Let Wife Pick Name?

[Anonymous]

I assume you let your wife carry the baby in her body and rip her vagina during the delivery while she might die in the process while you are taking all that risk of watching her from the sidelines? So, fair is fair.. you "let" her pick that name and you are "even"!.

[Anonymous]

Caleb, Connor, Owen - they all pretty much sound the same. Let her pick Connor if she prefers it. Let me guess, the other names on your list were Patrick and Andrew. You sound very traditional but that’s fine. Nothing wrong with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Caleb, Connor, Owen - they all pretty much sound the same. Let her pick Connor if she prefers it. Let me guess, the other names on your list were Patrick and Andrew. You sound very traditional but that’s fine. Nothing wrong with that.

OP here. We are very traditional with names. The other names in our list were Colin and Graham. We will be going with Connor or using the suggestion from pp and waiting until we see him to pick a name. It will be her decision.

For those saying I’m sexist - nope. My wife chose his middle name. It is my middle name but she likes it. She is the one who suggested we use it for his middle name. It wouldn’t matter to me if he has my middle name. I like all of that names.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Caleb, Connor, Owen - they all pretty much sound the same. Let her pick Connor if she prefers it. Let me guess, the other names on your list were Patrick and Andrew. You sound very traditional but that’s fine. Nothing wrong with that.

OP here. We are very traditional with names. The other names in our list were Colin and Graham. We will be going with Connor or using the suggestion from pp and waiting until we see him to pick a name. It will be her decision.

For those saying I’m sexist - nope. My wife chose his middle name. It is my middle name but she likes it. She is the one who suggested we use it for his middle name. It wouldn’t matter to me if he has my middle name. I like all of that names.

Op, I was one of the more critical posters up thread but just wanted to say I think it’s great that you seem to have genuinely listened to people’s input and been willing to adjust your stance (unlike so many who just come to the site looking to validate their own POV). You seem like a good guy. Best of luck to you and your wife with the baby!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The psychic energy of both names is really similar; even though you like different names, your choices reveal that your wife are perfectly suited to each other, on the same spiritual plane.

Huh?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find it interesting that OP came back to answer a few factual questions, but has not otherwise engaged on the opinions expressed here. I guess we’re not useful if we’re not agreeing with him.

OP here. I got distracted and have been able to check this the last couple of hours. It has nothing to do with not agreeing. I asked the question for this reason. I didn’t see it from the point of view of him getting my middle name or last name. My last name is hers too so he will be gettin our last name. She suggested we name use my middle name for his middle name because she likes it. I would be fine if she didn’t want to use my middle name. I will go ahead and go with her choice.

How about Connor Caleb instead of Connor Matthew? You both get your #1 pick in.

[Anonymous]

We narrowed down our top two favorite names to Ella and Sophia. DH said he'd let me decide. When we saw the baby, DH immediately said baby looked like Ella. So we went with Ella.

Perhaps a name will feel like it fits better after you see your baby.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Depends. What are the names? So many people are picking the ugliest and weirdest names. I feel bad for the kids.

OP here. This is a little rude. Names are Connor ( her pick), Owen, and Caleb ( my pick). Middle name will be Matthew.

Of those three, I like Connor the least because I hate the stupid Americanised spelling. I don’t live in the US, but I do know many Irish from Ireland guys with that name, and they all spell it Conor. Connor is a surname or a cr8ive or trendy version. At least spell it right.

Owen is fine. Caleb is my favourite.

OP here. We are both part Irish but we are American. Connor is the way it’s spelled her. There is no right or wrong way to spell it.

All 3 are trendy names that blend into the crowd. I think Owen Matthew doesn't flow as well as Connor or Caleb. I'm happy to be Greek, our kids' names are known on our wedding day!

[Anonymous]

Connor is stronger than Caleb.

[Anonymous]

OP, generally my position is that since children will (I assume) have your last name, you should let your wife pick their first names. Otherwise it's a bit much that she's doing all the work carrying and birthing the kid, and doesn't have any input into ANY of their names.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find it interesting that OP came back to answer a few factual questions, but has not otherwise engaged on the opinions expressed here. I guess we’re not useful if we’re not agreeing with him.

OP here. I got distracted and have been able to check this the last couple of hours. It has nothing to do with not agreeing. I asked the question for this reason. I didn’t see it from the point of view of him getting my middle name or last name. My last name is hers too so he will be gettin our last name. She suggested we name use my middle name for his middle name because she likes it. I would be fine if she didn’t want to use my middle name. I will go ahead and go with her choice.

How about Connor Caleb instead of Connor Matthew? You both get your #1 pick in.

Connor Caleb is terrible. It doesn’t flow at all.

[Anonymous]

Conner Matthew is the best name of the three.

And I am sure when your baby boy grows up - he will agree❣️

I vote go w/this name.

[Anonymous]

Decide in the hospital after you meet the baby. Have your short list ready, but just wait. There's no rule saying you have to decide before the baby is born. You both may look at your son and say, "He's not a Connor, he's a Caleb," or whatever. If you still don't 100% agree, let her decide. The kid is getting your last name. She's been putting-in 99% of the work during the pregnancy.