I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA
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My ex-husband's former mistress and current wife would say the same thing and she would believe it was true. What she's doesn't know is that she was one of many women he was cheating with over many years, several of whom overlapped her relationship with him. She doesn't know that I asked for the divorce after finding proof he was cheating with a woman across the country (he was in a relationship with his current wife at the same time). She doesn't know that for years, after I found out about her but before I found out they were still together, he used to mock her appearance and neediness, calling her horrible names (for those wondering, I knew the marriage was over and that he was a nightmare of a human being, but it took me some time to set myself and my kids up to survive without his income). She doesn't know that he begged me to reconsider the divorce and insisted that he wanted to remain a family, but I refused to even humor the idea for a second. For the good of my kids I stay out of his business and I see no reason to try and save her from her choices. But it cracks me up to see how lovey-dovey she is with him and how absolutely certain she is that they were destined to be together against all odds. Good luck with that. |
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 pretty far
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Yeah. I've never, ever met a kid who's happy they have two homes. I have, however, heard several kids of divorce envying their friends who have only one. |
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| How old are you OP? How about your "D"H? |
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+1000, I don't understand the people on here carrying on about the OW and how play dates are off limits. These things happen in real life and you as a parent will have to explain how real life happens and that not everyone has the same circumstances as you do. I also am shocked about the moral high horse that many of you sit upon, as though you think life is so very black and white. Eat a piece of humble pie and get over yourself. Be grateful that so far nothing has touched your own life in such a way....I feel bad for your children! |
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This has got to be a troll.
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In which post did I make myself out to be an angel? |
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I'm 30, he's 40. |
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Stepdaughter loves it! It's not my fault, I just fell in love! Wife was a shrew who don't blow my dreamboat!  You've placed all the blame on the ex wife, and made yourself out to be a poor damsel who couldn't help where the winds of fate took her.
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What a awful thing to even say! So you just think everyone who ends up divorced its because they were having an affair? You do realize there are many other reasons for divorce, including abuse. I am pretty certain that a child that was living in a home that was surrounded by a toxic marriage, would agree that it is best to have two separate homes. Don't be such a judgmental asshole, there are plenty of times having two homes is better than one. Good for you that your ONE home is perfect. |
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Does it bother you that you caused other people great pain? Perhaps not, if you're gloating about it here. |
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Not the PP, but I think it's true that kids aren't "happy" about having two homes and the break-up of their parents' marriage. That's not to say that, with situations like abuse or several addiction problems, that they aren't thinking two homes and divorced parents make for a better situation than what they had to endure before. |
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| I sincerely hope you and your DH go to HELL and burn! |