Most parents don't know what they want.

[Anonymous]

You've had three long meetings and introduced her to your children, husband and visiting in-laws. They all adored her. You've studied every detail in her stellar reference letters. You've spent many hours on the phone with her loyal former families. You've negociated and signed an acceptable contract. You had your paid trial day. You've learned who she is and how she does her job. Her rates are high, but she clearly knows how to do her job, and you don't want to be worried while you're trying to do your job. She's a true professional in every way, according to every former employer.
Do you really think you're going to tell her how to do her work your way, which may be a completely different way of doing everything? What's the point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You've had three long meetings and introduced her to your children, husband and visiting in-laws. They all adored her. You've studied every detail in her stellar reference letters. You've spent many hours on the phone with her loyal former families. You've negociated and signed an acceptable contract. You had your paid trial day. You've learned who she is and how she does her job. Her rates are high, but she clearly knows how to do her job, and you don't want to be worried while you're trying to do your job. She's a true professional in every way, according to every former employer.
Do you really think you're going to tell her how to do her work your way, which may be a completely different way of doing everything? What's the point?

*negotiated

[Anonymous]

Maybe I think I'm the boss. Maybe the point is that it's my house, my family, my money paying your salary, and my rules. Maybe the point is you accepted this offer from me, for this job, working for someone you've had ample opportunity to get to know. If you don't like it you're free to leave but no one forced you to accept the offer after all the time you've invested in getting to know me as a potential employer.

[Anonymous]

I showed you how I do my job. My refs told you how I do my job. And you wanted me. If you want something else, you're confused. And yes, I would need to move on.

[Anonymous]

If you can't take direction from a boss you will have trouble. No one likes a touchy nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe I think I'm the boss. Maybe the point is that it's my house, my family, my money paying your salary, and my rules. Maybe the point is you accepted this offer from me, for this job, working for someone you've had ample opportunity to get to know. If you don't like it you're free to leave but no one forced you to accept the offer after all the time you've invested in getting to know me as a potential employer.

A good nanny won't take your bullshit and micromanaging and will drop you like a bad habit. You'll be left with people who can't find anything better. A good nanny can ALWAYS find something better.
Personally, I would see you coming from a mile away. I have amazingly accurate a**wipe detector.

[Anonymous]

And guess what - in an office or in customer service - you do it their way. If you expect to get paid. Grow up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And guess what - in an office or in customer service - you do it their way. If you expect to get paid. Grow up!

That's why don't work in an office. Ridiculous comparison.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And guess what - in an office or in customer service - you do it their way. If you expect to get paid. Grow up!

In customer service, you cater to your customer, not some crazy absentee manager. Excellent example. Thank you, PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe I think I'm the boss. Maybe the point is that it's my house, my family, my money paying your salary, and my rules. Maybe the point is you accepted this offer from me, for this job, working for someone you've had ample opportunity to get to know. If you don't like it you're free to leave but no one forced you to accept the offer after all the time you've invested in getting to know me as a potential employer.

A good nanny won't take your bullshit and micromanaging and will drop you like a bad habit. You'll be left with people who can't find anything better. A good nanny can ALWAYS find something better.
Personally, I would see you coming from a mile away. I have amazingly accurate a**wipe detector.

Well said by 12:23.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you can't take direction from a boss you will have trouble. No one likes a touchy nanny.

Just don't hire a professional. Newbies require your direction. Professionals know how to do their job.

[Anonymous]

Wow. As a parent, I would be pissed if the nanny would not take direction from me. Please speak up so I can get rid of you and find other arrangements for my child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you can't take direction from a boss you will have trouble. No one likes a touchy nanny.

Just don't hire a professional. Newbies require your direction. Professionals know how to do their job.

Amen! I am a very good nanny with years of experience. I took a job with a family who decided that they want to tell me how to do my job.They gave me zero freedom and no trust.
I found a better job and now they're begging me to stay because "none of the people we are interviewing are anything like you." Maybe giving me the freedom to do my job would have been a good idea after all.
You can't have it all MBs.
You can hire an inexperienced girl looking for a way to pay her bills until she finds a "real" job, who will do things exactly the way you want them done OR you can hire an experienced professional who will take fabulous care of your family and be completely loyal to you as long as you back off and allow her to do her job.

[Anonymous]

12:42 knows her stuff and isn't afraid of saying so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. As a parent, I would be pissed if the nanny would not take direction from me. Please speak up so I can get rid of you and find other arrangements for my child.

Wow. As a parent, you should know you can tell a sitter anything you want. Just don't try to pull that with an experienced nanny. Doesn't work. You need to be honest with yourself and your caregiver. That's all.