Advice about quitting

[Anonymous]

PP with the nanny complaint list in question. I wasn't giving any of these reasons as justification for quitting, nor was I wsaying that nanjies are without fault (its pretty clear from the opinions on DCUM all nannies are horrible, late, lazy, slobby, entitled brats). I was simply responding to the poster who claimed nannies whine and quit over every little thing, the list was to point out a few things that many nannys put up with all of the time without quitting.
I wasn't bashing MBs. You ladies need to calm down and work on your reading comprehension.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I have spoken with them. The first time they forgot I let it slide because it was the first time I finished the week on a Wednesday and honestly I forgot I wasn't working until and it was a short week. Then 2 weeks after that they forgot again (the grandma was there when I got there and then relieved me after so she was unable to write the check) I emailed my boss about the check I also let them know that I need to be paid on time or it's not going to work out. This last check I was supposed to be paid on the 26th due to the holiday (they even mentioned this when he gave me the other check late. When I asked on tues if there was a check on the table he said his accountant told him not to pay in advance (the check would have included my pay up until fri per are agreement that I get paid normally scheduled days that are off, I get paid off for holidays that fall on my days or if schools are off since mb is a teacher). So I was expecting the check on Monday he didn't have one and said I'll get it Friday. I've had to go into my savings 3 times now to pay my bills when I wouldn't have to if I was paid on time. This last check being late by an extra week now is the final straw.

I am on the fence right now as to wether I just quit after I receive the check or tell them I can do a week or two so they can find a replacement. Since she hasn't done her part in looking ( we agreed if she found someone sooner than I was supposed to be finished then I would be done then which I'm fine with) that they aren't serious about me leaving at Xmas and will play a guilt trip that they have nobody else to help them.

I can fault them for one of these three times. But the other two, just misunderstandings. One of them was a short week and you wanted to be paid before the pay period ended. And the grandma situation, I probably would have forgotten to pay you as well if I weren't home.

Give them notice, and stay for that time. But MB has to come to terms with you leaving. You could look at it like this, their reluctance in looking for someone shows that they like what you have been doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP with the nanny complaint list in question. I wasn't giving any of these reasons as justification for quitting, nor was I wsaying that nanjies are without fault (its pretty clear from the opinions on DCUM all nannies are horrible, late, lazy, slobby, entitled brats). I was simply responding to the poster who claimed nannies whine and quit over every little thing, the list was to point out a few things that many nannys put up with all of the time without quitting.
I wasn't bashing MBs. You ladies need to calm down and work on your reading comprehension.

Pot, meet kettle.

[Anonymous]

OP these employers clearly don't know what they're doing as employers, and you are paying the price for their learning curve.

You also don't sound like you know what you're doing as an employee.

You're probably all well-meaning people who don't know how to behave professionally yet in this setting.

You should do what feels right to you ethically, and what you feel comfortable with in the long run. You have to answer only to yourself really. A year from now what will you wish you had done if you run into this family in the grocery store or at a playground, etc... Use that as your test.

[Anonymous]

Get paid BEFORE you tell them or you'll be out money. They will DEF "forget" to pay you after that news.

[Anonymous]

OP they're going to be looking out for themselves so def grab your last check and bounce. This isn't a REAL employment situation so they can prob get away with not paying you, and they will so look out after yourself and bounce as soon as you get your money.

[Anonymous]

How do I sound like I don't know what I'm doing? Is it because the one week I forgot it was a short week?

I have been a full time nanny for 14 years, have the experience and references to back it up. I only took this job to help the family out while they find someone but if they aren't even looking that's not my problem.

I have a full time job starting in January and baby sit often for past families. This job was only as a favor and also so I wasn't just sitting around till January plus I was happy I wouldn't have to touch my savings but I have to anyways because they don't pay on time. I will not need them as a reference, never intended to use them even if we ended on good terms. Plus they live 45 minutes from me so I will not run into them at the grocery store or at the park as I never apply to jobs where they live

[Anonymous]

Hey...They forgot to pay you on time 3x??

I would leave them high and dry and let the door hit me on the way out??

Why does this family deserve any respect from this nanny? What comes around goes around and this family needs to get a taste of their own medicine for a change.

[Anonymous]

Op here update.

I was still on the fence today when I went into work and knew the right thing would be finish my commitment and only wanted to quit without notice because I was pissed. Well I'm even more pissed than I was. He again "forgot" my check said he was in hurry and asked if he could write it Monday. He kept trying to put it off till monad and I told him no I can't wait any longer. So he finally wrote the check. So I'm telling mb after the check clears by email that today was my last day and why especially since he didn't want to pay me today.

[Anonymous]

OP I'm soooo glad to hear you are done with them! What horrible treatment having to beg for your paycheck, nasty people with no respect or empathy for you.

[Anonymous]

There are consequences to being a bad boss, just like there are for being a bad employee. They didn't fulfill their commitment to you multiple times, and you don't owe them anything, OP. glad to hear you're moving on!

[Anonymous]

I guess when you make a mistake on your next job, it will be ok for your boss to fire you with no notice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess when you make a mistake on your next job, it will be ok for your boss to fire you with no notice.

If you repeatedly make BIG mistakes at your job, yes you should get fired. "Forgetting" to pay an employee is a huge "mistake" and they did it multiple times. They deserve to be "fired" with no notice.

[Anonymous]

They did have notice that if they continued to forget my check I wouldn't be able to continue with them. I'm a nanny for children not adults I'm not going to baby them

[Anonymous]

19:36 is completely right.
Watch out if parents call you THEIR nanny.