Official my DH is an ass on Mother’s Day 2021 thread

[Anonymous]

My favorite day of the year! Let’s hear those stories ladies

[Anonymous]

My Mother’s Day weekend was the best ever but I am ready to be quiet and listen

[Anonymous]

Second year in a row, he asked explicitly what I would like and then did NOT get it. And got something cheaper or uglier.

[Anonymous]

Didn’t send his mom a gift or a card. And when I asked that he take the kids and spend the day with her visiting, he refused. I’m sure she’ll blame me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Second year in a row, he asked explicitly what I would like and then did NOT get it. And got something cheaper or uglier.

We need more details! With links! What did you ask for and what did he get?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Didn’t send his mom a gift or a card. And when I asked that he take the kids and spend the day with her visiting, he refused. I’m sure she’ll blame me.

Yup that’s an ass move, you’re in the right place

[Anonymous]

Told me I could sleep in today but DD has gymnastics. Proceeds to have his alarm go off five times and turn the lights on when he finally got up. Argh.

[Anonymous]

My DH has been great today but yesterday he picked a totally unnecessary fight with me (because I didn’t want to go for a walk before dinner, it was so dumb). Eventually he realized he was being ridiculous and apologized. Then he disappeared after dinner for a while, and this morning I have flowers, he’s making breakfast, and he’s even involved the kids.

Highly recommend the pre-Mother’s Day spat! Working great for me.

[Anonymous]

My DH just...forgot. Didn't even coach the elementary schooler to say "happy Mother's Day." This was after he thanked me for taking care of the card and kid gift for his mom, who we saw yesterday, discussing my flower order for my mom, and checking in with his sister's about whose turn it was this year to order flowers for their mom. He absolutely knew it was Mother's Day, he just didn't extend it to thinking about me at all.

I said I was bummed we were out of milk for coffee but a new breakfast place I'd been anticipating opened up down the street this morning. He said "fine, if you want it you'd better go, I'll stay with the kids." That was when the waterworks started - yes, I know the kids aren't vaccinated so i wouldn't insist we all go, but there were just ZERO dots connecting in his brain. ZERO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH just...forgot. Didn't even coach the elementary schooler to say "happy Mother's Day." This was after he thanked me for taking care of the card and kid gift for his mom, who we saw yesterday, discussing my flower order for my mom, and checking in with his sister's about whose turn it was this year to order flowers for their mom. He absolutely knew it was Mother's Day, he just didn't extend it to thinking about me at all.

I said I was bummed we were out of milk for coffee but a new breakfast place I'd been anticipating opened up down the street this morning. He said "fine, if you want it you'd better go, I'll stay with the kids." That was when the waterworks started - yes, I know the kids aren't vaccinated so i wouldn't insist we all go, but there were just ZERO dots connecting in his brain. ZERO.

I’m sorry this sounds awful. But, honestly this seems like it’s about way more than Mother’s Day. Are you guys in a tough spot in your marriage? It’s like he’s purposely trying to hurt you.

[Anonymous]

Really need to rename this thread:
“I’ve Trained My Spouse to Do Nothing Because I Do Everything But Am Going to Hold Him Accountable to Read My Mind, Make Some Silly Gestures of Appreciation and Then Act Upset Because He Did Exactly What I Thought He’d Do”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH just...forgot. Didn't even coach the elementary schooler to say "happy Mother's Day." This was after he thanked me for taking care of the card and kid gift for his mom, who we saw yesterday, discussing my flower order for my mom, and checking in with his sister's about whose turn it was this year to order flowers for their mom. He absolutely knew it was Mother's Day, he just didn't extend it to thinking about me at all.

I said I was bummed we were out of milk for coffee but a new breakfast place I'd been anticipating opened up down the street this morning. He said "fine, if you want it you'd better go, I'll stay with the kids." That was when the waterworks started - yes, I know the kids aren't vaccinated so i wouldn't insist we all go, but there were just ZERO dots connecting in his brain. ZERO.

I’m sorry this sounds awful. But, honestly this seems like it’s about way more than Mother’s Day. Are you guys in a tough spot in your marriage? It’s like he’s purposely trying to hurt you.

No, he's not, he's just that oblivious. We have two small kids, two jobs, and a really busy and sleep deprived life, and he's always been bad at sentimental gestures, so i get that he's tired and was trying to keep the toddler happy. But I thought "remember it's Mother's Day and say something nice to your wife/train your kids" was a pretty rock bottom expectation.

[Anonymous]

Stupid, made up holiday. If you care one iota about Mother’s Day you are an emotional infant. If you get upset about DH failing at Mother’s Day, you are toxic as well. (And you are not your DH’s mother in any event.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stupid, made up holiday. If you care one iota about Mother’s Day you are an emotional infant. If you get upset about DH failing at Mother’s Day, you are toxic as well. (And you are not your DH’s mother in any event.)

Nothing stupid about taking a day out of the year to reflect on, express gratitude, and celebrate the role of someone who dedicates so much much of their life to raise you or your children.

And most women don’t expect anything more than just a kind gesture, just look at the other thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Second year in a row, he asked explicitly what I would like and then did NOT get it. And got something cheaper or uglier.

The WORST! Why do men do this? My dad always did that to my mom growing up and it was such a pain point in their relationship. He’s better about it now but it made some tense moments on gift giving occasions.