Official my DH is an ass on Mother’s Day 2021 thread

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been arguing for the last three days. Now he’s out with the kids I guess pulling together gifts and breakfast. At this point, I don’t care about gifts. I just want a husband who takes accountability for his wrongdoings and partners with me so we both can be better for ourselves and each other. He’s never wrong, he’s never accountable, he’s never sorry. I really believe he’s narcissistic. Every time I bring an issue to him, he changes the conversation to be about something that I did, tells me everything I have to say is a lie, not true, made up, or “I’m reaching”.

What sucks even more is this is his first Mother’s Day without his mom, and I can’t even bring myself to be supportive. I’m just emotionally drained and ready for tomorrow.

Are we married to the same man? Hugs PP, I hope your day gets better

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had to ask if he would make breakfast for me. And he’s been on his computer ignoring our toddler and me since then. A+.

Girl I would straight walk out and go find a coffee and bagel.

LOL I'm the PP whose husband forgot. I did this. Didn't make me feel better but got me out of the house for a bit.

<3

[Anonymous]

So many of you decided to marry incredibly poorly.

[Anonymous]

I wonder if these same guys also forget Christmas Day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My favorite day of the year! Let’s hear those stories ladies

I think there are dozen or so "my DH is an a$$" threads already

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry - buy yourself a curbside pickup necklace and ask DH to go get it.

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/italian-gold-polished-bar-18-pendant-necklace-in-14k-gold?ID=8423253&CategoryID=2904&bopsLocation=110

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My favorite day of the year! Let’s hear those stories ladies

I think there are dozen or so "my DH is an a$$" threads already

There weren't when this thread was started but some people just want to shine on their own

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid, made up holiday. If you care one iota about Mother’s Day you are an emotional infant. If you get upset about DH failing at Mother’s Day, you are toxic as well. (And you are not your DH’s mother in any event.)

Lol. That is my DHs excuse. How many others get...it's a made up holiday.

That's fine if you both agree - we don't do anything for Valentine's Day but we both agree that it's just not our thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cut out the middleman - the useless DH. I divorced him.

This morning, my kids woke up and wished me a Happy Mother's Day and said they loved me. We are relaxing and walking to get donuts for brunch. Later, we will get dressed up and take nice pics of the 3 of us. Go to the park. Cook homemade pizza. No man necessary.

Sounds like heaven. My kids made cards and pictures for me this year. That's all I want from them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if these same guys also forget Christmas Day?

Guess who does absolutely everything for everyone at Christmas? And guess who shows up to just enjoy it?

[Anonymous]

So last year I got exactly nothing for Mother's Day. Not a card, nothing from the kids, nada. I was upset - I mean, can't you even have the kids make a card or something? and later on got the guilt flowers from the grocery store.

This year, husband is working in another city, so we're not together. My kids stepped up and gave me nice cards and a picture from each. I got a phone call from my husband, that's it.

I have never been huge on gifts for Valentine's, Mother's Day, even our anniversary. I was tying to just chill out about it but then my mom sent a text saying she hoped I got some beautiful flowers. Well, I didn't. And of course I have always been the one that has taken on all the responsibility for sending my 7 nieces and nephews gifts, flowers or gifts for my mother in-law for her birthday, anniversary, Mother's Day. IF I didn't, my husband wouldn't even think about it.

I'm not sure it's worth me even telling him anything. But it just feels like crap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Second year in a row, he asked explicitly what I would like and then did NOT get it. And got something cheaper or uglier.

We need more details! With links! What did you ask for and what did he get?

Lol. Gladly. I asked for this: https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/evie-linen-shirt-summit-stripe/sty-w0753-blu?cat=C1_S2_G18 and/or this: https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/georgina-linen-top-white/sty-w0714-wht?cat=C1_S2_G18

Literally said, buy it soon because it will likely sell out. Spoiler: they sold out.

He got me ill fitting, cheaper, unflatting shirts from the mall only AFTER I lost it on him yesterday am when he said, "oh, you wanted a shirt or something for mother's day?" and it became apparent he had NOT ordered it or done jackshit of thought for the day. I didn't get breakfast or a break from the kiddo and instead was greeted with an attempt to supersede the plans we made to hang with mom to see MIL instead. Ofc I am happy to share the day with both grandmoms, but it makes me mad as HELL that I asked what he had planned for MIL, got no response and so proceeded to make plans days in advance.

Like, why ask if you aren't going to buy it? Men. Are. Trash. Just biding my time for an impending split at this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Second year in a row, he asked explicitly what I would like and then did NOT get it. And got something cheaper or uglier.

We need more details! With links! What did you ask for and what did he get?

Lol. Gladly. I asked for this: https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/evie-linen-shirt-summit-stripe/sty-w0753-blu?cat=C1_S2_G18 and/or this: https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/georgina-linen-top-white/sty-w0714-wht?cat=C1_S2_G18

Literally said, buy it soon because it will likely sell out. Spoiler: they sold out.

He got me ill fitting, cheaper, unflatting shirts from the mall only AFTER I lost it on him yesterday am when he said, "oh, you wanted a shirt or something for mother's day?" and it became apparent he had NOT ordered it or done jackshit of thought for the day. I didn't get breakfast or a break from the kiddo and instead was greeted with an attempt to supersede the plans we made to hang with mom to see MIL instead. Ofc I am happy to share the day with both grandmoms, but it makes me mad as HELL that I asked what he had planned for MIL, got no response and so proceeded to make plans days in advance.

Like, why ask if you aren't going to buy it? Men. Are. Trash. Just biding my time for an impending split at this point.

This is so weird to me. What difference does it make if he buys you the shirt you picked out? Why wouldn’t you just buy it yourself? He could write you a check.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Second year in a row, he asked explicitly what I would like and then did NOT get it. And got something cheaper or uglier.

We need more details! With links! What did you ask for and what did he get?

Lol. Gladly. I asked for this: https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/evie-linen-shirt-summit-stripe/sty-w0753-blu?cat=C1_S2_G18 and/or this: https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/georgina-linen-top-white/sty-w0714-wht?cat=C1_S2_G18

Literally said, buy it soon because it will likely sell out. Spoiler: they sold out.

He got me ill fitting, cheaper, unflatting shirts from the mall only AFTER I lost it on him yesterday am when he said, "oh, you wanted a shirt or something for mother's day?" and it became apparent he had NOT ordered it or done jackshit of thought for the day. I didn't get breakfast or a break from the kiddo and instead was greeted with an attempt to supersede the plans we made to hang with mom to see MIL instead. Ofc I am happy to share the day with both grandmoms, but it makes me mad as HELL that I asked what he had planned for MIL, got no response and so proceeded to make plans days in advance.

Like, why ask if you aren't going to buy it? Men. Are. Trash. Just biding my time for an impending split at this point.

This is so weird to me. What difference does it make if he buys you the shirt you picked out? Why wouldn’t you just buy it yourself? He could write you a check.

DP. Because HE ASKED.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many of you decided to marry incredibly poorly.

They didn't act like this when we were dating.