Let Wife Pick Name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Obviously it’s not weird for a child to get his father’s surname. It’s just that is one more way that the name of the child is impacted by the father. It shouldn’t matter much, but ask men how they feel about their child getting the mothers last name (or maiden name) instead of his, and a lot of men feel uncomfortable with the idea.

Yep, the fact that men just assume their child will have their last name and then on top of that expect equal say in the first name is just another example of male privilege- but that doesn’t mean that things won’t change.

[Anonymous]

Her preference of her chosen name is stronger than yours, and you don't hate it. Let she makes her pick. Tell her that you get to choose a name for the second child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find it interesting that OP came back to answer a few factual questions, but has not otherwise engaged on the opinions expressed here. I guess we’re not useful if we’re not agreeing with him.

OP here. I got distracted and have been able to check this the last couple of hours. It has nothing to do with not agreeing. I asked the question for this reason. I didn’t see it from the point of view of him getting my middle name or last name. My last name is hers too so he will be gettin our last name. She suggested we name use my middle name for his middle name because she likes it. I would be fine if she didn’t want to use my middle name. I will go ahead and go with her choice.

I'm glad you decided this - it will be supportive of your wife and make her feel like you value her preferences. Plus Connor is the best name of the three!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My wife and I are expecting our first child - a boy - very soon. My wife has fallen in love with one name and really wants it for our son. I don’t love it but I also don’t hate it. We had 5 names and then cut it down to 3. I prefer another name but she really wants one of the others on our list. He will have my middle name. Should I just let my wife name our son the name she likes?

Please excuse me if this not the correct section. I wasn’t sure where to post this.

Is your son getting your last name? If so, given you don't hate it than let your wife choose. Can you share what the name is?

OP here. He will be getting my last name. She has my last name too. The name she loves in Connor. We are also considering Owen and Caleb. His middle name will be Matthew.

[Anonymous]

Wow, so the baby is getting your last name (NOT normal anymore, these days it's split and more women are choosing to give the baby their last name), your middle name, AND you want to choose the first name as well instead of something that is in your top 3?

Holy moly.

Do you know that she can legally give her baby any name she likes, including the first name, middle name and last name, and there's not a single thing you can do about it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are people talking about the child getting OPs last name? This is super common. Almost all babies get their dads last name. This is not a new concept.

Just because it’s common doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be questioned and credited if the mother agrees to it. It is not a given. I’m a married woman and my child took my last name. His first name is a name important to my family and his middle is his father and paternal grandfather’s middle. We had equal say in all of those choices. Since he carries my last name, though, I gave him final call in any first name that I didn’t veto.

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Anonymous wrote:Depends. What are the names? So many people are picking the ugliest and weirdest names. I feel bad for the kids.

OP here. This is a little rude. Names are Connor ( her pick), Owen, and Caleb ( my pick). Middle name will be Matthew.

Owen is terrible. I've never met a well-behaved Caleb. Connor is the best choice here. If it's one of your top five, you should let her pick from those. It's not like she's trying to go rogue and name the kid Augustus or something.

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Anonymous wrote:Depends. What are the names? So many people are picking the ugliest and weirdest names. I feel bad for the kids.

OP here. This is a little rude. Names are Connor ( her pick), Owen, and Caleb ( my pick). Middle name will be Matthew.

Owen is terrible. I've never met a well-behaved Caleb. Connor is the best choice here. If it's one of your top five, you should let her pick from those. It's not like she's trying to go rogue and name the kid Augustus or something.

PP here. I think Owen is the nest of all of these but my opinion is irrelevant, as is yours. The mom strongly prefers Connor. (I’m on team 1-n Conor myself.)

[Anonymous]

The psychic energy of both names is really similar; even though you like different names, your choices reveal that your wife are perfectly suited to each other, on the same spiritual plane.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Depends. What are the names? So many people are picking the ugliest and weirdest names. I feel bad for the kids.

OP here. This is a little rude. Names are Connor ( her pick), Owen, and Caleb ( my pick). Middle name will be Matthew.

Owen is terrible. I've never met a well-behaved Caleb. Connor is the best choice here. If it's one of your top five, you should let her pick from those. It's not like she's trying to go rogue and name the kid Augustus or something.

OP here. Well people have different opinions. We both like Owen. A name has little to do with a kids behavior. It’s the parent, not the name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The psychic energy of both names is really similar; even though you like different names, your choices reveal that your wife are perfectly suited to each other, on the same spiritual plane.

Psychics are scams.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Depends. What are the names? So many people are picking the ugliest and weirdest names. I feel bad for the kids.

OP here. This is a little rude. Names are Connor ( her pick), Owen, and Caleb ( my pick). Middle name will be Matthew.

Owen is terrible. I've never met a well-behaved Caleb. Connor is the best choice here. If it's one of your top five, you should let her pick from those. It's not like she's trying to go rogue and name the kid Augustus or something.

OP here. Well people have different opinions. We both like Owen. A name has little to do with a kids behavior. It’s the parent, not the name.

Lol. Okay, Matt.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Depends. What are the names? So many people are picking the ugliest and weirdest names. I feel bad for the kids.

OP here. This is a little rude. Names are Connor ( her pick), Owen, and Caleb ( my pick). Middle name will be Matthew.

Owen is terrible. I've never met a well-behaved Caleb. Connor is the best choice here. If it's one of your top five, you should let her pick from those. It's not like she's trying to go rogue and name the kid Augustus or something.

This is really rude. OP asked about letting his wife pick the name, not whether you like the name. Keep you opinions to yourself. No one cares what you think about the names.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Depends. What are the names? So many people are picking the ugliest and weirdest names. I feel bad for the kids.

OP here. This is a little rude. Names are Connor ( her pick), Owen, and Caleb ( my pick). Middle name will be Matthew.

Owen is terrible. I've never met a well-behaved Caleb. Connor is the best choice here. If it's one of your top five, you should let her pick from those. It's not like she's trying to go rogue and name the kid Augustus or something.

OP here. Well people have different opinions. We both like Owen. A name has little to do with a kids behavior. It’s the parent, not the name.

Lol. Okay, Matt.

It’s true. Names mean nothing. You’re naive if you think a name dictates a child’s behavior. What a moron.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find it interesting that OP came back to answer a few factual questions, but has not otherwise engaged on the opinions expressed here. I guess we’re not useful if we’re not agreeing with him.

OP here. I got distracted and have been able to check this the last couple of hours. It has nothing to do with not agreeing. I asked the question for this reason. I didn’t see it from the point of view of him getting my middle name or last name. My last name is hers too so he will be gettin our last name. She suggested we name use my middle name for his middle name because she likes it. I would be fine if she didn’t want to use my middle name. I will go ahead and go with her choice.

You knew what we were asking so don't pretend. Your wife changed her name to your last name, no big deal and lots of women do it but, it is originally your last name.