and disrespectful, but never said they wrote her a bad check. Even if he "owes them nothing", she should still stay through when she said she would. It is frustrating not to be paid on time, believe me, I know, I've been there many times. And I have had a checks bounce on me before. It happens. I didn't quit my job when it happened. They offered to pay any fees that may have resulted because of it. We all make mistakes.


You girls who whine about every little thing seriously need to grow up. No job is perfect, no person is perfect. Employers make mistakes. It happens. Get over it.

Nice try with the "girls" insult.
Anyways...no one is asking for perfection and there are numerous threads that demonstrate otherwise; nannies deal with perpetual lateness, rude and controlling MBs, kids with horrible behavior, job creep, you name it. We are all aware that these jobs are far from perfect. Yes, it is whined about but, for the most part, tolerated on a daily basis. Repeatedly "forgetting" (yeah right) to pay your employee is not a little thing nor is it a mistake. OP is not being petty and is more than justified in quitting.
If OP's employers weren't being paid on time, I doubt anyone would be telling them to get over it. Why should their nanny not expect the same?

And on the other side, you have nannies who think it is ok to leave early and still expect to get paid their full amount, want more vacation than they agreed to, want a raise 5 minutes after they get hired because they heard about some other nanny getting more than she does, do not clean up after themselves, ignore their charges at the park because they are too busy talking to their friends or are texting on their cellphones, asking for advances in their pay, don't want to come to work because little Sally has the sniffles, don't think they should put a dish away that was left out on the counter by their bosses, are insulted if the MB even dares ask them to work one minute more than they are supposed to, nannies who claim they have all this experience taking care of children, but yet, don't have a clue as to what they should do with a one year old, sleep on the job, and don't want to come in when it is snowing out.....it goes both ways.


Did OP have a sit down with her employers about the check, or did she say nothing and decide that the best course of action would be to quit? I get that it is sometimes hard to talk to the MB and DB. But if you don't address things with them, things will not even begin to change.

Someone went off their meds today. Your assumption that all nannies do these things really shows what an imbecile you are.
If I am frequently not paid on time, you can bet your sweet ass I'll quit without notice. These idiots don't deserve notice.

I'm not the PP but no where in her post did she say all nannies do those things. Moreover, she was responding to the post that described all the things that nannies have to put up with from the supposedly awful MBs. How was this post different? It's very hypocritical of you to talk about all the "awful" things MBs do but not be able to accept it when someone talks about things nannies do (which by the way, many posts on DCUM also demonstrate) and it also takes credibility away from your own argument.

It is ridiculous for her to justify that this nanny shouldn't quit without notice (because of not being paid on time, for Christ's sake) because some nannies do the things she listed. It was a BS argument and I was calling her out on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should stay through Christmas, like you had originally planned. I've had employers forget to give checks, it happens. Give your notice that you are staying until Christmas like said you would. It will get MB off her butt to find someone and you will have followed through on a commitment.

BS. They didn't forget to write a check one week, that happens to most of us now and again, but failed to pay her repeatedly AND wrote bad checks. Dunno about OP but I have to pay a fee when a check bounces. They broke their commitment to her, so she owes them nothing.

OP never said they wrote her a bad check. She finds them to be rude and disrespectful, but never said they wrote her a bad check. Even if he "owes them nothing", she should still stay through when she said she would. It is frustrating not to be paid on time, believe me, I know, I've been there many times. And I have had a checks bounce on me before. It happens. I didn't quit my job when it happened. They offered to pay any fees that may have resulted because of it. We all make mistakes.


You girls who whine about every little thing seriously need to grow up. No job is perfect, no person is perfect. Employers make mistakes. It happens. Get over it.

Nice try with the "girls" insult.
Anyways...no one is asking for perfection and there are numerous threads that demonstrate otherwise; nannies deal with perpetual lateness, rude and controlling MBs, kids with horrible behavior, job creep, you name it. We are all aware that these jobs are far from perfect. Yes, it is whined about but, for the most part, tolerated on a daily basis. Repeatedly "forgetting" (yeah right) to pay your employee is not a little thing nor is it a mistake. OP is not being petty and is more than justified in quitting.
If OP's employers weren't being paid on time, I doubt anyone would be telling them to get over it. Why should their nanny not expect the same?

And on the other side, you have nannies who think it is ok to leave early and still expect to get paid their full amount, want more vacation than they agreed to, want a raise 5 minutes after they get hired because they heard about some other nanny getting more than she does, do not clean up after themselves, ignore their charges at the park because they are too busy talking to their friends or are texting on their cellphones, asking for advances in their pay, don't want to come to work because little Sally has the sniffles, don't think they should put a dish away that was left out on the counter by their bosses, are insulted if the MB even dares ask them to work one minute more than they are supposed to, nannies who claim they have all this experience taking care of children, but yet, don't have a clue as to what they should do with a one year old, sleep on the job, and don't want to come in when it is snowing out.....it goes both ways.


Did OP have a sit down with her employers about the check, or did she say nothing and decide that the best course of action would be to quit? I get that it is sometimes hard to talk to the MB and DB. But if you don't address things with them, things will not even begin to change.

Someone went off their meds today. Your assumption that all nannies do these things really shows what an imbecile you are.
If I am frequently not paid on time, you can bet your sweet ass I'll quit without notice. These idiots don't deserve notice.

I'm not the PP but no where in her post did she say all nannies do those things. Moreover, she was responding to the post that described all the things that nannies have to put up with from the supposedly awful MBs. How was this post different? It's very hypocritical of you to talk about all the "awful" things MBs do but not be able to accept it when someone talks about things nannies do (which by the way, many posts on DCUM also demonstrate) and it also takes credibility away from your own argument.

It is ridiculous for her to justify that this nanny shouldn't quit without notice (because of not being paid on time, for Christ's sake) because some nannies do the things she listed. It was a BS argument and I was calling her out on it.

I do agree that not being paid on time is a big reason to quit so I'm not arguing otherwise, however, I just don't see how the PPs argument is different than saying the nanny is justified in quitting without notice because some employers do the things the other PP listed. Again, not saying the nanny isn't justified for quitting, you just can't say it's because some MB/DBs take advantage in other ways too when this particular MB/DB didn't.

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Op here, I have spoken with them. The first time they forgot I let it slide because it was the first time I finished the week on a Wednesday and honestly I forgot I wasn't working until and it was a short week. Then 2 weeks after that they forgot again (the grandma was there when I got there and then relieved me after so she was unable to write the check) I emailed my boss about the check I also let them know that I need to be paid on time or it's not going to work out. This last check I was supposed to be paid on the 26th due to the holiday (they even mentioned this when he gave me the other check late. When I asked on tues if there was a check on the table he said his accountant told him not to pay in advance (the check would have included my pay up until fri per are agreement that I get paid normally scheduled days that are off, I get paid off for holidays that fall on my days or if schools are off since mb is a teacher). So I was expecting the check on Monday he didn't have one and said I'll get it Friday. I've had to go into my savings 3 times now to pay my bills when I wouldn't have to if I was paid on time. This last check being late by an extra week now is the final straw.

I am on the fence right now as to wether I just quit after I receive the check or tell them I can do a week or two so they can find a replacement. Since she hasn't done her part in looking ( we agreed if she found someone sooner than I was supposed to be finished then I would be done then which I'm fine with) that they aren't serious about me leaving at Xmas and will play a guilt trip that they have nobody else to help them.