How many dates before sex is reasonable?
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Anonymous
| Not sure if age matters for this and know it varies by person, but is it crazy to ask a girl back to my place after the first date if it’s going well? Feels risky, but I don’t personally have any hang ups around it. And I’m definitely someone that really values chemistry in the bedroom. |
Anonymous
| I think that is a standard question most women get asked after a good first date and wouldn't be off putting. Those who feel comfortable will accept, and those who don't will decline. However if you explicitly want to be perceived as a "gentleman" you may want to wait until the second date. |
Anonymous
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You can ask.
I would not go, and it would probably turn me off a bit, unless it had been one of my best dates ever. Seems like the guy just wants to get in your pants. Which is not very personal or flattering. |
Anonymous
| When everyone is comfortable and consenting. Sometimes that's the first date, sometimes that's the fifth date. |
Anonymous
| Second date feels like the safest overall option. |
Anonymous
| Don't ask on the first date. Just show the tiniest bit of giving a shit about her as a person rather than another notch on your bedpost. Unless you met by BOTH advertising that you're just looking to hook up or for FWB. |
Anonymous
| I've been told by women of the 3 day minimum rule but most women I've been with had sex with me on the first real date, almost all the rest by the second. Just my experience. You can always try. Follow her lead. While you may not know if you're going to have sex that nigjt, she knows for certain. That's a fact. |
Anonymous
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During the date, start creating a reason to go back to your place. For example, talk about a trip you went on, and you have some cool souvenir or photos back at your place. Or some kind of special drink/food that is hard to get but you have some.
This way, she has an excuse to come back and it's not just for sex. Now, if that happens once there, that's fine, but it gives her a reason to go back and still seem like a "good girl". In my day, I even managed to pull this off when the Nintendo Wii was new and I had one before anyone else had seen it. Amazing what a game of virtual tennis can lead to! If you want an easy one, go track down a bottle of Nouveau Beaujolais. It has a story behind it. It's actually just an average wine, but it's got a good story and can be hard to find, so build it up and she may want to come back to try it. |
Anonymous
Aren't you the stud (or so you think). |
Anonymous
| During my dating years I really appreciated the guys who left it up to me to make the move. I never responded well to pressure which I found to be a real turnoff. My now DH and I had been good friends for a couple of years and our first date was at a party at his house. After everyone had left and while helping him clean up the kitchen I asked what he had in the refrigerator for breakfast. The look on his face was priceless. |
Anonymous
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Depends on the situation. DH and I were long-distance friends for a couple of years before we started dating.
He flew out to visit me and we had sex the first night he was there. We’ve been married for 6.5 years. But in situations where I didn’t know the guy before the first date, no — I wouldn’t sleep with him that night. |
Anonymous
| Play the nice guy role. Eventually, sleep with her then move on to your next victim. |
Anonymous
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How many times are people going to ask this freaking question?
If you have to crowdsource you shouldn't be having sex at all ever! |
Anonymous
| 1 |
Anonymous
| That would turn me off. I’d presume he was sleeping around a lot. Wait till at least the second or third to take things inside |