Appropriate age for boys to stop going into the locker room with their moms at the pool?

[Anonymous]

I took my seven year old daughter to the pool today and when we got there, a boy from my daughter's class at school was in the locker room getting changed out of his bathing suit with his mom out in the open in full view of my daughter. His mother was making no effort to cover him up so my daughter saw everything. Thankfully my daughter had her swimsuit on already so she didn't need to get changed in front of him. Am I wrong for thinking it's just really not appropriate for a boy older than a toddler to be in there with his mom? How old is too old do y'all think?

[Anonymous]

2nd grade

[Anonymous]

It really depends on the setup and what he would all need to do alone in there. But I would say six to eight would be a good start

[Anonymous]

I would use a single family bathroom at that age for my sons.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't send my 7 year old son alone into a locker room, no. Unless he was with an older sibling or someone we knew. Probably closer to age 8-9.

But I would go into a stall for him to change. I think that's more of the issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would use a single family bathroom at that age for my sons.

I'm assuming there isn't one in this scenario or of course that would be the most suitable option. But I don't see a lot of those.

[Anonymous]

Are you really suggesting if you had a boy age 3-4 ("older than toddler") you would send him into a mens' changing room alone?

[Anonymous]

Depends on the kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you really suggesting if you had a boy age 3-4 ("older than toddler") you would send him into a mens' changing room alone?

+1, op, you’re crazy.

Agree with others - 7 years old but I’d be standing by that door like a hawk and listening to everything going on in the men’s lockers

[Anonymous]

Depends but generally K. That’s when they’re separated at school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you really suggesting if you had a boy age 3-4 ("older than toddler") you would send him into a mens' changing room alone?

+1, op, you’re crazy.

Agree with others - 7 years old but I’d be standing by that door like a hawk and listening to everything going on in the men’s lockers

JFC no one is raping your kid in the bathroom. They go alone at school all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't send my 7 year old son alone into a locker room, no. Unless he was with an older sibling or someone we knew. Probably closer to age 8-9.

But I would go into a stall for him to change. I think that's more of the issue.

+1

I take my 6 y/o in the women’s locker room with me if my DH isn’t there. I mean, what else am I going to do? I am not going to send him into the men’s room alone. But I agree about finding a stall. If no stall, then I might hold up a towel and try to be discrete in a corner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you really suggesting if you had a boy age 3-4 ("older than toddler") you would send him into a mens' changing room alone?

No, but I would have him change at home or in the car or even just under a towel, not out in the open in the women's locker room with his privates on full display. I felt bad for the kid, he was obviously embarrassed when he realize a girl from his class was seeing him naked and noticed my daughter staring. I was shocked his mother didn't care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you really suggesting if you had a boy age 3-4 ("older than toddler") you would send him into a mens' changing room alone?

+1, op, you’re crazy.

Agree with others - 7 years old but I’d be standing by that door like a hawk and listening to everything going on in the men’s lockers

JFC no one is raping your kid in the bathroom. They go alone at school all the time.

If I could be molested by a cousin in a back yard, or have some perv rubbing against me on the metro, then yeah, some dude can absolutely assault or expose themselves to my kids in an otherwise empty locker room.

School and pool locker rooms at a gym cannot be compared.

Ps - don’t be such a jerk when you post.

[Anonymous]

the neighborhood pool? depends on which son - one could have gone at 5, the other is not ready at 6. and either could change in a stall just fine or with me holding up a towel in the corner. By 7, he would be horribly embarrassed to have anyone see him change, especially a classmate.

but like the airport bathroom? stadium? that would be older, like 10. not because of any real fear of molestation, just weird men or seeing drunk men peeing all over.