Appropriate age for boys to stop going into the locker room with their moms at the pool?

[Anonymous]

Who actually changes in the pool locker room in the summer. In our swim club people arrive in suits and leave in suits. I don't think I've ever seen anyone changing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At our pool 7 and up must use their correct locker room.

Everyone should follow the rules - but understand that most places don't have a posted policy like this.

At our pool, it’s age 5. And the neighborhood mommies know perfectly well, and flout it anyway. And 90% of them live within WALKING distance of the pool. I notify the staff each and every time.

Sounds like that doesn't do anything.

Yeah, it does. They have to leave immediately. And then they can’t claim ignorance. And if they get flagged by staff, their access is removed for the rest of the season. I’m on the board. It’s happened.

Really? You have bad karma coming to you.

[Anonymous]

Ugh this reminds me of the time pre-pandemic when a woman brought her (looked to be at least) 10 & 8 year old sons into the women's locker room at the Bethesda Equinox. I found that totally inappropriate.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it really depends on how capable the kid is and it's none of your business. Also, Americans are literally the only ones in the world this uptight about kids seeing other kids naked. Could it be that your child's classmate's mom was from a different country?

Considering the boy had a "turtleneck" I would assume she's European, but I did not say anything to her so I'm not sure.

There you go. All over Europe boys and girls are changing their clothes beside the lakes and at the beaches with not a thought of smudging anyone else's purity. It's only in America that people freak out.

Those aren't places touted as single-sex. If there's an expectation that you're not going to see the opposite sex in the facility, it should be respected.

[Anonymous]

Our old rec center pool in falls church had a sign that said kids older than X must use gender appropriate locker room. I can't recall the age (it's been 3-4 yrs) but I remember being surprised how young it was, like 6 yo.

[Anonymous]

Our pool clearly states on the door: boys 5 and up must use men's locker room and girl's 5 and up must use women's room.

[Anonymous]

Really depends how safe I feel he will be alone. I normally made my kids wear their swimsuits under their normal clothes before we went to a pool.

Once he has finished swimming, I took him to a stall where I would go and change him. More than people seeing him naked in a ladies bathroom, I was nervous of him seeing all the naked old ladies in the bathroom who insist on having a conversation with you while being absolutely stark naked. No one needs to see that. Neither my kids nor I.

FWIW, I also change in a stall. I am a pretty modest person and I don't walk around naked even in a ladies shower area.

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8-10 yrs old probably. Even older kids if they are shy or nervous. Regardless of how old they are, they should use a stall. No one should see them naked and they should not see other people naked too.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you really suggesting if you had a boy age 3-4 ("older than toddler") you would send him into a mens' changing room alone?

+1, op, you’re crazy.

Agree with others - 7 years old but I’d be standing by that door like a hawk and listening to everything going on in the men’s lockers

JFC no one is raping your kid in the bathroom. They go alone at school all the time.

Hey genius, 3 and 4 year olds don’t go to school…

Was referring to the 7 year old but you sound lovely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really depends how safe I feel he will be alone. I normally made my kids wear their swimsuits under their normal clothes before we went to a pool.

Once he has finished swimming, I took him to a stall where I would go and change him. More than people seeing him naked in a ladies bathroom, I was nervous of him seeing all the naked old ladies in the bathroom who insist on having a conversation with you while being absolutely stark naked. No one needs to see that. Neither my kids nor I.

FWIW, I also change in a stall. I am a pretty modest person and I don't walk around naked even in a ladies shower area.

The idea that it's inappropriate for WOMEN to be naked in the WOMEN's LOCKER ROOM is beyond. Who even are you people? Your parents effed you up good. What a blast you must be in the sack. Lights off, under the covers, jammies on...

[Anonymous]

This seems obvious to me- once they start K. Either go with dad or a trusted male adult, change at home, etc. Once they're in school they're too old to go in the women's room.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Really depends how safe I feel he will be alone. I normally made my kids wear their swimsuits under their normal clothes before we went to a pool.

Once he has finished swimming, I took him to a stall where I would go and change him. More than people seeing him naked in a ladies bathroom, I was nervous of him seeing all the naked old ladies in the bathroom who insist on having a conversation with you while being absolutely stark naked. No one needs to see that. Neither my kids nor I.

FWIW, I also change in a stall. I am a pretty modest person and I don't walk around naked even in a ladies shower area.

The idea that it's inappropriate for WOMEN to be naked in the WOMEN's LOCKER ROOM is beyond. Who even are you people? Your parents effed you up good. What a blast you must be in the sack. Lights off, under the covers, jammies on...

Interesting how you link nudity in a locker room to sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:8-10 yrs old probably. Even older kids if they are shy or nervous. Regardless of how old they are, they should use a stall. No one should see them naked and they should not see other people naked too.

A 10 year old boy perving in the women’s locker room is not even remotely ok

[Anonymous]

my boys are 7 and 4. We come to the pool from school/summer camp and they definitely have to change at the pool. After swim team or swimming, I have the boys take showers and change into pjs as swim meets are pretty late and it is so much easier. My seven year old will take his 4 year old brother into the men's room or I will stand outside the men's locker room. I don't think I'd let my four year old go by himself, but my 7 year old has a lot of girl friends in his class or school that he knows and would feel a little mortified changing in front of them. With COVID, our swim club took down the curtains they normally had for the changing rooms but not the showers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:8-10 yrs old probably. Even older kids if they are shy or nervous. Regardless of how old they are, they should use a stall. No one should see them naked and they should not see other people naked too.

A 10 year old boy perving in the women’s locker room is not even remotely ok

Are the ten yr olds you know “perving”? You should go find another thread. Off you go now.