Girlfriend Meeting Judgmental Friends

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is about education, not income.

OP you sound misogynistic if you think your friends are so great but ALL the wives suck?

This! OP is intimidated by their wives because he knows he probably can’t get the same caliber. So he insults them and says they are ALL meanies. I expect the op’s response is he would never be interested in them. The high earning wives are probably also very attractive and into fitness. Though I am sure the response will be they are not and are fat. Seeing the pattern here.

Very perceptive and a valid theory. It is interesting that the OP did not respond to the question of how his girlfriend compares to the wives in looks. If the girlfriend is less hot, then this is probably about the OP's own insecurity. If the GF is hotter, then who cares what the wives think of her career? It is hard to analyze this much further until we know how the GF compares.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell them you really like this woman and can they please keep their nonsense to themselves and make her feel welcome and appreciated.

This is the correct answer. I hope you say it. To the wives in front of the husbands.

[Anonymous]

I'm not so sure. That fact that such a statement has to be made means that something is way off kilter with somebody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is about education, not income.

OP you sound misogynistic if you think your friends are so great but ALL the wives suck?

This! OP is intimidated by their wives because he knows he probably can’t get the same caliber. So he insults them and says they are ALL meanies. I expect the op’s response is he would never be interested in them. The high earning wives are probably also very attractive and into fitness. Though I am sure the response will be they are not and are fat. Seeing the pattern here.

Very perceptive and a valid theory. It is interesting that the OP did not respond to the question of how his girlfriend compares to the wives in looks. If the girlfriend is less hot, then this is probably about the OP's own insecurity. If the GF is hotter, then who cares what the wives think of her career? It is hard to analyze this much further until we know how the GF compares.

If the are all hot, then I may want to attend this function myself. Pass the popcorn, please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating a woman I met through work since March. Things are becoming much more serious. I’m hesitant to introduce her to my friends because their wives can be very judgmental. Most of my friends and their wives have high achieving careers, with advanced degrees and large salaries. No one in our group makes below 100k. The woman I’ve been dating is a medical tech and makes about $60k/year and has no advanced degrees. It doesn’t matter to me at all, but I know the wives can be very critical and judgmental. I plan to invite her to a function this weekend with everyone but I’m very nervous. I really like her and I want them to like her too. I don’t want her feel uncomfortable at all. Please give me advice to make this go smoothly.

This is your first mistake. How old are you? Why do you care if your friends' wives like your girlfriend? These ladies shouldn't decide whom you date or marry. Why do you hang around people like that? Just hang with your buddies and don't treat your girlfriend like fresh meat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is about education, not income.

OP you sound misogynistic if you think your friends are so great but ALL the wives suck?

This! OP is intimidated by their wives because he knows he probably can’t get the same caliber. So he insults them and says they are ALL meanies. I expect the op’s response is he would never be interested in them. The high earning wives are probably also very attractive and into fitness. Though I am sure the response will be they are not and are fat. Seeing the pattern here.

Very perceptive and a valid theory. It is interesting that the OP did not respond to the question of how his girlfriend compares to the wives in looks. If the girlfriend is less hot, then this is probably about the OP's own insecurity. If the GF is hotter, then who cares what the wives think of her career? It is hard to analyze this much further until we know how the GF compares.

If the are all hot, then I may want to attend this function myself. Pass the popcorn, please.

LOL, same!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is about education, not income.

OP you sound misogynistic if you think your friends are so great but ALL the wives suck?

This! OP is intimidated by their wives because he knows he probably can’t get the same caliber. So he insults them and says they are ALL meanies. I expect the op’s response is he would never be interested in them. The high earning wives are probably also very attractive and into fitness. Though I am sure the response will be they are not and are fat. Seeing the pattern here.

Very perceptive and a valid theory. It is interesting that the OP did not respond to the question of how his girlfriend compares to the wives in looks. If the girlfriend is less hot, then this is probably about the OP's own insecurity. If the GF is hotter, then who cares what the wives think of her career? It is hard to analyze this much further until we know how the GF compares.

OP here. I haven’t been on here for the last couple of days to respond. I’ve been very busy with work.

As for your question, they are all technically considered attractive. There are 5 wives - one of which I don’t find attractive. She’s nice, but not my type at all. Very knew with a runners body and no T&A. I like my women with curves. The rest are all attractive. Everyone is fit except the one who has two kids, but I assume that is pretty normal.

I’m not intimated by them. They are nice people but feel like it’s their place to make sure I find someone “ good enough”. That’s exactly what happened with one of my friends former girlfriends ( he’s now engaged). She was a receptionist and very lovely. They told him how he can do better and needed someone on par with his career and lifestyle.

My girlfriend is just as attractive. She’s a little younger than them, but only by a couple of years. She’s fit with big boobs, like I like em. She has a bachelors degree and is very smart. She’s just so cute, sexy, and funny.

I talked to my friends and told them to tell their wives to tone things down. I like her and I do not want them to say anything. That’s a whole other story if they actually tell them. They are not terrible people. They just think they know what’s best for us. Each of them did it when they found their wives. My friends are fine. One can be a bit like them, but none are. The funniest thing is we all grew up in very middle class homes without money. Most of the wives grew up a little more affluent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can she handle* herself with these judgies I meant.

OP here. She can handle herself. She grew up as one of the only with kids in a predominantly Hispanic/Black area for half of her life. She is trained in various self defense methods. She is tough and knows how to hold her wok. Very sweet but it’s advised they don’t get on her bad side.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Please. Op's guy friends are great but universally married awful snobby women?

Sounds like misogyny to me.

I can see it. Most men don’t care about a woman’s profession. I’ve seen snobby women judge on things like profession, the woman’s husbands job, how big their ring is, etc. Women can be catty and act like teenagers.

+1. People underestimate just how jealous and catty women can be.

No what people do is underestimate how catty and shallow men can be about these things. It's just a coincidence that all OP's friends married such shallow and snobby women? I don't think so. Op's friends are snobs too.

I think ops friends all married their equals ..education wise and $. I bet some of these wives outearn the husbands but op does not realize it or even want to acknowledge that. I sometimes outearn my DH (have my own finance business) but I am sure his friends would not assume that. Don’t care either way.

OP here. They all are equal when it comes to education, but most of my friends outearn their wives. Not that it even matters.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can she handle* herself with these judgies I meant.

OP here. She can handle herself. She grew up as one of the only with kids in a predominantly Hispanic/Black area for half of her life. She is trained in various self defense methods. She is tough and knows how to hold her wok. Very sweet but it’s advised they don’t get on her bad side.

This typo is giving me life! I can just imagine OP’s GF defending herself against a group of snooty b*tches with her wok.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Get new friends.

+1

Is this a joke?

I look at some of the guys I have dated, and their friend pics, and they look like a bunch of stuffed shirts. Dodged a bullet or two - I would have been bored out of my mind.

OP here. My friends are not the problem - their wives are. They are very judgmental. One friend of mine dated a receptionist and they all said rude comments about her job. They are snobs.

Your friends should tell their wives to shut up.

[Anonymous]

So when is this function - I want to hear how it goes.

[Anonymous]

Yeeeeah, these women may become a problem in your life in you don't nip this in the bud. I always made sure to make note of the way a man's friends (yes, these snobby women are your friends for all intents and purposes) act because, well, I didn't want to put up with assholes for the rest of my life. Am I going to be thrown into socializing with these jerks for the rest of my life? Not to mention, water seeks its level. If the wives are jerks there's a big chance the DHs are as well. And these are the people you surround yourself with.

Sorry to say it OP, but you are judged based on the company you keep. It sounds like your company is going to chase away anyone with half a brain. There's a big difference between "Ugh, we haven't seen Bill and Barb in a while, let's show our faces and leave ASAP, I know they're jerks but I've know Bill since high school" and "Here are all my friends, yup, they're all awful! Sorry!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can she handle* herself with these judgies I meant.

OP here. She can handle herself. She grew up as one of the only with kids in a predominantly Hispanic/Black area for half of her life. She is trained in various self defense methods. She is tough and knows how to hold her wok. Very sweet but it’s advised they don’t get on her bad side.

This typo is giving me life! I can just imagine OP’s GF defending herself against a group of snooty b*tches with her wok.

OP here. I meant hold her own but that’s hilarious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So when is this function - I want to hear how it goes.

OP here. It’s tomorrow.

I told my girlfriend about how these women act and she said she is bro concerned. She’s dating me, not them. She’s dealt with many catty women and she will be fine.