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((HUGS)) I'm sorry.
You may be out of luck with life insurance for him... but there are other options. I know when we got my auto loan we could sign up for additional insurance in case I died or wasn't able to pay... we declined it, but look and see if you have this option on any loans or credit cards you may have.
I also remember when I got my life insurance, they offered a small amount on my husband without any terms.
You may be out of luck with life insurance for him... but there are other options. I know when we got my auto loan we could sign up for additional insurance in case I died or wasn't able to pay... we declined it, but look and see if you have this option on any loans or credit cards you may have.
I also remember when I got my life insurance, they offered a small amount on my husband without any terms.
I got a notice this week that my yahoo account may have been compromised, which is very odd. I don't use it much, and can't think of anyone that would want to try and hack into it.
I have 2 children in daycare. Our daycare did not send out any "teacher appreciation" week stuff. We also do not celebrate the caregivers birthday (we usually don't know it). That said, we show our appreciation in many ways.
First, there's the Christmas gifts/money.
Second, there's the occasional treat we bring in (homemade goodies for the teachers only)
Third, talking to them and asking them if they need anything. Sometimes they aren't getting what they need/want from management, but a parent asking can.
Fourth, we do a big monetary gift when our child transitions to a new room to his previous teachers, usually at the end of the summer.
Our parents group also puts on a Christmas party for them and another appreciation party in the early summer.
As far as 23:28, yes, they watch our children, wipe their bums, comfort them. I don't want a nanny. I'd rather have 3 teachers watching 9 children with round the clock video survellience than relying on one every single day that has no supervision other than "I saw a nanny at the park today" posts from DCUMers. That's my choice, and its not because I'm "cheap". I've had friends raised at home and friends that were in daycare - and by their relationships with their parents, you can't tell who was raised which way. My children are probably more social and more well rounded by me working and them going to daycare than if I stayed at home. That's not a judgement on stay at home moms at all, but a statement of how well I think I'd do as a stay at home mom.
First, there's the Christmas gifts/money.
Second, there's the occasional treat we bring in (homemade goodies for the teachers only)
Third, talking to them and asking them if they need anything. Sometimes they aren't getting what they need/want from management, but a parent asking can.
Fourth, we do a big monetary gift when our child transitions to a new room to his previous teachers, usually at the end of the summer.
Our parents group also puts on a Christmas party for them and another appreciation party in the early summer.
As far as 23:28, yes, they watch our children, wipe their bums, comfort them. I don't want a nanny. I'd rather have 3 teachers watching 9 children with round the clock video survellience than relying on one every single day that has no supervision other than "I saw a nanny at the park today" posts from DCUMers. That's my choice, and its not because I'm "cheap". I've had friends raised at home and friends that were in daycare - and by their relationships with their parents, you can't tell who was raised which way. My children are probably more social and more well rounded by me working and them going to daycare than if I stayed at home. That's not a judgement on stay at home moms at all, but a statement of how well I think I'd do as a stay at home mom.
On average in a given 7 day week..
Working: 40 hours.
Interacting with your kids: 45ish. Not counting the morning because its really a race out the door, and not counting nap time. So 2-3 hours each night, plus the entire time they are awake on the weekends. Granted, some of this time is double dipping - talking to them as I load the dishwasher, etc.
Focused on your spouse/marriage / relationship: 3 hrs minimum, we do a date day once a month. Other than that, our time together without interruption is usually 30-1hr after the kids go to bed or during naptime.
Personal Time: 3 hours
House/yard work: 3-4 hours, usually in 15-30 minute increments, never all at once.
Sleeping: 50-60
Working: 40 hours.
Interacting with your kids: 45ish. Not counting the morning because its really a race out the door, and not counting nap time. So 2-3 hours each night, plus the entire time they are awake on the weekends. Granted, some of this time is double dipping - talking to them as I load the dishwasher, etc.
Focused on your spouse/marriage / relationship: 3 hrs minimum, we do a date day once a month. Other than that, our time together without interruption is usually 30-1hr after the kids go to bed or during naptime.
Personal Time: 3 hours
House/yard work: 3-4 hours, usually in 15-30 minute increments, never all at once.
Sleeping: 50-60
Some children grow hair very slowly. Mine do. They are boys, so they have had more haircuts because we keep it short. My 4 yr old really didn't have a good head of hair until 3. And most people think my 19 month old is younger because 1. he's small and 2. he's mostly bald and that makes him look a lot "younger".
I remember my niece didn't have a lot of hair either, and today she's a gorgeous 22 yr old that you would never thought was practically bald at 2.
I remember my niece didn't have a lot of hair either, and today she's a gorgeous 22 yr old that you would never thought was practically bald at 2.
His father was a Kenyan. Since both parents were not in fact, citizens, can he be "natural born"?
I'm not making this one up. Coming from the guy in the cubicle next to me.
But it got me wondering... can babies that are born via c-section or conceived via IVF be President? After all, they are not "natural" born.
I'm not making this one up. Coming from the guy in the cubicle next to me.
But it got me wondering... can babies that are born via c-section or conceived via IVF be President? After all, they are not "natural" born.
Anonymous wrote:my realtor told us that if we wanted to live in cameron station, we would have to fire her and find a new agent.
hah
Just curious... why?
Got rid of cable. It was running us close to $200/month for cable & internet. Now we only have internet ($40/month) with Roku using Netflix and Hulu ($17/month).
We also opt to have money go directly to our savings account, and money automatically to kids college funds.
We got out of the habit of making lunches... but I think I need to get in the habit again.
We also opt to have money go directly to our savings account, and money automatically to kids college funds.
We got out of the habit of making lunches... but I think I need to get in the habit again.
I get 172-count once a month. It took a while for me to get it just right, I think it used to be 156-count and I couldn't make it a month, but every 2 weeks was too often. The count will vary by size and brand.
I'm also a wife with an anger management problem. Boiled over last spring and I decided it was time to get help. Asked my doctor for a referral. I go to thereapy and take Prozac. I also did a small class for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which is used for depression as well.
What I've learned is that my *anger* has triggers. It's more related to anxiety than other things - such as when I perceive my child to be in danger, or when I feel like my abilities are being called into question.
I highly recommend looking into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. In a not-a-medical-professional nutshell, you learn to identify what activating event or trigger causing you too "loose it", figure out what belief pops in your mind, and what the consequence is.
Here is a very simple example
My husband tells me the house is dirty and we need to clean it.
Internally, I *hear* that I'm not keeping the house in good enough condition and
I feel he is blaming me and I'm not doing all I can even though my plate is already full... so i get angry about all of it.
The reality is, he never said it was my fault, so I need to stop over reacting to his simple statement and not internalize it. So next time he says "The house is a mess, let's clean it", I should respond "I'll tackle the kitchen, can you tackle the bathrooms?" and realize there is no underlying message.
What I've learned is that my *anger* has triggers. It's more related to anxiety than other things - such as when I perceive my child to be in danger, or when I feel like my abilities are being called into question.
I highly recommend looking into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. In a not-a-medical-professional nutshell, you learn to identify what activating event or trigger causing you too "loose it", figure out what belief pops in your mind, and what the consequence is.
Here is a very simple example
My husband tells me the house is dirty and we need to clean it.
Internally, I *hear* that I'm not keeping the house in good enough condition and
I feel he is blaming me and I'm not doing all I can even though my plate is already full... so i get angry about all of it.
The reality is, he never said it was my fault, so I need to stop over reacting to his simple statement and not internalize it. So next time he says "The house is a mess, let's clean it", I should respond "I'll tackle the kitchen, can you tackle the bathrooms?" and realize there is no underlying message.
Anonymous wrote:I agree with Amazon Mom...Diapers.com is overpriced in the first place, even with their coupon codes and free shipping. If you do Subscribe and Save and then cancel it in between each order, you can get the 30% discount each time you order by re-subscribing. There is no cheaper way to get diapers--trust me, I've tried every way!
I get the 30% off each time, without canceling my subscribe and save order. I just checked my subscription, and it states:
Pampers Baby Dry Diapers Economy Pack Plus, Size 5, 172 Count
Price: $43.17
$30.22 (after 30% discount -- includes the standard 15% Subscribe & Save discount plus a limited-time offer of an additional 15% discount)
Are you sure you need to cancel?
I've never used diapers.com, but absolutely love Amazon mom's subscribe and save. We save on diapers, its delivered to the house, and we have free prime membership because we order so much.
When my DS was in the hospital, we didn't get any gifts. I was perfectly ok with that because we already had a lot of stuff that we needed to get back to the car. So I recommend waiting until they get home.
My son was also only in the mood for tv and books read to him for the first several days. Maybe you can buy a new release for them and include a gift receipt in case they have it already, or maybe a classic like Jungle Book.
It's really the thought that counts, no matter if its a card, a call, a stuffed animal, or little project to build.
My son was also only in the mood for tv and books read to him for the first several days. Maybe you can buy a new release for them and include a gift receipt in case they have it already, or maybe a classic like Jungle Book.
It's really the thought that counts, no matter if its a card, a call, a stuffed animal, or little project to build.
Anonymous wrote:Yes absolutely many people have the best of intentions. I think it's a great idea for you to start a separate thread about what is helpful to say and feel free to ask people to share their child's diagnosis as well. We have had threads with suggestions before and there are many blogposts giving suggestions for what would be helpful to say to parents of kids with SN. I also think it is very healthy for a bunch of parents of kids with special needs to be able to blow off steam and even laugh about hurtful comments and that is what this thread is for.
I did ask something similar to this a few months back and no one responded.
We did the little coloring books - look at
http://www.amazon.com/Little-Dinosaur-Coloring-Dover-Activity/dp/0486403017
I also included one washable marker to go with. The thought being the child can color in the car seat on the way home. But I always tell the parent if there is a marker or crayon or anything that can draw.
Bubbles
Play doh
I appreciate these things in ones we get. We can always use more play doh and bubbles and coloring books. We also get a lot of stickers and tattoos. Those are ok; my children aren't into those, but every child is different.
I personally don't like the small plastic trinkets - they usually end up in the trash and are a choking hazard for smaller siblings. I also don't like it when they have candy. But that's just me.
I think the reason for a party bag is to get the hyped-up sugar loaded kids out the door with as minimal melt downs as possible. It literally is something to interest them for 10 minutes.
http://www.amazon.com/Little-Dinosaur-Coloring-Dover-Activity/dp/0486403017
I also included one washable marker to go with. The thought being the child can color in the car seat on the way home. But I always tell the parent if there is a marker or crayon or anything that can draw.
Bubbles
Play doh
I appreciate these things in ones we get. We can always use more play doh and bubbles and coloring books. We also get a lot of stickers and tattoos. Those are ok; my children aren't into those, but every child is different.
I personally don't like the small plastic trinkets - they usually end up in the trash and are a choking hazard for smaller siblings. I also don't like it when they have candy. But that's just me.
I think the reason for a party bag is to get the hyped-up sugar loaded kids out the door with as minimal melt downs as possible. It literally is something to interest them for 10 minutes.