Anonymous wrote:He doesn't think you love him. He feels like a wimp
for being needy. And he's taking these negative feelings out on you.

Anonymous wrote:There are SO many things wrong with gender communications. OP, if you're smart and don't want a dead bedroom like most the people giving you advice , I suggest you approach this with an open mind. He's likely shutting you out because you're miles away from what he thinks the problem is. It engulfs him in grief to think he should have to spell out common courtesy to you.

Usually what upsets me most in these scenarios is that I'm an adult. I'm capable of making my own decisions. I love my spouse. Yet my spouse is talking to me like I don't care about her feelings and that I'm not capable of deciding when thinks are appropriate and taking her best interest in my decision making process also.

For example
DONT touch me !!! Like wtf. You invalidating me as a person when you make a demand like that , ignoring my desires. I don't need you snapping like that.
You should acknowledge him. "Hey honey, I love the effection. It just creeps me in front of our child.

If he left the house. He is super hurt and pissed that you don't trust his judgements. If you want a marriage and not a roommate , sincerely apologize to him and ignore the old hags here that have already ruined their marriages.

Anonymous wrote:Apologize for your tone, but not for your words or feelings.

Anonymous wrote:MY TITTIES MY CHOICE

How'd he like it if you juggled his balls without asking ?

And guess what ? He'd never be allowed to touch my boobs ever again.

Anonymous wrote:I would be totally mad at him. Sounds like a rapist,

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Anonymous wrote:Op most of the previous responses are exactly why so many women and men on dcum are unhappy with their marriages.

You yourself admitted your tone was not great when what he originally did (try to fondle you) was perhaps inappropriate but not done in a mean spirited way. You should try to apologize.

So the husband has no responsibility here to apologize? Is that what you're saying?

Anonymous wrote:I don't see what you did wrong, except marry him and have kids (more than one!) with him.

Anonymous wrote:Op here...Well I just went to talk to him. Asked him why it upset him so much and apologized for my tone being off (but not for the request itself) and was told that I am "never affectionate" and that he guesses this is just the way it is, "don't worry about it". All with no eye contact and flat affect. I said I didn't think that was true, got more of the same back. At that point I probably overstepped and said i couldn't believe he was acting this way. Now, he's left the house!

I really just can't believe this. This is structurally in line with how our fights usually go and usually I bend over backwards apologizing even if Ive done nothing wrong just to get back to an equilibrium. But this time I'm just so irritated w the immaturity I don't really know what to do