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I've run across people where I have felt inferior to them for one reason or another.However, when I sat down and contemplated why I was feeling that way, I discovered I was focusing on the wrong things. Try to look at the good things in your life and your blessings. If there are things you would like to change and you can change them work on those things .Remember a person's life can change in a flash. Enjoy what you have.
Relationships have to be worked on forever. It's not always easy but spouses should be doing things together and talking and not just superficial conversations? When is the last time you had a date night(http://bit.ly/2nbGIbp )? It's something you can both work on to bring you closer together.
It might be time to sit down with DH and have an honest conversation with him. Of course his family is important and I think it's great that you go with him a couple of times a month to visit them. However, he has a responsibility to you and DD too. He might need to hear how you are feeling and together set some guidelines for the relationship that work for both of you.
I agree that becoming a parent helps to mature us. When I had my daughter, I began to become much more concerned about cooking healthy meals and keeping the house clean and safe.
What a painful and difficult situation for you and your friend. Your concern shows you are a good and caring friend. Sometimes just having a caring person around can be healing for those suffering from addiction. I will be praying diligently for you and your friend.
Marriage is a partnership and you both need to work together to make it work. Even if your husband was like this when you got married, it is not too late to make changes. It might be helpful to have a conversation with him about how you are feeling. It is not a blame game or a time to vent. Just be honest about the "home" belonging to both of you and is a reflection on both of you. Don't give up or give in. Keep communicating. Even if you have to work on one or two things at a time, it can be worked out.