Would you be mad?

[Anonymous]

First off let me say DH spends every Sunday with his parents and sister. I typically join once a month maybe twice. Honestly, I wish he wouldn't spent half of his time off at his mom and dad's instead of at home with his family but I understand they are important too. Well today the house is a disaster and we're out of groceries. We have stuff for pb&j sandwiches. My car is in the shop. So on to the issue. Despite DD(1 year old) and me being stuck at home with no groceries, he's fishing with his dad. They took a day trip.

[Anonymous]

I would have figured out a way to solve this well before today. Spending time with family is very important--so I would never begrudge that time but so is taking care of ones own family.

[Anonymous]

Yep. Do you have two cars and did he take one? I think that's really inconsiderate.

[Anonymous]

I would be. One of the biggest marital issues is the birth family vs. marriage family. Truly believe that some people never really get married, they stay mentally with their birth family and happen to get a spouse and kids along the way.

This subject merits a serious talk before things get worse.

[Anonymous]

Yea, I would not be happy. Why didn't his dad pick him up so at least you could have the car?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be. One of the biggest marital issues is the birth family vs. marriage family. Truly believe that some people never really get married, they stay mentally with their birth family and happen to get a spouse and kids along the way.

This subject merits a serious talk before things get worse.

Agreed. Dh's priorities are off. I'd be pissed.

[Anonymous]

I would take it as my husband saw you and your child as a second unit, not his primary connection. I could not fathom having had this second status and choosing to have a child with him. I would not be mad at him so much as I would be mad at myself for staying in this relationship. If he says he is committed to your marriage/family but refuses to see that his actions say otherwise than I'd say that you have a serious decision to make.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yep. Do you have two cars and did he take one? I think that's really inconsiderate.

Yep, he took our only car we have right now. To make matters worse, I even asked him to have his dad pick him up. He said no because he had to help get the boat ready etc. So our truck is 10 minutes away just sitting in his dad's driveway. They took his dad's truck.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yep. Do you have two cars and did he take one? I think that's really inconsiderate.

Yep, he took our only car we have right now. To make matters worse, I even asked him to have his dad pick him up. He said no because he had to help get the boat ready etc. So our truck is 10 minutes away just sitting in his dad's driveway. They took his dad's truck.

I would be past livid.

[Anonymous]

You married a selfish idiot who comes from selfish idiots.

[Anonymous]

Did you offer to drop him off since it's only 10 min away? I really don't understand how you ended up stuck at home, as this would not have been an option in our house.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yep. Do you have two cars and did he take one? I think that's really inconsiderate.

Yep, he took our only car we have right now. To make matters worse, I even asked him to have his dad pick him up. He said no because he had to help get the boat ready etc. So our truck is 10 minutes away just sitting in his dad's driveway. They took his dad's truck.

I would be past livid.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You married a selfish idiot who comes from selfish idiots.

His dad literally cries and says he's dying when DH doesn't spend a Sunday over there. He's been doing it since we got married 6 years ago. Guess what? Miraculously, he's still alive. Today was DH though. DH planned this trip. The last time DH has planned anything for DD and I is....oh wait that has never happened. He's never even planned a date for us. So it really hurts that he planned something for his dad. If I want to go somewhere as a family I have to plan it. If I want a date night, I plan it. I find the sitter. I do it all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yep. Do you have two cars and did he take one? I think that's really inconsiderate.

Yep, he took our only car we have right now. To make matters worse, I even asked him to have his dad pick him up. He said no because he had to help get the boat ready etc. So our truck is 10 minutes away just sitting in his dad's driveway. They took his dad's truck.

That's f'ed up. If he didn't see how that was a problem, we'd be heading to a counselor or I'd be heading out the door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you offer to drop him off since it's only 10 min away? I really don't understand how you ended up stuck at home, as this would not have been an option in our house.

DD was still asleep.