Official my DH is an ass on Mother’s Day 2021 thread

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a single parent so no ding dong husband BUT. My kid didn’t say anything to me until I reminded her around 3:30. No card. No flowers. No gift. I cried. Hard. She’s 13 so old enough. I bought myself a new purse but it didn’t even feel remotely special.

She’s 13. Crying because your 13 year old didn’t get you a gift is ridiculous, and it’s a lot of pressure on a child to make you happy. Keep going - when she’s an adult, she’ll get it.

I’m pretty sure I never got my single mother a Mother’s Day gift growing up (where was I supposed to get it, and with what money?). In past years as an adult for Mother’s Day, I’ve flown home to surprise her, bought a KitchenAid mixer, and taken her on trips that week/weekend.

She can remember to wish her mother a Happy Mother's Day! That doesn't cost anything! She could make her a card.

+1. I'm also a single parent (partnered, but that's a whole other story). Kids have teachers etc mentioning mothers day all week. The kid can say the words and make a card. ESPECIALLY if she's 13 instead of, say, 4.

+2. I’m a single mom and my 6 yo stole tulips from my moms garden, made me a coffee mug, painted like ) drawings, made me a t shirt, and a card. And used her allowance to buy me (her? Lol) nail polish.

Kids know if you teach them.

[Anonymous]

My DH was always awful about Mother's Day. He wanted me to plan everything and would them criticize the plan (restaurant is too crowded, etc...) BUT this year, my 20-year-old son hit it out of the park: He got me a specific food item I love from the city he lives in. He thought ahead enough to pre-order it, then made sure it was packaged properly for the drive here. He surprised me with a visit and the food, and AND he had texted his younger sibling to remind them to pick up flowers.

I hope this boy has broken the generational cycle of crappy mother's day.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a single parent so no ding dong husband BUT. My kid didn’t say anything to me until I reminded her around 3:30. No card. No flowers. No gift. I cried. Hard. She’s 13 so old enough. I bought myself a new purse but it didn’t even feel remotely special.

She’s 13. Crying because your 13 year old didn’t get you a gift is ridiculous, and it’s a lot of pressure on a child to make you happy. Keep going - when she’s an adult, she’ll get it.

I’m pretty sure I never got my single mother a Mother’s Day gift growing up (where was I supposed to get it, and with what money?). In past years as an adult for Mother’s Day, I’ve flown home to surprise her, bought a KitchenAid mixer, and taken her on trips that week/weekend.

She can remember to wish her mother a Happy Mother's Day! That doesn't cost anything! She could make her a card.

+1. I'm also a single parent (partnered, but that's a whole other story). Kids have teachers etc mentioning mothers day all week. The kid can say the words and make a card. ESPECIALLY if she's 13 instead of, say, 4.

+2. I’m a single mom and my 6 yo stole tulips from my moms garden, made me a coffee mug, painted like ) drawings, made me a t shirt, and a card. And used her allowance to buy me (her? Lol) nail polish.

Kids know if you teach them.

I saw a boy, about 11, at William Sonoma getting his mom a Mother’s Day gift. Dad dropped him off and I could see him nervously trying to decide between two options (he ended up picking a pasta machine). He was paying with cash and it looked like it was all money he had saved from his allowance. Very sweet!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a single parent so no ding dong husband BUT. My kid didn’t say anything to me until I reminded her around 3:30. No card. No flowers. No gift. I cried. Hard. She’s 13 so old enough. I bought myself a new purse but it didn’t even feel remotely special.

She’s 13. Crying because your 13 year old didn’t get you a gift is ridiculous, and it’s a lot of pressure on a child to make you happy. Keep going - when she’s an adult, she’ll get it.

I’m pretty sure I never got my single mother a Mother’s Day gift growing up (where was I supposed to get it, and with what money?). In past years as an adult for Mother’s Day, I’ve flown home to surprise her, bought a KitchenAid mixer, and taken her on trips that week/weekend.

She can remember to wish her mother a Happy Mother's Day! That doesn't cost anything! She could make her a card.

+1. I'm also a single parent (partnered, but that's a whole other story). Kids have teachers etc mentioning mothers day all week. The kid can say the words and make a card. ESPECIALLY if she's 13 instead of, say, 4.

+2. I’m a single mom and my 6 yo stole tulips from my moms garden, made me a coffee mug, painted like ) drawings, made me a t shirt, and a card. And used her allowance to buy me (her? Lol) nail polish.

Kids know if you teach them.

I saw a boy, about 11, at William Sonoma getting his mom a Mother’s Day gift. Dad dropped him off and I could see him nervously trying to decide between two options (he ended up picking a pasta machine). He was paying with cash and it looked like it was all money he had saved from his allowance. Very sweet!

Oh that sounds adorable. To see how important the gift is to them! It is priceless.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He coached the toddler to wish me a Happy Mother’s Day, which was sweet. MIL got that + flowers...

I hear you. I spent the day with my MIL and DH’s family at her house. MIL got gifts, cards, a cake. I got nothing.

I am so sorry. This is such garbage. You deserve better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a single parent so no ding dong husband BUT. My kid didn’t say anything to me until I reminded her around 3:30. No card. No flowers. No gift. I cried. Hard. She’s 13 so old enough. I bought myself a new purse but it didn’t even feel remotely special.

I’m sorry. Unfortunately kids get prodding by their teachers at school to make a craft or card but this year, clearly it’s different. Add to that the typical 13 year old is self absorbed.

Happy belated mother’s day. You may have not felt it but your 13 year old loves you tons.

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Teenagers are tough! You will look back and laugh at this one day!