Found out wife was having an affair

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[Post New]09/06/2017 19:42
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP, are you one of those sorry ass stay at home husbands who doesn't think he needs to work, with no kids? If so, then I don't feel bad about you being cheated on.


Men are finally joining the same gravy train women have been on for thousands of years.
[Post New]09/06/2017 20:05
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MJisdead2me
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Woman who do these types of things are strongly indicating that they have some form of personality disorder. You would be best advised to examine this situation with focused intent. For example, how does she respond when you tell her about your concerns? What does she do in order to bring resolution to any fear or concern you may have? How considerate is she of your feelings, thoughts and beliefs in regards to the impact of any actual behavior (on her part) or perceived behavior (on your part).

When women engage in behavior that is often fatal to a good, loving, working relationship you need to be seeing BIG RED FLAGS. Especially true, when you are starting a family and bringing children into this world. Something is wrong when a woman engages in behavior that risk causing negative impact to their children's well-being. Why would a woman/soon-to-be or already a mother engage in self-centered and thoughtless behavior that could/would clearly impact all of the lives of your impending family? By this I mean to say, that your child is born into a loving home with two actively engaged loving parents -- which is always the best case scenario, especially, during the critical tender years of a child's life.

At the very least you need to be aware that she does not have the maturity most conducive to positive motherhood. For that matter, she probably currently lacks the ability to be a good partner to you or any other human being. If she is in fact cheating on you, it's quite possible, that your wife/fiance has a narcissistic personality disorder. Given the timing of her alleged infidelity she may even have narcissistic tendencies of a malignant or sadistic nature. None of these situations bode well for you in terms of having positive relationship d cause r already a mother possibility that your child is born into a loving home with two loving parents -- which is always the best case scenario, especially, during the critical tender years of a child's life.

For yours and your child's sake seek clarity and be thoughtful about what all of this may mean to your new family's future.
[Post New]09/06/2017 20:08
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MJisdead2me
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, are you one of those sorry ass stay at home husbands who doesn't think he needs to work, with no kids? If so, then I don't feel bad about you being cheated on.


Men are finally joining the same gravy train women have been on for thousands of years.

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Gravy train...people like you should be culled from the herd.
[Post New]09/11/2017 12:30
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Anonymous
Get a lawyer, hit the gym, delete Facebook.
[Post New]09/13/2017 01:23
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Anonymous wrote:Screenshot the evidence and email to yourself save the email and print a copy.

Go see a lawyer today. Make sure you now rights and responsibilities of a husband towards a child born n the marriage.

MD isn't the only state with effed up paternity laws.


What is the deal with all the people saying that OP needs to collect all of this evidence? Will he get more of her money when he divorces?


No, but OP might have a more compelling case for primary or even sole custody if the child turns out to be his and he can produce evidence of the affair.

OP's wife is pregnant. By engaging in sex with a man who is not her husband, she is potentially exposing their unborn child to diseases, many of which could pose a serious health risk to the child. Since she and her lover both know she is pregnant, it is possible that they have not been practicing safe sex. Even if they are practicing safe sex, condoms are not particularly effective against some STDs.

I believe that her behavior demonstrates a degree a recklessness vis a vis the health of their unborn child that should be introduced during the custody hearings.


Adultery isn't seen as evidence of improper parenting. The judges separate someone's fitness as a parent from their fitness as a spouse. In short, no, just because your spouse cheated on you, you can't get more custody, unless you prove she or he is a danger to the child. In addition, it's virtually unheard of for a man to get sole custody of a newborn baby.


Referring to OP's wife as an adulterer glosses over a salient point, PP: OP's child is still is still inside his adulterous wife.

Unlike the case with most adultery, her adulterous behavior poses an obvious risk to the child. Her willingness to engage in an adulterous affair while pregnant suggests that the child's best interests are not of paramount concern to her.


HIV, herpes, Group B Strep/meningitis ... it's in that vein.
[Post New]09/13/2017 13:41
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Anonymous
Paternity test is a must. Still, cut her lose anyways. You don't want her. She'll never have respect for you if you keep her.
She cucked you and will try it again because she can get away with it.

You know what you have to do...stop talking and do it.
[Post New]09/13/2017 15:43
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Get a lawyer, hit the gym, delete Facebook.



OP this and move on. Get the kids 50% and only regulate her to text concerning pickups and dropoffs. Someday you'll find someone new and co-parent with them. 86 this woman asap and be done with it.
[Post New]09/17/2017 17:16
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Anonymous
Get a paternity test and throw the two timing bitch out
[Post New]09/18/2017 08:34
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Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:Get a lawyer, hit the gym, delete Facebook.



OP this and move on. Get the kids 50% and only regulate her to text concerning pickups and dropoffs. Someday you'll find someone new and co-parent with them. 86 this woman asap and be done with it.


Clear concise and accurate. This is by far the best solution. Dump this whore and move on. Limit your communication to text only concern pick up and drop off. Anything outside of that scope goes through a lawyer. Done and done
[Post New]09/18/2017 11:14
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Anonymous wrote:Get a lawyer, hit the gym, delete Facebook.



OP this and move on. Get the kids 50% and only regulate her to text concerning pickups and dropoffs. Someday you'll find someone new and co-parent with them. 86 this woman asap and be done with it.


Clear concise and accurate. This is by far the best solution. Dump this whore and move on. Limit your communication to text only concern pick up and drop off. Anything outside of that scope goes through a lawyer. Done and done


The person who wrote that clearly does not understand what goes into raising children. You still have to agree on when pickup and dropoff is, for starters, and you can't really do it via text. If you have 50/50, that means you will have to make every major decision regarding the child together. If you, for instance, want your lawyer to communicate for you on where you want your child to go to summer camps, whether they need braces, what school they should go to, whether they can take this overnight trip or overseas vacation, I hope that you have unlimited funds on hand.
[Post New]09/20/2017 08:40
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Anonymous wrote:Tell her to shut her cock holster and listen for a minute. This is how it's gonna be. You are moving out tonight. I will continue to support you in any way that I can as far as the baby is concerned. We are getting a paternity test as soon as it can be done. Our marriage is over but I understand that we have to figure out how to coparent together. I need some time to figure that out. Until then, you need to leave. Then don't say another word no matter what she says


:,very fine ,i really have an over imaginative mind


Men are SO dramatic!
[Post New]09/20/2017 09:22
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Anonymous
I just wanna say congrats on the upcoming reboot and good luck with the whole new rest of your life.

Divorce is an incredibly liberating thing, if you're getting out of a situation like you've endured. It's like being given your life back. The possibilities are endless.

So good luck. Don't spend any time looking back. From here, it's all about forwards. "Tomorrow" is the only concept of time you should have from now on.
[Post New]09/20/2017 11:51
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Anonymous
OP- so sorry.

Did you confront? And is the baby yours?
[Post New]09/23/2017 16:46
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Anonymous
You should confront her subtly and tell her what you know. You should also get the test done to see whose child it is. Good luck!
[Post New]09/23/2017 19:19
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Anonymous
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