My Wife Has Turned Mean

[Anonymous]

My normally sweet and loving wife is pregnant and has been having really bad mood swings. I know it’s normal and I try to be understanding. It’s really unbearable to be around get at times because she gets mad for no reason at all. She never cries but everything sets her off now. She has told me she doesn’t understand why but the pure sight of me makes her mad and that I need to leave her alone. I have contemplated sleeping in the guest room until the baby is here. I love her and I know it’s not her fault, but it’s going to be tough dealing with this for the next couple of months.

[Anonymous]

Lol

[Anonymous]

Perhaps it’s hormonal and she can’t help her mood swings but that’s no excuse for abusive behavior; pregnant women don’t get a free pass. Clearly it’s taking its toll on you and your relationship. Is it possible she’s experiencing prenatal depression or anxiety?

I’d it’s unrelenting enough that you are considering moving to the guest room then it’s time to have a conversation with her. I’m wondering if you are picking up the slack with household responsibilities, etc. - might she feel unsupported? Perhaps the dirty dishes in the sink that she usually overlooks are intolerable right now. Time to look inward and see if there’s anything more you could be doing.

[Anonymous]

I had this! When I was pregnant it was like the scales had fallen from my eyes and everything I had tolerated that was shortchanging me was just absolutely intolerable any longer. It is hormonal but if I had been like that sooner my life would have been different and I would probably be better off now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had this! When I was pregnant it was like the scales had fallen from my eyes and everything I had tolerated that was shortchanging me was just absolutely intolerable any longer. It is hormonal but if I had been like that sooner my life would have been different and I would probably be better off now.

So it wasn't hormonal. sorry OP. Your wife married you because she wanted a husband and kids by a certain time and her life and you were available, she convinced yourself you the one. Now that she has her baby she has no use for you. It won't get better no matter how many dirty dishes ( wtf?) you do.

[Anonymous]

OP had the alcoholic wife a day or so ago. I can recognize the writing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP had the alcoholic wife a day or so ago. I can recognize the writing.

An the capital letter in every word.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had this! When I was pregnant it was like the scales had fallen from my eyes and everything I had tolerated that was shortchanging me was just absolutely intolerable any longer. It is hormonal but if I had been like that sooner my life would have been different and I would probably be better off now.

So it wasn't hormonal. sorry OP. Your wife married you because she wanted a husband and kids by a certain time and her life and you were available, she convinced yourself you the one. Now that she has her baby she has no use for you. It won't get better no matter how many dirty dishes ( wtf?) you do.

It was . It was like drinking some kind of truth potion that made me not take bs any longer. My tolerance for my DH’s subtle abuse just disappeared. It was a revelation, and I remembered it even after pregnancy was over. I had firmer boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps it’s hormonal and she can’t help her mood swings but that’s no excuse for abusive behavior; pregnant women don’t get a free pass. Clearly it’s taking its toll on you and your relationship. Is it possible she’s experiencing prenatal depression or anxiety?

I’d it’s unrelenting enough that you are considering moving to the guest room then it’s time to have a conversation with her. I’m wondering if you are picking up the slack with household responsibilities, etc. - might she feel unsupported? Perhaps the dirty dishes in the sink that she usually overlooks are intolerable right now. Time to look inward and see if there’s anything more you could be doing.

OP here. I’ve taken over everything - cooking and cleaning, because I don’t want to her to have to stress about anything. We keep our house very clean. I don’t think it’s anything I’m doing. She will be very happy and sweet one day, and then mad for no reason the next day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP had the alcoholic wife a day or so ago. I can recognize the writing.

OP here. What are you talking about? We don’t even drink.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had this! When I was pregnant it was like the scales had fallen from my eyes and everything I had tolerated that was shortchanging me was just absolutely intolerable any longer. It is hormonal but if I had been like that sooner my life would have been different and I would probably be better off now.

So it wasn't hormonal. sorry OP. Your wife married you because she wanted a husband and kids by a certain time and her life and you were available, she convinced yourself you the one. Now that she has her baby she has no use for you. It won't get better no matter how many dirty dishes ( wtf?) you do.

OP here. What are you talking about? PPs experience is nothing like mine. My wife and I have been very happily married for years. She didn’t marry me because she wanted a baby by a certain age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP had the alcoholic wife a day or so ago. I can recognize the writing.

An the capital letter in every word.

OP here. You’re supposed to capitalize or the posts get lost. I’m not that poster. Try again troll. Go spout your nonsense and drama on other threads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had this! When I was pregnant it was like the scales had fallen from my eyes and everything I had tolerated that was shortchanging me was just absolutely intolerable any longer. It is hormonal but if I had been like that sooner my life would have been different and I would probably be better off now.

So it wasn't hormonal. sorry OP. Your wife married you because she wanted a husband and kids by a certain time and her life and you were available, she convinced yourself you the one. Now that she has her baby she has no use for you. It won't get better no matter how many dirty dishes ( wtf?) you do.

It was . It was like drinking some kind of truth potion that made me not take bs any longer. My tolerance for my DH’s subtle abuse just disappeared. It was a revelation, and I remembered it even after pregnancy was over. I had firmer boundaries.

OP here. I’m very sorry you had that experience but I’m not abusive to my wife. I do not appreciate you insinuating that my situation is that same. Please take your drama off of my thread. You can make your own post about it.

[Anonymous]

This is very normal for many women. I had this really bad bearing the end of my pregnancy. I was irrationally mad at everyone and everything. My husband is an amazing guy and him doing basic things irritated me so much. It weren’t away after I gave birth. My OBGYN said it was normal and hormones.

[Anonymous]

OP, welcome to the rest if your life.