DH mad I asked him not to

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op most of the previous responses are exactly why so many women and men on dcum are unhappy with their marriages.

You yourself admitted your tone was not great when what he originally did (try to fondle you) was perhaps inappropriate but not done in a mean spirited way. You should try to apologize.

So the husband has no responsibility here to apologize? Is that what you're saying?

[Anonymous]

Op here...Well I just went to talk to him. Asked him why it upset him so much and apologized for my tone being off (but not for the request itself) and was told that I am "never affectionate" and that he guesses this is just the way it is, "don't worry about it". All with no eye contact and flat affect. I said I didn't think that was true, got more of the same back. At that point I probably overstepped and said i couldn't believe he was acting this way. Now, he's left the house!

I really just can't believe this. This is structurally in line with how our fights usually go and usually I bend over backwards apologizing even if Ive done nothing wrong just to get back to an equilibrium. But this time I'm just so irritated w the immaturity I don't really know what to do

[Anonymous]

Are you married to my husband?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op most of the previous responses are exactly why so many women and men on dcum are unhappy with their marriages.

You yourself admitted your tone was not great when what he originally did (try to fondle you) was perhaps inappropriate but not done in a mean spirited way. You should try to apologize.

So the husband has no responsibility here to apologize? Is that what you're saying?

Of course he needs to apologize as well but op admitted she started it by snapping at him.

The husband absolutely had an inappropriate response and sounds immature. Of course he should apologize.

Anyway sounds like they have much l bigger intimacy issues to resolve than this one fight.

[Anonymous]

It's never just about the breasts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe ask him not to sleep on the sofa. That you aren't mad at him. You just weren't comfortable with the baby there.

Hell no. Let him sleep there. He gets to fondle her breasts because he's bored while watching the news, and she's supposed to smooth it over. WTH???

Take the high road, less traffic up there.

Are you married? How many years? Haven't you ever just made a mistake that got all blown out of proportion?

[Anonymous]

He doesn't think you love him. He feels like a wimp
for being needy. And he's taking these negative feelings out on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I totally understand how you feel, but in this case, it sounds like you said it in an unnecessarily cold way. I'd apologize profusely and see if anything can be done to ensure he doesn't go to bed angry.

(I don't think this is important to the crux of the matter but fwiw, I think your 17 mo old would not have noticed or been scarred by fondling)

No. She was in the right; he needs to act like a father of two and not a petulant toddler.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op most of the previous responses are exactly why so many women and men on dcum are unhappy with their marriages.

You yourself admitted your tone was not great when what he originally did (try to fondle you) was perhaps inappropriate but not done in a mean spirited way. You should try to apologize.

So the husband has no responsibility here to apologize? Is that what you're saying?

Of course he needs to apologize as well but op admitted she started it by snapping at him.

The husband absolutely had an inappropriate response and sounds immature. Of course he should apologize.

Anyway sounds like they have much l bigger intimacy issues to resolve than this one fight.

SHE started it? OP is his wife, not his personal blow-up doll for petting. I don't get it, does she not have any rights to personal space once married???

[Anonymous]

MY TITTIES MY CHOICE

How'd he like it if you juggled his balls without asking ?

And guess what ? He'd never be allowed to touch my boobs ever again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MY TITTIES MY CHOICE

How'd he like it if you juggled his balls without asking ?

And guess what ? He'd never be allowed to touch my boobs ever again.

You sound like you have a wonderful, loving marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op most of the previous responses are exactly why so many women and men on dcum are unhappy with their marriages.

You yourself admitted your tone was not great when what he originally did (try to fondle you) was perhaps inappropriate but not done in a mean spirited way. You should try to apologize.

So the husband has no responsibility here to apologize? Is that what you're saying?

Of course he needs to apologize as well but op admitted she started it by snapping at him.

The husband absolutely had an inappropriate response and sounds immature. Of course he should apologize.

Anyway sounds like they have much l bigger intimacy issues to resolve than this one fight.

She didn't. He started it by groping her in the living room in front of their kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He doesn't think you love him. He feels like a wimp
for being needy. And he's taking these negative feelings out on you.

Then he needs to communicate like an adult. Seems he doesn't do that.

[Anonymous]

Ugh. OP, it sounds like you're married to my husband.

[Anonymous]

I think you should look for counselling now before you have two kids and even less free time. I am not a big touchy felt person and would have slapped my husband's hand away if he tried to grab my boobs without asking (and if he asked in the living room with the toddler, I would have said no!). If this isn't the first time he has pouted and run off and made you feel like you did something wrong, you need to fix this problem now.

As for what you do now, nothing. You wait until he realizes he is in the wrong and needs to apologize. And start looking for a marraige counsellor. He probably knows he was out of line and is embarrased, so is acting like a jerk to cover it up.