I'm in a submissive, traditional marriage. AMA

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Anonymous wrote:What if you do or buy something without his approval? Like bindulging in something for yourself or for the family?


Well I wouldn't do that. There's just no reason to.


The number of people taking this thread seriously is making me question the intelligence of the general DCUM community.


NP, but I knew people like this when I dated a former homeschooler in college and got to know his family. His SIL was college educated and a teacher in the public schools but acted a lot like OP seems to. It was truly bizarre.

These people knew the Duggar family through various homeschool/religious organizations, if that makes it any more believable that some people do live this way.

The caveat here is that I think the people who live this way think it's normal and thus wouldn't understand why anyone would care to participate in an AMA about it.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I'm married to a Saudi Arab who comes from possibly the least woman-empowered place on earth.

I am here to tell you that women in most traditional, conventional Saudi marriages have way, way more power than what the OP describes.


Can you give us some examples?
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Anonymous wrote:Do you have to ask his approval to buy clothes for yourself? Does he need to approve the kind of clothes you buy?


It's very infrequent, but generally I will let him know there's a hole in my most often worn shoes or whatever the case is, and he'll suggest I replace them.


OMG THIS IS SUCH A TROLL why is everyone going along with this?? NOBODY acts like this willingly.


I agree. This is just stupidity.


+1. You overplayed your troll hand, OP.


YES!!! Why are we still in this discussion.
Anonymous
I bailed at the hole in the most-worn shoes.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:What if you do or buy something without his approval? Like bindulging in something for yourself or for the family?


Well I wouldn't do that. There's just no reason to.


Pretty sure this question was asking if there's, um, discipline involved.

Were you abused as a child? Was your father in your life?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:What if you do or buy something without his approval? Like bindulging in something for yourself or for the family?


Well I wouldn't do that. There's just no reason to.


Pretty sure this question was asking if there's, um, discipline involved.

Were you abused as a child? Was your father in your life?


I can't imagine going against our agreement so it's kind of a moot point.
No, I wasn't abused as a child and yes, my parents are married.
Anonymous
Gawd. I can't imagine anything more horrible.
Anonymous
Tell us more about the agreement. When did you make the agreement? Was it verbal or written? What is the agreement exactly!
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Anonymous wrote:Tell us more about the agreement. When did you make the agreement? Was it verbal or written? What is the agreement exactly!
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Anonymous wrote:Tell us more about the agreement. When did you make the agreement? Was it verbal or written? What is the agreement exactly!


Argh! Sorry- that should be a question mark at the end.
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Anonymous wrote:Tell us more about the agreement. When did you make the agreement? Was it verbal or written? What is the agreement exactly!


Before you got married didn't you talk about how you thought the marriage would work, and who would be responsible for which aspects of being a married couple? We did this over the course of many dates after we realized we were moving towards getting engaged. Then we refined as things came up that we hadn't thought of. It's verbal.
Anonymous
Does he demand oral from you?
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ZachF wrote:Bump


Seriously?
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