Most parents don't know what they want.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe I think I'm the boss. Maybe the point is that it's my house, my family, my money paying your salary, and my rules. Maybe the point is you accepted this offer from me, for this job, working for someone you've had ample opportunity to get to know. If you don't like it you're free to leave but no one forced you to accept the offer after all the time you've invested in getting to know me as a potential employer.

How many references did you give her, so she had the opportunity to verify your self-praise? Zero? She didn't know you at all, did she?

Did she ask for any?

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe I think I'm the boss. Maybe the point is that it's my house, my family, my money paying your salary, and my rules. Maybe the point is you accepted this offer from me, for this job, working for someone you've had ample opportunity to get to know. If you don't like it you're free to leave but no one forced you to accept the offer after all the time you've invested in getting to know me as a potential employer.

How many references did you give her, so she had the opportunity to verify your self-praise? Zero? She didn't know you at all, did she?

Did she ask for any?

Your job to offer your references if you hope to hire a particular nanny.

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Anonymous wrote:Just a fun observation- So many MBs on DCUM say "I would never hire any nanny who visits DCUM. You're all entitled, rude and unprofessional." I am one of those nannies. The funny thing about it is that every single time I log into Care.com or Sittercity, I have 5 or 6 new messages from parents. I've found jobs through agencies and have to turn down interviews. Just goes to show...

I am the MB above with the two "morons", as you put it. Guess what? Got them both through two different agencies. We thoroughly checked references - that is, the names the agencies were willing to give us. That's why I don't use agencies anymore. I am not going to pay a $7K fee for attitude and grief.

Which nanny agencies are collecting $7,000. out of you?
No wonder you can't afford to pay the nanny a living wage!

Parents really need to expect more out of these agencies for that kind of money.

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Your downtown office job is 9-5, and nanny works 9-5?
So you live downtown next door to your office job. Now we got it. Thanks.

Don't tell me you've never heard of two-parent parents with staggered hours. Wife leaves at 8, husband leaves at 9 sort of thing?

It appears the nanny is the primary caregiver of your child. Your staggered hours with your husband gives you both some time with child, but nanny seems to have the majority of waking hours. If not, what's the breakdown of who has what hours?

Oh jeez, a 9 to 5 nanny is there for 8 hours. Deduct 4 hours for naps and all you have is four waking hours a day. The parents have the baby all evenings, all mornings, all night wakeups, all weekends. Believe me, the nanny won't come out ahead.

Few nannies work only 8 hr days.
I did 12 hr days, 5 days a week.

What makes you think you are a rule?

The only rule in the nanny world is that there's a kid.

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Your downtown office job is 9-5, and nanny works 9-5?
So you live downtown next door to your office job. Now we got it. Thanks.

Don't tell me you've never heard of two-parent parents with staggered hours. Wife leaves at 8, husband leaves at 9 sort of thing?

It appears the nanny is the primary caregiver of your child. Your staggered hours with your husband gives you both some time with child, but nanny seems to have the majority of waking hours. If not, what's the breakdown of who has what hours?

Oh jeez, a 9 to 5 nanny is there for 8 hours. Deduct 4 hours for naps and all you have is four waking hours a day. The parents have the baby all evenings, all mornings, all night wakeups, all weekends. Believe me, the nanny won't come out ahead.

Few nannies work only 8 hr days.
I did 12 hr days, 5 days a week.

What makes you think you are a rule?

The only rule in the nanny world is that there's a kid.

Not necessarily. I had a family offer me a job (no interview, no meeting, just offer me the job...) with a 27 year old with mental deficits. I wouldn't consider that a nanny position, but the parents do, they've "always" had a nanny for Johnny!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny and this thread is hugely embarrassing; while I consider myself a professional, I will always defer to the parents' wishes....because they are the PARENTS and in the end, I will likely be a little blip in their lives. the nannies on here are so mean to MBs and there's no reason to accost them like this

A good professional nanny will NEVER cause HARM to a child, EVEN if the parents ask her to. Never, never, never. If you you, you're a doormat, not a nanny.

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I don't understand why the nannies here are so insecure and have so much contempt for people who write their checks. I hired you, I write your check, pay your taxes, health insurance, paid vacation, OT and sick leave. In every sense of the law you are my employee I don't own you but you are my employee and you will take direction every day. I don't give a damn about what you think you know. I know what I want for my child and no nanny or sitter or whatever cares for my child as much as I do and that's the end of discussion .
By the end of a day, to you it's a job, to me it's my child. If you have an issue with that you can take your sorry ass out of my house and start picking strawberries at $5/hr.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why the nannies here are so insecure and have so much contempt for people who write their checks. I hired you, I write your check, pay your taxes, health insurance, paid vacation, OT and sick leave. In every sense of the law you are my employee I don't own you but you are my employee and you will take direction every day. I don't give a damn about what you think you know. I know what I want for my child and no nanny or sitter or whatever cares for my child as much as I do and that's the end of discussion .
By the end of a day, to you it's a job, to me it's my child. If you have an issue with that you can take your sorry ass out of my house and start picking strawberries at $5/hr.

What a sad sorry ass with a poor child who deserves better.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe I think I'm the boss. Maybe the point is that it's my house, my family, my money paying your salary, and my rules. Maybe the point is you accepted this offer from me, for this job, working for someone you've had ample opportunity to get to know. If you don't like it you're free to leave but no one forced you to accept the offer after all the time you've invested in getting to know me as a potential employer.

I'm sorry, I find statements like these funny. I'm a nanny and I don't really think of you as my boss. You're not better than me, you're not above me, or whatever, and you're not some hot shot CEO at a big company. I don't work for you, I work with you. We are in a mutually beneficial business relationship, you are my customer and client, and I make my own rules and set my own rates and standards. If you don't like it, you are free to do business elsewhere, as am I. I think a lot of MBs would do well to get off their "I'm the boss" high horse, stop thinking you're better than us/own us, and try to find someone you can work with, not someone who makes you feel like the boss.

Um..excuse me, we are not in a mutually beneficial business relationship. You are not a 1099 contra to, you are a W-2 employee for whom I pay 7.65% in taxes. We are not in a customer/ client relationship, we are in an employee/employer relationship per FLSA/DOL ( the one you like to quote to get paid OT). Nannies are non exempt employees, by definition non-exempt employees are given direction and tasks, they don't have much ( if at all) decision making capacity. You can tell me all this when DOL classifies nannies as consultants on 1099, until then you are a non exempt EMPLOYEE who is entitled to OT. The sooner you get your head examined the better off you will be.

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I tell parents what I do. If that's not what they're looking for, we don't have a match. Simple.

As I professional, I can't accommodate random whims with no rhyme or reason. My priority is what's best for the child.

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I tell parents what I do. If that's not what they're looking for, we don't have a match. Simple.

As I professional, I can't accommodate random whims with no rhyme or reason. My priority is what's best for the child.

*As a professional...

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Um..excuse me, we are not in a mutually beneficial business relationship. You are not a 1099 contra to, you are a W-2 employee for whom I pay 7.65% in taxes. We are not in a customer/ client relationship, we are in an employee/employer relationship per FLSA/DOL ( the one you like to quote to get paid OT). Nannies are non exempt employees, by definition non-exempt employees are given direction and tasks, they don't have much ( if at all) decision making capacity. You can tell me all this when DOL classifies nannies as consultants on 1099, until then you are a non exempt EMPLOYEE who is entitled to OT. The sooner you get your head examined the better off you will be.

+1000 Well said.

These "professional" nannies who think they are the boss are having trouble finding people to pay their paychecks and that is why they come on DCUM to complain and vent. You can tell how frustrated they are by their postings.

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Um..excuse me, we are not in a mutually beneficial business relationship. You are not a 1099 contra to, you are a W-2 employee for whom I pay 7.65% in taxes. We are not in a customer/ client relationship, we are in an employee/employer relationship per FLSA/DOL ( the one you like to quote to get paid OT). Nannies are non exempt employees, by definition non-exempt employees are given direction and tasks, they don't have much ( if at all) decision making capacity. You can tell me all this when DOL classifies nannies as consultants on 1099, until then you are a non exempt EMPLOYEE who is entitled to OT. The sooner you get your head examined the better off you will be.

+1000 Well said.

These "professional" nannies who think they are the boss are having trouble finding people to pay their paychecks and that is why they come on DCUM to complain and vent. You can tell how frustrated they are by their postings.

Yeah, nannies shouldn't be off on the weekends.
What's your excuse? The nanny has your kid today (Saturday) for you?

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Um..excuse me, we are not in a mutually beneficial business relationship. You are not a 1099 contra to, you are a W-2 employee for whom I pay 7.65% in taxes. We are not in a customer/ client relationship, we are in an employee/employer relationship per FLSA/DOL ( the one you like to quote to get paid OT). Nannies are non exempt employees, by definition non-exempt employees are given direction and tasks, they don't have much ( if at all) decision making capacity. You can tell me all this when DOL classifies nannies as consultants on 1099, until then you are a non exempt EMPLOYEE who is entitled to OT. The sooner you get your head examined the better off you will be.

+1000 Well said.

These "professional" nannies who think they are the boss are having trouble finding people to pay their paychecks and that is why they come on DCUM to complain and vent. You can tell how frustrated they are by their postings.

Truth.