Four Children: All Living on Opposite Coast

[Anonymous]

So what do you make of this?: We have lovely neighbors (in Montgomery County) who have four very bright and normal children. All four of them have gone to colleges in California and each has settled there post-college. I find it odd...

[Anonymous]

Why? We have five. Three college grads. One in college. One senior in high school. Our oldest lives in Georgia. Our second in Colorado. Our third in Florida. Our fourth is in London. We see all of them several times a year. I miss them. But, I’m super proud of the independent young men and woman they have become.

[Anonymous]

Nothing odd about this, OP. Get a life so you don’t have to spend your time ruminating about nothing.

[Anonymous]

My @ss would be moving to the west coast.

[Anonymous]

What on earth is odd about this? Do you think kids should stay in their home towns? I think it’s odd that you think it’s odd.

[Anonymous]

CA is an ideal place to live and all the siblings are close. You sound like a busy body.

[Anonymous]

You find it odd that people prefer California to Montgomery County, Maryland? Have you not been to California? I ask this as someone who is quite happy to live in Bethesda and who adores her adopted state.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What on earth is odd about this? Do you think kids should stay in their home towns? I think it’s odd that you think it’s odd.

+1

[Anonymous]

Op, I find you odd

[Anonymous]

I find it quite normal to wonder about the odds of this happening and feeling a bit sad that all your kids live so far away.

Surprisingly, my young adult DD has been happy to remain in Montgomery County. Me too.

[Anonymous]

Your neighbors may be waiting to see if their kids are going to settle there (vs live there for a few years and then move back) before your neighbors decide if they want to move out there too. Or maybe they are content to not live near their kids. Either way it is not weird.

[Anonymous]

My mom has an uncle who has three kids. My uncle lived on Long Island and his three adult kids live in New Jersey, MA, and Europe. My mother always talked about how mean that uncle was incredibly cruel to them, and look how he drove his children away.

Well, my mom had two kids and her two adult kids both live across the country from HER in California. Hmmmm ....

[Anonymous]

A contrary opinion here. I don't find it odd, I guess, but I definitely find it sad. We also have four kids, all are out of college, and all four have settled right here. We're all very close, and it's awesome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why? We have five. Three college grads. One in college. One senior in high school. Our oldest lives in Georgia. Our second in Colorado. Our third in Florida. Our fourth is in London. We see all of them several times a year. I miss them. But, I’m super proud of the independent young men and woman they have become.

You do realize that you can have "independent young men and women" as adult children who also live nearby, right? It's called being a close family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why? We have five. Three college grads. One in college. One senior in high school. Our oldest lives in Georgia. Our second in Colorado. Our third in Florida. Our fourth is in London. We see all of them several times a year. I miss them. But, I’m super proud of the independent young men and woman they have become.

You do realize that you can have "independent young men and women" as adult children who also live nearby, right? It's called being a close family.

DP, but it’s often called having kids who are “not very independent”. May not be the case for your family, of course.