American is not really a race, it's a nationality. Americans can be of any race.

My mother is from the Philippines and my father is German-American. I consider myself biracial, but 100% American.

You might start with some childrens' books from DH's culture. I found Filipino folktales in English for my kids.

Or maybe your kids could help you make a dish from their culture.

I agree about the cultural festivals. They'll be exposed to the music, food, dance, art etc.

Anonymous wrote:

zumbamama wrote:I don't see anything wrong with naming a white child a typically African American name. There are white people with names from all over the globe. I know a white Karicia.

I think there are many beautiful African or AA name to choose from. I've always loved the names Odara, Aja, Ciara, Khadija, Ebony and Aisha.

Ciara is Celtic, hardly an African name. Khadija is of arabic origin, as is Aisha.

Aja is an odd choice--it's Hindi, and means "goat". Unless you're misspelling "Asia"?

Maybe I should rephrase to say names popular among AA girls. I don't know the exact origin of the name Aja, but need more than 2 hands to count how many AA girls I know named Aja, Asia or Aysia. Anyway, point being, there's nothing wrong with choosing a name that is from or associated with a culture or ethnic group different from your own, IMO.

I don't see anything wrong with naming a white child a typically African American name. There are white people with names from all over the globe. I know a white Karicia.

I think there are many beautiful African or AA name to choose from. I've always loved the names Odara, Aja, Ciara, Khadija, Ebony and Aisha.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it's sad that your husband forgot your birthday. Did you tell him directly that you were upset? Or did you, in fact, sulk? Because if you sulked, I can see why he was upset. And asking him to "take back the flowers" is immature. In a marriage, you need to act like a grown up person. He forgot your birthday, he didn't beat you up or insult you. It sounds to me like he doesn't have a chance to make anything up to you -- you just create new drama. Ugh.

OP here. Should I wait until he insults me or beats me up before reacting? As for asking him to take back his flowers, I really meant it. Flowers from him are always when he acts like a jerk... always sad or upsetting occasions. Flowers can also be given in happy times.

he beats you up?

Wow, how scary! Did you tell the parents what happened when they came back?

I knew a mom who left her 3 year old to wander alone near a tide pool at the beach, out of her sight. She didn't understand why the lifeguard frantically brought her child back to her. She was like, "What's the big deal, I was only gone for a few minutes!" Scary! Thank God for lifeguards and people like you, OP!

I think your son is just curious. And I think it might be a moment where you can teach him what kind of touch is appropriate with family or girls in general. Hugs for mom - yes. Holding hands - yes. Caresses on the leg - no. Breasts - no, those are for babies. That kind of thing.

Four years ago I took my first Zumba class. Now it's my job.

I was stuck in the 80s for 3 weeks with Glamour Life (Sheila E) and Talking In Your Sleep (Romantics). This week it's Floor on Fire (Pitbull). Can't get enough of that one.

DH is great because loves to clean, cook, and give massages. And he can fix almost anything that breaks (except the dryer).

I've been using my clothesline 100% since my dryer died two weeks ago. But before it died, we used the clothesline 50% of the time. If we have time to hang it up, we will, but if I'm doing laundry at 11pm after a long day, and I need dry clothes by 8 the next morning, then I'm stuffing them in the dryer! Or at least, two weeks ago I was.

Since I've been without it, I've been much more conscious about allocating enough time to hang up the clothes. And since I've been fine without it for 2 weeks, I think maybe I could go all summer without a dryer.

This weekend I saw my Filipino uncle whom I hadn't seen long before my kids were born. He looked at my light skinned child who doesn't look like me, and asked her "whose child are you?" He looked at me, and said, "She looks nothing like you." He repeated this three times.

The first time I said, "Yes, she is mine." (my usual response to this comment). THe second time I said, "She takes after her dad." The third time I said, "well, there's this thing called genetics...her father is white, I'm half white...so it's no wonder that at least one of my kids looks, surprise, surprise...white!

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Anonymous wrote:I've been looking around to see if I can find a shock collar for my husband. Cartman had one on South Park once. Our oldest is 5 and it's a miracle he doesn't say "fuck" every other word. Of course, if I ever said it in front of him he would pick it up in an instant.

LOL!!!

The V-Chip! lol

I either wear shorts or a sarong.

Anonymous wrote:congrats!!! Your post was so inspiring to me -- I am down 26 but have about another 25 or so to go. I started in January so this is month five, so even though it is kind of slow, I am proud that I made it through some family vacations (even disney! ugh!) and events without gaining. I hope I have a post like yours to write in a few more months!

26 pounds is inspiring too! Congrats! I don't think that is slow, 5 pounds a month sounds just right. If you lose too fast, it's easier to gain it back. Lose it gradually and you're more likely to keep it off in the long run. I lost 35 in 6 months, then another year 20 over the following year. I want to lose 10 more and work on a six-pack now!