Coach/Michael Kors/Kate Spade is prob your best option in that price range.

OP I'm 25 and DH is my second. My first was.. Well every typical of teenagers messing around lol, first doesn't seem to count in hindsight. I sometimes feel like this..

But not much you can do about it now so do to think about it.. If I'm still thinking about it at 35 as you are... Idk how I could still be with him

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Anonymous wrote:People lose the sex cues and forget how to find their partner attractive. The best cure for that is to let them fuck someone else. Encourage your partner in some extracurricular sex and see what happens. If done honestly, it reinvigorate a marriage.

In truth, if she knows that another woman is after you it might turn her on and reinvigorate her libido. Screwed up but true.

Happened to me...

Was a coworker of his, when we had already started talking divorce. Put on an incredibly sexy dress, hairs, nails, met him at work, took him to dinner then fucked his brains out. No complaints since.

Well I've had a friend do this exact same thing. Basically what happened is she dated other people "just because", met a bunch of assholes, was completely unfulfilling, the guys just wanted to hook up. I think she thought she wanted to hook up too, but then felt really cheapened by it. Then she decided she wanted to be back with the ex, only he wanted to discuss all that had happened while she saw other people. Of course like most men he wasn't to thrilled about her seeing a bunch of random men. She thought expressing that she knew the whole time she wanted to be with him anyway but was just "seeing what was out there". He accepted it, but never really acted the same towards her. Maybe he knew that she did it out of contempt, or maybe he also felt she was cheapened by the ordeal.

Point is, him waiting around for her to want to be serious again while she messed around just for the sake of getting back at him didn't get either of them back to where they wanted to be. And I think women take it much harder on themselves for dating the way guys do...

I'd say skip the games OP. If you want to get back together now, do so and accept you both dated other people. The quantity is irrelevant. If you are just not ready to settle back down for your own reasons, keep dating. But also understand that he will probably keep dating as well, so your idea of catching up to him will probably never happen, or worst he will simply move on.

This won't give you the satisfaction you think it will...

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Anonymous wrote:

Why don't you just take cheating off the table, and if she doesn't agree to an open relationship, then get a divorce?

These seems like part of the most logical answer to all of this.

1. Tell her you are not satisfied with your sex life. Ask her if she would be willing to seek help/counseling to try and increase it. If she says no, then...

2. Ask her if she would be ok with an open marriage. If she says no, then.....

3. Tell her you would like a divorce.

I stuck with my ex for many, many years in a sexless relationship because we made great parents/partners. She was my best friend. We got along great. But when it came to sex, it just fizzled out after our daughter and my ex was not willing to do anything about it. But I stayed.

Given the chance to go back, I would have done the steps I wrote above and left if I had to years ago.

Perfect plan well outlined OP. Stop looking for what you want to hear and take the best course of action for all involved. Seriously, let's those balls descend and confront her.

Anonymous wrote:I have had five nannies and none was of a child bearing age. That to me is more important than looks. Even homely nannies are dangerous if they are young.

Nannies are dangerous because they are basically assuming the role of a wife. So right there the husband is presented with an option of a different woman as his wife. One needs to be very careful here.

I call BS. Presented with another option for a wife? Really?

OP, nothing wrong with the decision you made. You know your husband and your marriage best.