How many dates before sex is reasonable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can ask.

I would not go, and it would probably turn me off a bit, unless it had been one of my best dates ever.

Seems like the guy just wants to get in your pants. Which is not very personal or flattering.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been told by women of the 3 day minimum rule but most women I've been with had sex with me on the first real date, almost all the rest by the second. Just my experience. You can always try. Follow her lead. While you may not know if you're going to have sex that nigjt, she knows for certain. That's a fact.

You sound like someone with STDs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Need to wait at least 5-10 dates. Anything less and I presume you are a promiscuous man and will likely have an STD.

+1

36 hours of conversation.

https://www.iflscience.com/how-long-should-couples-in-relationships-wait-before-getting-intimate-70897

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dated a lot until tying the knot two years ago at 35. I never pursued it on a first date, always did on the second date, and never kept dating any woman who kept me waiting by the fourth date. Honestly would be worried about the hang-ups in someone’s psyche that they think sex is so complicated and special that they need 5+ dates as an adult to decide to do it.

Some people actually prefer to know the person they're having sex with rather than just using them to satisfy their horniness.

+1

For some people, sex is special.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Need to wait at least 5-10 dates. Anything less and I presume you are a promiscuous man and will likely have an STD.

exactly—likely STD, plus inpatient and impulsive. Terrible qualities in a long term partner. Complete deal breaker.

75% of Americans have been exposed to HPV and over 50% for herpes. You're likely to be exposed even among those who wait.

I’m 50 and no to both. I don’t have with strangers. Don’t people even test for stds first?

I had approximately 25 partners before getting married at 36 in 2003. Only one them ever asked me to get tested before having sex (with a condom.)

That's gross. Ew.

[Anonymous]

Guy here; as long as it takes to establish we aren’t seeking or investing time with other partners.

[Anonymous]

From experience women come in into a date and swear they won't have sex. But when they are really into you they can't wait to f**k you..Believe it or not if a man is into you if he decides to wait he will wait. But a woman who decided to wait just cant have the self restraint when she is so much into the guy. There are exceptions of course. But a lot have zero self restraints. Worse if you tell them the right things that speed up the process even faster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From experience women come in into a date and swear they won't have sex. But when they are really into you they can't wait to f**k you..Believe it or not if a man is into you if he decides to wait he will wait. But a woman who decided to wait just cant have the self restraint when she is so much into the guy. There are exceptions of course. But a lot have zero self restraints. Worse if you tell them the right things that speed up the process even faster.

Don’t speak for all women. Sexual behaviors don’t change throughout life. If she sleeps with you on a second date, she did it with 29 others before.

You are not that exceptional. Most men are not exceptional. I only met/dated one man who was and I couldn’t wait for sex. He was extremely attractive looking like Sean Connery in his prime, and mega educated and wealthy. I didn’t sleep with him on a 2nd date either. It happened about a month in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure if age matters for this and know it varies by person, but is it crazy to ask a girl back to my place after the first date if it’s going well? Feels risky, but I don’t personally have any hang ups around it. And I’m definitely someone that really values chemistry in the bedroom.

There's nothing wrong with making your needs heard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here; as long as it takes to establish we aren’t seeking or investing time with other partners.

This for me.

I would assume if someone went for that on the first date that they weren’t interested in a relationship. In my experience it takes time to talk things out and see if you’re compatible. I’m not really interested in casual hook ups that don’t lead to something lasting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:From experience women come in into a date and swear they won't have sex. But when they are really into you they can't wait to f**k you..Believe it or not if a man is into you if he decides to wait he will wait. But a woman who decided to wait just cant have the self restraint when she is so much into the guy. There are exceptions of course. But a lot have zero self restraints. Worse if you tell them the right things that speed up the process even faster.

Don’t speak for all women. Sexual behaviors don’t change throughout life. If she sleeps with you on a second date, she did it with 29 others before.

You are not that exceptional. Most men are not exceptional. I only met/dated one man who was and I couldn’t wait for sex. He was extremely attractive looking like Sean Connery in his prime, and mega educated and wealthy. I didn’t sleep with him on a 2nd date either. It happened about a month in.

Do you know how to read lady. He said of course there are exceptions. Geez

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure if age matters for this and know it varies by person, but is it crazy to ask a girl back to my place after the first date if it’s going well? Feels risky, but I don’t personally have any hang ups around it. And I’m definitely someone that really values chemistry in the bedroom.

There's nothing wrong with making your needs heard.

I would think a guy is a ho. If he offered to cook a dinner for me on date 3, I would accept the invite but tell ahead of time no sex is planned. I would undress though and have a physical makeout session

[Anonymous]

How can anyone respect or trust a man or a woman who initiates or agrees to sex on first dates?

[Anonymous]

How much you really know about someone on a first date to be this comfortable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not sure if age matters for this and know it varies by person, but is it crazy to ask a girl back to my place after the first date if it’s going well? Feels risky, but I don’t personally have any hang ups around it. And I’m definitely someone that really values chemistry in the bedroom.

There's nothing wrong with making your needs heard.

I would think a guy is a ho. If he offered to cook a dinner for me on date 3, I would accept the invite but tell ahead of time no sex is planned. I would undress though and have a physical makeout session

Undress and make out without having sex?