DH mad I asked him not to
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| suggestively touch my breasts in front of our 17 month old. the three of us were sitting on the couch watching the news and he started casually fondling them. I asked him to stop and he got really bent out of shape. When I asked why the request made him so upset, he said "it's fine, it's just shows me what you think about our relationship." We have sex about 1-2 times a week, I am pregnant, I'm exhausted, I'm way too old for this shit. So I'm half venting here, but I guess my question for everyone is... was I "out of line"? It just felt inappropriate. |
Anonymous
| op again, just want to add that he has now decided to sleep on the couch tonight. |
Anonymous
| Hm how did you say it? Did you snap at him? |
Anonymous
My tone wasn't great.... maybe somewhere in between snapping and asking. I think by the end of the day w a toddler I am just so over being touched i get annoyed when I shouldn't.
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Anonymous
| I would be pissed that he was pissed. It's your body. |
Anonymous
| You're fine, op. He's in the wrong here. Just let it go and move on. |
Anonymous
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I totally understand how you feel, but in this case, it sounds like you said it in an unnecessarily cold way. I'd apologize profusely and see if anything can be done to ensure he doesn't go to bed angry.
(I don't think this is important to the crux of the matter but fwiw, I think your 17 mo old would not have noticed or been scarred by fondling) |
Anonymous
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You are absolutely in the right. Plus, you've got enough going on with your body without the PDA in front of your child. Men can be oblivious sometimes.
Enjoy having all the sheets and space tonight. |
Anonymous
| Maybe ask him not to sleep on the sofa. That you aren't mad at him. You just weren't comfortable with the baby there. |
Anonymous
| You have two babies. Good luck. |
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"it's fine, it's just shows me what you think about our relationship."
Seriously? My 15 year old is more mature than that. |
Anonymous
+1 You do not need to "apologize profusely " as the PP suggested. Your husband is being a baby. |
Anonymous
Hell no. Let him sleep there. He gets to fondle her breasts because he's bored while watching the news, and she's supposed to smooth it over. WTH??? |
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Op most of the previous responses are exactly why so many women and men on dcum are unhappy with their marriages.
You yourself admitted your tone was not great when what he originally did (try to fondle you) was perhaps inappropriate but not done in a mean spirited way. You should try to apologize. |
Anonymous
| I don't see what you did wrong, except marry him and have kids (more than one!) with him. |