How many dates before sex is reasonable?

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Anonymous wrote:I've learned that women in their 20s will sleep with you on the first date if they plan to see you again and women in their 30s won't sleep with you if they plan to see you again.

See how fast we learn

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Anonymous wrote:Sex on the first date? What alternative reality do I live in? I haven’t had sex for seven years! The few dates I am fortunate to go on it seems like the women are heading for the exit as soon as we sit down. Thanks for the fantasy though.

What happens on these dates? Either you have feet in your mouth or you are giving off some ick. Give us a play by play

PP should try one of those Instagram dating coaches.

Or at least view all their posts for free.

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Anonymous wrote:Dated a lot until tying the knot two years ago at 35. I never pursued it on a first date, always did on the second date, and never kept dating any woman who kept me waiting by the fourth date. Honestly would be worried about the hang-ups in someone’s psyche that they think sex is so complicated and special that they need 5+ dates as an adult to decide to do it.

Some people actually prefer to know the person they're having sex with rather than just using them to satisfy their horniness.

+1

For some people, sex is special.

That’s fine, and great for them! For others of us, it’s just a pleasurable activity. I don’t attach any emotional meaning to it. I obviously have to like the dude and feel safe with him, but it doesn’t have a lot of significance.

Even in a relationship?

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I'm a 4-date gal myself. Real full dates with a lot of face-to-face talking; enjoying common interests like ice skating or skiing; not sitting in a movie theater not communicating.

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After years of dating I know that I like to have sex on date 3. I really hate to say this but if a guy does not have a large penis I am not interested. Why fake it and waste one's time? I am not opposed to the friend category if we have common interests.

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure if age matters for this and know it varies by person, but is it crazy to ask a girl back to my place after the first date if it’s going well? Feels risky, but I don’t personally have any hang ups around it. And I’m definitely someone that really values chemistry in the bedroom.

You should try on the first date. She may decline but you should try. It will show your assertiveness and make your intentions clear. If you don’t try, she will put you in the “nice guy” bucket and friend-zone you.

Very true. It’s very important to create some sexual tension on the first date. This is a clear signal that you aren’t just interested in a friendship. Women like this type of confident men.

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I was a virgin until I was 21 and still very much a prude after that so it took plenty of dates before I was willing to have sex. Looking back I regret my hesitancy especially while in college as I missed out on a lot of fun. I had sex with my now husband on our first date as I had known him for awhile and I just decided to go for it. I definitely was the aggressor which I’m sure surprised him.

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Anonymous wrote:I've been told by women of the 3 day minimum rule but most women I've been with had sex with me on the first real date, almost all the rest by the second. Just my experience. You can always try. Follow her lead. While you may not know if you're going to have sex that nigjt, she knows for certain. That's a fact.

You sound like someone with STDs.

That's my post from 4 years ago and no, I've never had an STD. Believe it or not, some of us know how to have an active sex life and not contract a disease. You sound like a bitter married harpy who can't stand that thought of other people having a healthy, active sex life so all sex to you = disease. I'll bet you;ve posted some version of that same message in many threads going back, haven't you?

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure if age matters for this and know it varies by person, but is it crazy to ask a girl back to my place after the first date if it’s going well? Feels risky, but I don’t personally have any hang ups around it. And I’m definitely someone that really values chemistry in the bedroom.

There's nothing wrong with making your needs heard.

I would think a guy is a ho. If he offered to cook a dinner for me on date 3, I would accept the invite but tell ahead of time no sex is planned. I would undress though and have a physical makeout session

Undress and make out without having sex?

Not fully undress but I would let him touch me through underwear if I really liked the guy. Maybe touch him myself. Some men might get disappointed that the deed didn't happen, but most understand that you like him. I raise a question of STI testing if that happens and let him know it's preferable to have available for future few dates

I'm a man and I think that is really hot. Just making out is hot and full of sexual tension. The sex can wait until another date while we get to know each other and build that tension some more. Probably some equally hot conversation or texts until then.

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure if age matters for this and know it varies by person, but is it crazy to ask a girl back to my place after the first date if it’s going well? Feels risky, but I don’t personally have any hang ups around it. And I’m definitely someone that really values chemistry in the bedroom.

There's nothing wrong with making your needs heard.

I would think a guy is a ho. If he offered to cook a dinner for me on date 3, I would accept the invite but tell ahead of time no sex is planned. I would undress though and have a physical makeout session

What would you like for dinner? It will be cooked on a charcoal grill. Eat outside if it's nice weather.

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Anonymous wrote:I've been told by women of the 3 day minimum rule but most women I've been with had sex with me on the first real date, almost all the rest by the second. Just my experience. You can always try. Follow her lead. While you may not know if you're going to have sex that nigjt, she knows for certain. That's a fact.

You sound like someone with STDs.

That's my post from 4 years ago and no, I've never had an STD. Believe it or not, some of us know how to have an active sex life and not contract a disease. You sound like a bitter married harpy who can't stand the thought of other people having a healthy, active sex life so all sex to you means disease. I'll bet you've posted some version of that same message in many threads going back, haven't you?

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I took metro to meet a woman for the first date. She offered to drive me home, I accepted and invited her in. She accepted and we had sex that night.

We're still married 25 years later.

Moral of the story, there's no hard and fast rule--some people like to wait a couple of dates, some are ready to go on the first date.

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Anonymous wrote:After years of dating I know that I like to have sex on date 3. I really hate to say this but if a guy does not have a large penis I am not interested. Why fake it and waste one's time? I am not opposed to the friend category if we have common interests.

What is the minimum you will accept, literally and figuratively?

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Anonymous wrote:After years of dating I know that I like to have sex on date 3. I really hate to say this but if a guy does not have a large penis I am not interested. Why fake it and waste one's time? I am not opposed to the friend category if we have common interests.

I'm curious about this. Is it physical (small or medium can't satisfy you) or psychological (you only crave large men because the large size makes you feel certain emotions)?