Advice about quitting

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Anonymous wrote:You should stay through Christmas, like you had originally planned. I've had employers forget to give checks, it happens. Give your notice that you are staying until Christmas like said you would. It will get MB off her butt to find someone and you will have followed through on a commitment.

BS. They didn't forget to write a check one week, that happens to most of us now and again, but failed to pay her repeatedly AND wrote bad checks. Dunno about OP but I have to pay a fee when a check bounces. They broke their commitment to her, so she owes them nothing.

OP never said they wrote her a bad check. She finds them to be rude and disrespectful, but never said they wrote her a bad check. Even if he "owes them nothing", she should still stay through when she said she would. It is frustrating not to be paid on time, believe me, I know, I've been there many times. And I have had a checks bounce on me before. It happens. I didn't quit my job when it happened. They offered to pay any fees that may have resulted because of it. We all make mistakes.


You girls who whine about every little thing seriously need to grow up. No job is perfect, no person is perfect. Employers make mistakes. It happens. Get over it.

Nice try with the "girls" insult.
Anyways...no one is asking for perfection and there are numerous threads that demonstrate otherwise; nannies deal with perpetual lateness, rude and controlling MBs, kids with horrible behavior, job creep, you name it. We are all aware that these jobs are far from perfect. Yes, it is whined about but, for the most part, tolerated on a daily basis. Repeatedly "forgetting" (yeah right) to pay your employee is not a little thing nor is it a mistake. OP is not being petty and is more than justified in quitting.
If OP's employers weren't being paid on time, I doubt anyone would be telling them to get over it. Why should their nanny not expect the same?

And on the other side, you have nannies who think it is ok to leave early and still expect to get paid their full amount, want more vacation than they agreed to, want a raise 5 minutes after they get hired because they heard about some other nanny getting more than she does, do not clean up after themselves, ignore their charges at the park because they are too busy talking to their friends or are texting on their cellphones, asking for advances in their pay, don't want to come to work because little Sally has the sniffles, don't think they should put a dish away that was left out on the counter by their bosses, are insulted if the MB even dares ask them to work one minute more than they are supposed to, nannies who claim they have all this experience taking care of children, but yet, don't have a clue as to what they should do with a one year old, sleep on the job, and don't want to come in when it is snowing out.....it goes both ways.


Did OP have a sit down with her employers about the check, or did she say nothing and decide that the best course of action would be to quit? I get that it is sometimes hard to talk to the MB and DB. But if you don't address things with them, things will not even begin to change.

It isn't OP's job to sit down with 2 adults to speak with them about the importance of paying their bills on time.
I don't get paid...I don't work.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should stay through Christmas, like you had originally planned. I've had employers forget to give checks, it happens. Give your notice that you are staying until Christmas like said you would. It will get MB off her butt to find someone and you will have followed through on a commitment.

BS. They didn't forget to write a check one week, that happens to most of us now and again, but failed to pay her repeatedly AND wrote bad checks. Dunno about OP but I have to pay a fee when a check bounces. They broke their commitment to her, so she owes them nothing.

OP never said they wrote her a bad check. She finds them to be rude and disrespectful, but never said they wrote her a bad check. Even if he "owes them nothing", she should still stay through when she said she would. It is frustrating not to be paid on time, believe me, I know, I've been there many times. And I have had a checks bounce on me before. It happens. I didn't quit my job when it happened. They offered to pay any fees that may have resulted because of it. We all make mistakes.


You girls who whine about every little thing seriously need to grow up. No job is perfect, no person is perfect. Employers make mistakes. It happens. Get over it.

Nice try with the "girls" insult.
Anyways...no one is asking for perfection and there are numerous threads that demonstrate otherwise; nannies deal with perpetual lateness, rude and controlling MBs, kids with horrible behavior, job creep, you name it. We are all aware that these jobs are far from perfect. Yes, it is whined about but, for the most part, tolerated on a daily basis. Repeatedly "forgetting" (yeah right) to pay your employee is not a little thing nor is it a mistake. OP is not being petty and is more than justified in quitting.
If OP's employers weren't being paid on time, I doubt anyone would be telling them to get over it. Why should their nanny not expect the same?

And on the other side, you have nannies who think it is ok to leave early and still expect to get paid their full amount, want more vacation than they agreed to, want a raise 5 minutes after they get hired because they heard about some other nanny getting more than she does, do not clean up after themselves, ignore their charges at the park because they are too busy talking to their friends or are texting on their cellphones, asking for advances in their pay, don't want to come to work because little Sally has the sniffles, don't think they should put a dish away that was left out on the counter by their bosses, are insulted if the MB even dares ask them to work one minute more than they are supposed to, nannies who claim they have all this experience taking care of children, but yet, don't have a clue as to what they should do with a one year old, sleep on the job, and don't want to come in when it is snowing out.....it goes both ways.


Did OP have a sit down with her employers about the check, or did she say nothing and decide that the best course of action would be to quit? I get that it is sometimes hard to talk to the MB and DB. But if you don't address things with them, things will not even begin to change.

It isn't OP's job to sit down with 2 adults to speak with them about the importance of paying their bills on time.
I don't get paid...I don't work.

But if an employee has an issue with their employer, aren't they supposed to go to a supervisor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should stay through Christmas, like you had originally planned. I've had employers forget to give checks, it happens. Give your notice that you are staying until Christmas like said you would. It will get MB off her butt to find someone and you will have followed through on a commitment.

BS. They didn't forget to write a check one week, that happens to most of us now and again, but failed to pay her repeatedly AND wrote bad checks. Dunno about OP but I have to pay a fee when a check bounces. They broke their commitment to her, so she owes them nothing.

OP never said they wrote her a bad check. She finds them to be rude and disrespectful, but never said they wrote her a bad check. Even if he "owes them nothing", she should still stay through when she said she would. It is frustrating not to be paid on time, believe me, I know, I've been there many times. And I have had a checks bounce on me before. It happens. I didn't quit my job when it happened. They offered to pay any fees that may have resulted because of it. We all make mistakes.


You girls who whine about every little thing seriously need to grow up. No job is perfect, no person is perfect. Employers make mistakes. It happens. Get over it.

Nice try with the "girls" insult.
Anyways...no one is asking for perfection and there are numerous threads that demonstrate otherwise; nannies deal with perpetual lateness, rude and controlling MBs, kids with horrible behavior, job creep, you name it. We are all aware that these jobs are far from perfect. Yes, it is whined about but, for the most part, tolerated on a daily basis. Repeatedly "forgetting" (yeah right) to pay your employee is not a little thing nor is it a mistake. OP is not being petty and is more than justified in quitting.
If OP's employers weren't being paid on time, I doubt anyone would be telling them to get over it. Why should their nanny not expect the same?

And on the other side, you have nannies who think it is ok to leave early and still expect to get paid their full amount, want more vacation than they agreed to, want a raise 5 minutes after they get hired because they heard about some other nanny getting more than she does, do not clean up after themselves, ignore their charges at the park because they are too busy talking to their friends or are texting on their cellphones, asking for advances in their pay, don't want to come to work because little Sally has the sniffles, don't think they should put a dish away that was left out on the counter by their bosses, are insulted if the MB even dares ask them to work one minute more than they are supposed to, nannies who claim they have all this experience taking care of children, but yet, don't have a clue as to what they should do with a one year old, sleep on the job, and don't want to come in when it is snowing out.....it goes both ways.


Did OP have a sit down with her employers about the check, or did she say nothing and decide that the best course of action would be to quit? I get that it is sometimes hard to talk to the MB and DB. But if you don't address things with them, things will not even begin to change.

It isn't OP's job to sit down with 2 adults to speak with them about the importance of paying their bills on time.
I don't get paid...I don't work.

But if an employee has an issue with their employer, aren't they supposed to go to a supervisor?

She did. Multiple times. What do you all not get about failing to pay on time is a deal breaker. Once, okay. Twice, and most nannies will quit. Three times, and you absolutely deserve for her to quit with no notice. Its as detrimental to the relationship as lying or stealing. Its a huge deal. You can say she should talk to her employer about it, but there are simply some mistakes where you should realize you f'ed up and should be doing everything you can to fix it. If you need someone to point it out to you, then its probably not going to change.