We never received that either...

00:47 that was a really good answer.. One question I have is how do your kids feel about going? The one thing I have to add is that it's not just the relationship anymore, it's your whole family. I can see how being the child of a missionary can be very rewarding, however, just make sure that you guys add them into the equation also.. Hopefully you guys are able to find some sort of good compromise that everyone will be happy with. Good luck!

I only have a two year old so I am reading these answers just as you are.. but I know that my mom explained it allll to me when I was 8 in a not very age appropriate manner, and it left me with a LOT of questions... so just make sure that you do it in a way that is answering questions, and not necessarily creating more that you don't think they are ready for you to answer..

I am going to go over and read that after I get done on this one, it is really refreshing to see someone with some positive things to say about/to each other on here though!

This is tough... It's hard to want to be supportive, but want a different life also.. Maybe try explaining first the benefits of staying in one place for your children and kind of see where the conversation takes you??

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aprilmayjune wrote:Seriously? Why does who or what the crime was determine your response?? She's not talking about the actual criminal was, just a family member who was just dealt a bad family hand, and probably had absolutely nothing to do with the crime(s) committed..

Shut it.

What's with the "Shut it" response? Were I in the OP's shooes, the nature of the crime might matter. For me it would be one thing if my name-dropping coworker's infamous relative were guilty of theft or fraud...quite another if co-worker keeps telling me stories about a rapist or murderer.

I guess for ME.. it would depend if the coworker was constantly talking about this relative a lot or if she just knew of the relative because she recognized the coworker in the news.. If it's not someone that they talk about, or are showing support for, than the crime honestly wouldn't matter.. Because they are related, that doesn't make the coworker a criminal also you know? So it wouldn't really be fair to judge based on that. I guess that's all I really meant.. I can understand what you're saying though, if she is a "name dropping coworker' than I guess it would matter to me also.

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Nevermind, I reread the post now, and I COMPLETELY understand where you're coming from.. the OP does state that she is talking about this person regularly in day to day conversation so I should say that I understand why the crime would matter and yes it would for me too, and if the OP can just clarify whether it was something heinous or something financial or something like that (without having to give too many details or anything just letting us know how severe this crime was) it might make it easier to answer your question.

Seriously? Why does who or what the crime was determine your response?? She's not talking about the actual criminal was, just a family member who was just dealt a bad family hand, and probably had absolutely nothing to do with the crime(s) committed..

Anonymous wrote:OP, if he drank this way before you married him and yet you still married him, it's not really fair to start nagging now because this is what you signed up for.

Disagree.. It is NEVER too late to start showing concern for DH's health and the wellbeing for everyone in the family..

IMHO.. I wouldn't pretend that I didn't know who they were talking about.. But, at the same time, I wouldn't be mean or judgemental about it either.. As for the people trying to find out who it is.. it's really none of our business... my curiousity makes me want to ask, but I also know that it's not any of my business.. Hopefully over time this will get easier for everyone around.. It also might clear the air and make everyone a little more comfortable if someone casually brings it up in some sort of conversation also.. Your coworker is probably self conscious about her family member, and would probably feel good to know that she's not being judged because of what he/she did..

Ah okay.. lots of these things make sense.. I found the website, and before I realized that everyone was posting anonymously I signed up.. I post a lot of bitchy things too, but I really don't think that anyone knows who I am so I don't worry about it (my screen name for most everything else I do is MUCH more identifying..) But I understand and it makes a lot of sense.. At first, I thought that everyone signed in but that they chose to be anonymous in their posts.. If this is the case, I must be a dummy because I haven't been able to find that option lol

Anonymous wrote:I go home early every day but work after, usually until late in the evening....do you know she is not doing this?

I'm sure that the supervisors taking care of the situation will probably investigate possible scenerios such as this before taking such disciplinary action. It's really not the OP's job to know these things, all she did was give an honest answer to questions asked of her.

well, DH and I very rarely drink, and when we do it's maybe one or two drinks AFTER my child is in bed and asleep. a whole bottle of wine, or a 6 pack and a bottle of wine is a LOT to drink on a daily basis when you are caring for your children. What happens if there's a fire in your house or something happens to your children and he's unable to assist or drive if need be?

Anonymous wrote:Wow, spoken like a true snake in the grass. Its none of your business where she is and you didn't know that she went home you just think she did. You should have answered honestly and said, "I don't know." Glad I don't work with you. Mind your own business next time.

But she said this person leaves early every day. I think at that point it's pretty fair to assume that she left early. She wasn't out to get her in trouble, she was just being honest. I don't know wouldn't have been an honest answer.
I'm glad that I don't work with you! Someone who believes it's okay to do wrong and to expect that your coworkers who do things right will cover for you when you don't.

I REALLY hope that the people speaking so crudely on here aren't really raising children!

Well it kinds sounds like you didn't have much of a choice.. they asked where she was.. what were you supposed to do? "she's in the bathroom?" If you had covered for her and they found out about it, you would have faced whatever disciplinary action they were handing out.. CYA, not theirs..