I haven't heard from my boyfriend since Friday night

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn! Jeff just called you out!

No, he did not call me out at all. Someone mentioned it in the beginning and I said that was the same person....

but in February you had been with this guy for two months... two months later and you jumped to six? And in that thread you were very suspicious of his behavior but it didn't occur to you until way into this thread that he was lying? I am really confused now, how did you work things out with him in February so much so that you believed the hunting trip? In that thread you weren't even certain you had his real name?

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn! Jeff just called you out!

No, he did not call me out at all. Someone mentioned it in the beginning and I said that was the same person....

I didn't read the first many pages of the thread. If you haven't already, can you update us on what happened between your finding out he was lying to you and now?

Look at Jeff, being active on a thread that's not Political! Even our Mighty Overlord can't resist being part of the crazy that is this thread.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:OP,

Didn't you start this thread as well?

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/446821.page

It looks like this may not be the first time you have had issues with this guy.

OP this is you?! I remember that thread. Sounds like disappearing for long periods of time is exactly what he does.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Someone on the other thread gave you great advice months ago which applies even more today:

"OP if you really want to get something valuable out of this experience then you should ask yourself what you are doing to contribute to this situation that is self-destructive.

I am saying this to be helpful, not critical. You sound like you are very intense and a bit smothering. That doesn't negate all of the crappy stuff this guy did, he's obviously a complete jerk and you should move on. But you also have played a part by expecting 24 hour attention and now wanting to keep engaging with him by basically stalking him.

Let it go. Move on. You are worth much more than this. Continuing to engage with this creep isn't dignified."

He was showing you his true colors months ago.
And by the way I have read every word of these 60+ pages and you never said anything about the other thread. This was highly relevant info.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn! Jeff just called you out!

No, he did not call me out at all. Someone mentioned it in the beginning and I said that was the same person....

I didn't read the first many pages of the thread. If you haven't already, can you update us on what happened between your finding out he was lying to you and now?

OP here: Sure, I did find out he was lying to me about job stuff in the beginning and he did put his online profile back up after we got into a huge fight. I called him out on everything and he didn't deny it and ended up admitting the truth about work and some family things. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and we continued talking for about 3 weeks as just friends and then he ended up coming back to visit me and we spent a long weekend just talking about EVERYTHING and decided to give it another try. Once we made that decision, things have been AMAZING. I haven't questioned him at all, he's been here to visit me multiple times as I have also gone up there. He met my best friend and my family and I met his 2 best friends and his uncle. So for the last month+, things have been great until this past weekend when he just disappeared. This was not a troll post by me at all, I truly did think something happened until some PP's started doing some deep digging for me and now I'm sitting here questioning everything....again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Someone on the other thread gave you great advice months ago which applies even more today:

"OP if you really want to get something valuable out of this experience then you should ask yourself what you are doing to contribute to this situation that is self-destructive.

I am saying this to be helpful, not critical. You sound like you are very intense and a bit smothering. That doesn't negate all of the crappy stuff this guy did, he's obviously a complete jerk and you should move on. But you also have played a part by expecting 24 hour attention and now wanting to keep engaging with him by basically stalking him.

Let it go. Move on. You are worth much more than this. Continuing to engage with this creep isn't dignified."

He was showing you his true colors months ago.
And by the way I have read every word of these 60+ pages and you never said anything about the other thread. This was highly relevant info.

+ a million

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Someone on the other thread gave you great advice months ago which applies even more today:

"OP if you really want to get something valuable out of this experience then you should ask yourself what you are doing to contribute to this situation that is self-destructive.

I am saying this to be helpful, not critical. You sound like you are very intense and a bit smothering. That doesn't negate all of the crappy stuff this guy did, he's obviously a complete jerk and you should move on. But you also have played a part by expecting 24 hour attention and now wanting to keep engaging with him by basically stalking him.

Let it go. Move on. You are worth much more than this. Continuing to engage with this creep isn't dignified."

He was showing you his true colors months ago. And by the way I have read every word of these 60+ pages and you never said anything about the other thread. This was highly relevant info.

when someone shows you who they are, believe them.

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn! Jeff just called you out!

No, he did not call me out at all. Someone mentioned it in the beginning and I said that was the same person....

I didn't read the first many pages of the thread. If you haven't already, can you update us on what happened between your finding out he was lying to you and now?

Look at Jeff, being active on a thread that's not Political! Even our Mighty Overlord can't resist being part of the crazy that is this thread.

I'm totally hooked. I have other stuff to do and I can't get away from this thread. I might have to lock it just so I can get my other stuff done.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:OP,

Didn't you start this thread as well?

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/446821.page

It looks like this may not be the first time you have had issues with this guy.

This is like an episode of Catfish.

[Anonymous]

Lol. OP you are hopeless.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn! Jeff just called you out!

No, he did not call me out at all. Someone mentioned it in the beginning and I said that was the same person....

I didn't read the first many pages of the thread. If you haven't already, can you update us on what happened between your finding out he was lying to you and now?

Look at Jeff, being active on a thread that's not Political! Even our Mighty Overlord can't resist being part of the crazy that is this thread.

I'm totally hooked. I have other stuff to do and I can't get away from this thread. I might have to lock it just so I can get my other stuff done.

Don't you dare lock it! I've spent so much time reading the whole thing. I'm invested and really want to know what happens when she finally gets ahold of him!

[Anonymous]

OP Here: I still really don't appreciate the people acting like it's one big joke and that this is all hysterical and fully because to me, it's not. Whether people care or not, this still was 6 months of my life with a guy that I did fall in love with. He gave NO INDICATION that anything was wrong with us and what's worse is that the last month has been AMAZING. We don't fight, we video chat every other night, things have been great. So when he told me he was going to Maine and would text me Sunday night and I didn't hear from him, I truly did believe something happened. Maybe I am too trusting or whatever but I really lost sleep over worrying about him. Now, I have no idea what to think or what to believe but this still is messing with my head big time and the posters who think this is funny....just no.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP. The red flag to me was the online relationship. Most of these idiots claim to be only children, often with parents who are dead (so that you don't expect to meet any of the family).

I also think that hunting bobcats is probably a reference to hunting a "cougar". I suspect he was with another woman, probably older this weekend.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:OP,

Didn't you start this thread as well?

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/446821.page

It looks like this may not be the first time you have had issues with this guy.

BOOOOOOOM!!!

[Anonymous]

This was not a troll post by me at all, I truly did think something happened until some PP's started doing some deep digging for me and now I'm sitting here questioning everything....again

The time for questioning is over. You have your answers, you just don't want to accept them. Time to move on.