Let Wife Pick Name?

[Anonymous]

My wife and I are expecting our first child - a boy - very soon. My wife has fallen in love with one name and really wants it for our son. I don’t love it but I also don’t hate it. We had 5 names and then cut it down to 3. I prefer another name but she really wants one of the others on our list. He will have my middle name. Should I just let my wife name our son the name she likes?

Please excuse me if this not the correct section. I wasn’t sure where to post this.

[Anonymous]

If there's a name you both like I'd go with that even if it's not your or her first choice.

[Anonymous]

I would let her decide on which if the final three names to pick. That’s not “letting her decide” as you were involved in narrowing it down. And the baby will have your middle name.

But I do think I’m the case of a true tie (you both like all three names, you each have a favorite) the tie break goes to the person giving birth. That’s not a rule for parenting in general, just on the name issue.

Pregnancy/childbirth are hella hard. Give her this.

[Anonymous]

He's getting your middle name. It's in your top three. Of course, go ahead and let her have her top choice.

[Anonymous]

Depends. What are the names? So many people are picking the ugliest and weirdest names. I feel bad for the kids.

[Anonymous]

If this name was on the short list of three you both said you liked, and the baby is getting your middle name, then go with the name she loves. The whole point of making a short list is that all of the names on it are acceptable to both of you, so you’re not acting in good faith if you agree to have the name on the short list but then nix it because it’s not your favorite.

The other alternative is you get your preferred first name, but then let her choose a different middle name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends. What are the names? So many people are picking the ugliest and weirdest names. I feel bad for the kids.

OP here. This is a little rude. Names are Connor ( her pick), Owen, and Caleb ( my pick). Middle name will be Matthew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends. What are the names? So many people are picking the ugliest and weirdest names. I feel bad for the kids.

OP here. This is a little rude. Names are Connor ( her pick), Owen, and Caleb ( my pick). Middle name will be Matthew.

Of those three, I like Connor the least because I hate the stupid Americanised spelling. I don’t live in the US, but I do know many Irish from Ireland guys with that name, and they all spell it Conor. Connor is a surname or a cr8ive or trendy version. At least spell it right.

Owen is fine. Caleb is my favourite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends. What are the names? So many people are picking the ugliest and weirdest names. I feel bad for the kids.

OP here. This is a little rude. Names are Connor ( her pick), Owen, and Caleb ( my pick). Middle name will be Matthew.

Of those three, I like Connor the least because I hate the stupid Americanised spelling. I don’t live in the US, but I do know many Irish from Ireland guys with that name, and they all spell it Conor. Connor is a surname or a cr8ive or trendy version. At least spell it right.

Owen is fine. Caleb is my favourite.

OP here. We are both part Irish but we are American. Connor is the way it’s spelled her. There is no right or wrong way to spell it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends. What are the names? So many people are picking the ugliest and weirdest names. I feel bad for the kids.

OP here. This is a little rude. Names are Connor ( her pick), Owen, and Caleb ( my pick). Middle name will be Matthew.

Of those three, I like Connor the least because I hate the stupid Americanised spelling. I don’t live in the US, but I do know many Irish from Ireland guys with that name, and they all spell it Conor. Connor is a surname or a cr8ive or trendy version. At least spell it right.

Owen is fine. Caleb is my favourite.

This is incredibly rude. We’re in America - not Ireland. The guys didn’t “ spell it” their parents did. I hate when people say “ I spell my name this way”. No, your parents did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends. What are the names? So many people are picking the ugliest and weirdest names. I feel bad for the kids.

OP here. This is a little rude. Names are Connor ( her pick), Owen, and Caleb ( my pick). Middle name will be Matthew.

Of those three, I like Connor the least because I hate the stupid Americanised spelling. I don’t live in the US, but I do know many Irish from Ireland guys with that name, and they all spell it Conor. Connor is a surname or a cr8ive or trendy version. At least spell it right.

Owen is fine. Caleb is my favourite.

Dude, your opinion means nothing here. OP, since he’s getting your name as a middle and the name is in your top three, just go with it.

[Anonymous]

I’m guessing he’s getting your last name too?

Seems like if his last name will be your family name, and he will have your middle name, that it would be fair to give home your wife’s first choice for first name, which has been pre-approved and vetted by you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing he’s getting your last name too?

Seems like if his last name will be your family name, and he will have your middle name, that it would be fair to give home your wife’s first choice for first name, which has been pre-approved and vetted by you.

Haha. Good one PP. So typical of men not to realize how much of life is really already default on their terms and how even the concession they think is really an important loss for them is actually just a minor thing when seen in the context of their whole power.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing he’s getting your last name too?

Seems like if his last name will be your family name, and he will have your middle name, that it would be fair to give home your wife’s first choice for first name, which has been pre-approved and vetted by you.

+1

Also, apologize to your wife for digging in on this. He’s getting 2/3 names of your selection and she’s doing all the work right now. Plus Connor is a nice name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing he’s getting your last name too?

Seems like if his last name will be your family name, and he will have your middle name, that it would be fair to give home your wife’s first choice for first name, which has been pre-approved and vetted by you.

OP here. He is getting my last name.