Girlfriend Meeting Judgmental Friends

[Anonymous]

I’ve been dating a woman I met through work since March. Things are becoming much more serious. I’m hesitant to introduce her to my friends because their wives can be very judgmental. Most of my friends and their wives have high achieving careers, with advanced degrees and large salaries. No one in our group makes below 100k. The woman I’ve been dating is a medical tech and makes about $60k/year and has no advanced degrees. It doesn’t matter to me at all, but I know the wives can be very critical and judgmental. I plan to invite her to a function this weekend with everyone but I’m very nervous. I really like her and I want them to like her too. I don’t want her feel uncomfortable at all. Please give me advice to make this go smoothly.

[Anonymous]

Get new friends.

[Anonymous]

Tell them you really like this woman and can they please keep their nonsense to themselves and make her feel welcome and appreciated.

[Anonymous]

She will be fine. Don’t bring your baggage about her status with you. Focus on how special she is to you and everyone will see that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She will be fine. Don’t bring your baggage about her status with you. Focus on how special she is to you and everyone will see that.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get new friends.

+1

Is this a joke?

I look at some of the guys I have dated, and their friend pics, and they look like a bunch of stuffed shirts. Dodged a bullet or two - I would have been bored out of my mind.

[Anonymous]

I’m puzzled that you all know what the other makes. My friends and I don’t discuss our salaries. We have an idea because some of us are gov and that information is publicly available, but we would never be judgmental over it.

Why do you and your friends act this way?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell them you really like this woman and can they please keep their nonsense to themselves and make her feel welcome and appreciated.

Would OP say this to his friends, or their wives, or both?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get new friends.

+1

Is this a joke?

I look at some of the guys I have dated, and their friend pics, and they look like a bunch of stuffed shirts. Dodged a bullet or two - I would have been bored out of my mind.

OP here. My friends are not the problem - their wives are. They are very judgmental. One friend of mine dated a receptionist and they all said rude comments about her job. They are snobs.

[Anonymous]

People who make 100,000 or more in the DC area are not big shots. They should not be talking about their salaries, and should not be looking down at somebody who makes 60,000. Successful people have another zero or two on their income, but they do not talk about it, because they do not need to. Congrats on finding somebody you care about, and get new friends if you are actually worried about how this group will treat her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m puzzled that you all know what the other makes. My friends and I don’t discuss our salaries. We have an idea because some of us are gov and that information is publicly available, but we would never be judgmental over it.

Why do you and your friends act this way?

OP here. I don’t know the exact dollar amount they make but I know we all make over 100k. It’s not hard to tell based on their jobs and lifestyles. My guy friends don’t care, but the wives tend to be judgmental. Even the one who stays home with her two kids had very lucrative career in finance. I don’t care for their wives that much, but I’ve been friends with these guys for many years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who make 100,000 or more in the DC area are not big shots. They should not be talking about their salaries, and should not be looking down at somebody who makes 60,000. Successful people have another zero or two on their income, but they do not talk about it, because they do not need to. Congrats on finding somebody you care about, and get new friends if you are actually worried about how this group will treat her.

OP here. The wives makes around that and higher. All my male friends, myself included, make over 300k. Very good money wherever you live. Majority are doctors, lawyers, or in finance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get new friends.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get new friends.

+1

+100
It was bad enough when women only judged MEN’s value by their salary! But how very sad that we fought the women’s lib battle for what???—to now value other women using the same metric? Gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People who make 100,000 or more in the DC area are not big shots. They should not be talking about their salaries, and should not be looking down at somebody who makes 60,000. Successful people have another zero or two on their income, but they do not talk about it, because they do not need to. Congrats on finding somebody you care about, and get new friends if you are actually worried about how this group will treat her.

OP here. The wives makes around that and higher. All my male friends, myself included, make over 300k. Very good money wherever you live. Majority are doctors, lawyers, or in finance.

You all sound snobby and superficial. Who wants friends based only on your net worth? Gross. Don’t subject your girlfriend to that nonsense.