Anonymous wrote:She has almost every medically listed trait for this disorder. Everything from having to constantly wash hands, checking locked doors multi-able times, checking her house alarm endless times when going out, parking her car perfectly between the lines, can't walk away from her car until the head lights shut off automatically, cutting up food perfectly before eating, constant fear of crime, has to use several alarm clocks just in case, it's a never ending list of things. Most of her other friends laugh about it behind her back but it's no longer funny. Controlling her life and relationships now.

There's your in. I mean, if this woman is your "good friend" she needs to be aware of what her other so-called friends are saying.

Absolute favorite: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=92i5m3tV5XY

Blossom end rot, maybe? Try adding a higher Calcium fertilizer (you can find this as a spray: http://www.gardeners.com/buy/tomato-rot-stop/33-447.html

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am all for letting pets go when it's time; if they are sick and in pain, or need an expensive surgery that won't really fix things. But here you sound like you have a perfectly healthy cat that is just a finicky eater. Sorry, but I can't see any justification for not caring for it.

Putting a 21 year old animal down humanely is "caring for it" PP.

And if your "finicky" cat is going to make your life financially unstable, humanely putting it down is the sane option.

If the cat were perfectly healthy, it could eat normal food like a normal cat. It's not. It's medically unstable without expensive food.

OP, good luck finding the food for less somehow. I agree it may be time to do a bit of vet shopping, as well. But if you're not able to reduce the cost of the food, and Finicky really can't adapt to anything else, then it may be time for Finicky to go.

Unless, of course, your budget has other frivolities you could cut to help cover the cost of cat food. If you've got a coffee habit, or expensive taste in shoes, perhaps there's some money to be found there?

Anonymous wrote:How can any adult take this trifling high school bullshit seriously?

You must be new here. Welcome to DC!

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He decided to stay, realized his actions were hasty and based on emotion and not necessarily well thought out. We are not out of the woods, but still - I'm happy. I can breathe again. I can get through a day without falling apart.

This is pretty f-ed up. I'm so messed up.

Wait a second...

In your first post, you said you asked him to move out. Now he has "decided to stay"?

You sound really codependent, OP. Do some counseling on your own and learn to be okay with yourself. You'll never been any good in a relationship with anyone until you're okay with you.