Appropriate age for boys to stop going into the locker room with their moms at the pool?

[Anonymous]

At that age I would not change in front of any classmate - same sex or not.

Have kids dressed at home and have them walk through men’s room. Ask someone to usher them through directly and be ready on the other side.

[Anonymous]

My son is 8 and he goes to the pool bathroom on his own to change etc and really began full independence with this around age 7. (On and off age 6 depending on circumstance). He goes alone at airports etc too .. he’d be horrified to come with me and his sister to the girls room.

[Anonymous]

I would say 5 or 6. My 6 year old daughter has begun requesting privacy at home. She certainly does not want a boy from school seeing her naked.

If you have no other options, then you change at home. You don’t traumatize little girls because of your fear that something *might* happen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you really suggesting if you had a boy age 3-4 ("older than toddler") you would send him into a mens' changing room alone?

No, but I would have him change at home or in the car or even just under a towel, not out in the open in the women's locker room with his privates on full display. I felt bad for the kid, he was obviously embarrassed when he realize a girl from his class was seeing him naked and noticed my daughter staring. I was shocked his mother didn't care.

Why do you need to change at the pool at all? Get ready at home. Ride home in a suit after drying off, shower at home. What’s the big deal?

+100. What is with you people? You know your kid will survive a 10-minute car ride home in a damp suit, right?

If you have a 6yo or older who can’t manage to walk from pool deck to locker room in 30 seconds as you walk the same route in the women’s room and meet on the other side, you have bigger problems than damp bathing suits. If you don’t see him in 30 seconds, you can walk into the entrance and call for him, and if you don’t hear from him after another 10 seconds, you can yell in, “I’m coming in to get my son in 5 seconds.”

[Anonymous]

At our pool 7 and up must use their correct locker room.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you really suggesting if you had a boy age 3-4 ("older than toddler") you would send him into a mens' changing room alone?

No, but I would have him change at home or in the car or even just under a towel, not out in the open in the women's locker room with his privates on full display. I felt bad for the kid, he was obviously embarrassed when he realize a girl from his class was seeing him naked and noticed my daughter staring. I was shocked his mother didn't care.

Why do you need to change at the pool at all? Get ready at home. Ride home in a suit after drying off, shower at home. What’s the big deal?

+100. What is with you people? You know your kid will survive a 10-minute car ride home in a damp suit, right?

If you have a 6yo or older who can’t manage to walk from pool deck to locker room in 30 seconds as you walk the same route in the women’s room and meet on the other side, you have bigger problems than damp bathing suits. If you don’t see him in 30 seconds, you can walk into the entrance and call for him, and if you don’t hear from him after another 10 seconds, you can yell in, “I’m coming in to get my son in 5 seconds.”

My kids (girls) need to have the chlorine washed off after he pool. And i dont want wet car seats. If its only daddy taking them to the pool (2 and 5) they do a deck change in a towel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At our pool 7 and up must use their correct locker room.

Same here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would say 5 or 6. My 6 year old daughter has begun requesting privacy at home. She certainly does not want a boy from school seeing her naked.

If you have no other options, then you change at home. You don’t traumatize little girls because of your fear that something *might* happen.

Is it inherently traumatic to see a little boy changing? I guess I'll tell the entire rest of the world that their daughters are traumatized.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At our pool 7 and up must use their correct locker room.

Same here.

As they should. Any 7yo who can’t handle walking from pool deck through a locker room to meet a parent or caregiver on the other side clearly needs a babysitter or special needs caregiver of the same sex. Any 7yo who can’t handle a 10-minute car ride home with a damp suit under a cover-up or clothes so they can shower and change at home is to precious and picky to participate in this activity.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you really suggesting if you had a boy age 3-4 ("older than toddler") you would send him into a mens' changing room alone?

No, but I would have him change at home or in the car or even just under a towel, not out in the open in the women's locker room with his privates on full display. I felt bad for the kid, he was obviously embarrassed when he realize a girl from his class was seeing him naked and noticed my daughter staring. I was shocked his mother didn't care.

Why do you need to change at the pool at all? Get ready at home. Ride home in a suit after drying off, shower at home. What’s the big deal?

+100. What is with you people? You know your kid will survive a 10-minute car ride home in a damp suit, right?

If you have a 6yo or older who can’t manage to walk from pool deck to locker room in 30 seconds as you walk the same route in the women’s room and meet on the other side, you have bigger problems than damp bathing suits. If you don’t see him in 30 seconds, you can walk into the entrance and call for him, and if you don’t hear from him after another 10 seconds, you can yell in, “I’m coming in to get my son in 5 seconds.”

My kids (girls) need to have the chlorine washed off after he pool. And i dont want wet car seats. If its only daddy taking them to the pool (2 and 5) they do a deck change in a towel.

“Want” is not “need.” I swam from age 6 to age 18 and was a lifeguard. If you can’t handle a brief car ride with chlorine in your hair, you can’t handle being a part of swim culture, so you might as well quit now. Wah wah wah, wet car seats? It’s called dry off, put on dry clothes or a cover up, sit on a dry towel in the car seat if you must, but really. Picky picky precious much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you really suggesting if you had a boy age 3-4 ("older than toddler") you would send him into a mens' changing room alone?

No, but I would have him change at home or in the car or even just under a towel, not out in the open in the women's locker room with his privates on full display. I felt bad for the kid, he was obviously embarrassed when he realize a girl from his class was seeing him naked and noticed my daughter staring. I was shocked his mother didn't care.

Why do you need to change at the pool at all? Get ready at home. Ride home in a suit after drying off, shower at home. What’s the big deal?

Gross, why would you want to drive home in wet trunks? I'd just cover the kid up with a towel in the locker room. But really, as someone above posted, how is this a big deal? And YOU, OP, should teach your daughter not to stare if it's such an issue for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At our pool 7 and up must use their correct locker room.

Same here.

As they should. Any 7yo who can’t handle walking from pool deck through a locker room to meet a parent or caregiver on the other side clearly needs a babysitter or special needs caregiver of the same sex. Any 7yo who can’t handle a 10-minute car ride home with a damp suit under a cover-up or clothes so they can shower and change at home is to precious and picky to participate in this activity.

It's not your call to make.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you really suggesting if you had a boy age 3-4 ("older than toddler") you would send him into a mens' changing room alone?

No, but I would have him change at home or in the car or even just under a towel, not out in the open in the women's locker room with his privates on full display. I felt bad for the kid, he was obviously embarrassed when he realize a girl from his class was seeing him naked and noticed my daughter staring. I was shocked his mother didn't care.

Why are you letting your daughter stare at ANYONE in a locker room? Have you not taught her to avoid looking at other people's bodies. Male or female, that isn't polite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At our pool 7 and up must use their correct locker room.

Everyone should follow the rules - but understand that most places don't have a posted policy like this.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it really depends on how capable the kid is and it's none of your business. Also, Americans are literally the only ones in the world this uptight about kids seeing other kids naked. Could it be that your child's classmate's mom was from a different country?

Considering the boy had a "turtleneck" I would assume she's European, but I did not say anything to her so I'm not sure.

There you go. All over Europe boys and girls are changing their clothes beside the lakes and at the beaches with not a thought of smudging anyone else's purity. It's only in America that people freak out.

+1 my European relatives kids are naked/changing clothes around others often. They are now ages 6-8 so I think soon they’ll want to cover up more but it’s always been this way. My SIL never had a problem baring her full breasts in public while breastfeeding either (no nursing cover or attempt to conceal). People there are not prudes like we are here.