Girlfriend Meeting Judgmental Friends

[Anonymous]

Agree with call them out to their faces if they get snarky.

[Anonymous]

This is about education, not income.

OP you sound misogynistic if you think your friends are so great but ALL the wives suck?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please. Op's guy friends are great but universally married awful snobby women?

Sounds like misogyny to me.

I can see it. Most men don’t care about a woman’s profession. I’ve seen snobby women judge on things like profession, the woman’s husbands job, how big their ring is, etc. Women can be catty and act like teenagers.

Ok but the girlfriend is not a child. Everyone needs coping skills to deal with immature snobby people...there is no shortage of them. Can she jangle herself with these folks. That is just part of life.

[Anonymous]

Can she handle* herself with these judgies I meant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is about education, not income.

OP you sound misogynistic if you think your friends are so great but ALL the wives suck?

maybe they happen to suck?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get new friends.

+1

+100
It was bad enough when women only judged MEN’s value by their salary! But how very sad that we fought the women’s lib battle for what???—to now value other women using the same metric? Gross.

Yep! Women should be making bank!

[Anonymous]

OP, how does the girlfriend compare to the snarky wives in terms of attractiveness?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please. Op's guy friends are great but universally married awful snobby women?

Sounds like misogyny to me.

I can see it. Most men don’t care about a woman’s profession. I’ve seen snobby women judge on things like profession, the woman’s husbands job, how big their ring is, etc. Women can be catty and act like teenagers.

+1. People underestimate just how jealous and catty women can be.

No what people do is underestimate how catty and shallow men can be about these things. It's just a coincidence that all OP's friends married such shallow and snobby women? I don't think so. Op's friends are snobs too.

I think ops friends all married their equals ..education wise and $. I bet some of these wives outearn the husbands but op does not realize it or even want to acknowledge that. I sometimes outearn my DH (have my own finance business) but I am sure his friends would not assume that. Don’t care either way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly dude, if they’re rude to her, you’re going to have to call them out to their face. Who’s more important to you, your girlfriend or a bunch of wives you don’t even care about.

+1

But let's be clear here, you need new friends and ALL of them are nasty. If you don't see that you may have to reevaluate your own morals/perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who make 100,000 or more in the DC area are not big shots. They should not be talking about their salaries, and should not be looking down at somebody who makes 60,000. Successful people have another zero or two on their income, but they do not talk about it, because they do not need to. Congrats on finding somebody you care about, and get new friends if you are actually worried about how this group will treat her.

Successful people are not successes based on their income. No one with multiple zeroes on their income should be looking down at anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't matter what they think. If they're snobs, your girlfriend won't want to hang out with them anyway. If she senses they're not nice, she'll keep her distance. If she says anything to you about them, just tell her you agree they're not nice people and make sure your actions show that you're not expecting her to be buddy buddy with them. (For example, make her feel welcome to hang out with the guys if the girls are all off doing their own thing).

And interrupt the guy time? No. He just shouldn't make a big deal out of it period and be eternally grateful if she shows up to the couple events. But honestly, 1 of 2 things will happen: a) girlfriend will break up with OP because she finds his friends terrible and snobby b) Op realizes he has outgrown the friendship and phases them out.

Ugh, why do the sexes need to split up in social situations? This doesn’t happen in my social circle and it seems indicative of a very conservative, reactionary mindset. I’d not mingle with people who did this regularly.

[Anonymous]

Don’t look at her through the eyes of your friends. Your friends aren’t the problem, you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get new friends.

+1 WTF. On some level you must be judging too or you wouldn’t GAF what they thought. Are your friends that bad that they would actually make your GF feel uncomfortable? Like - she would actually pick up on their disdain? I would find that completely insufferable.

[Anonymous]

And you’re not trying to protect her from their judgment - you’re trying to protect yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is about education, not income.

OP you sound misogynistic if you think your friends are so great but ALL the wives suck?

This! OP is intimidated by their wives because he knows he probably can’t get the same caliber. So he insults them and says they are ALL meanies. I expect the op’s response is he would never be interested in them. The high earning wives are probably also very attractive and into fitness. Though I am sure the response will be they are not and are fat. Seeing the pattern here.